Best schools for a non-partier girl

[Anonymous]

I agree with W&M based upon kids I know that have attended. On a personal level I have 2 kids that attend larger flagship universities and one is a parter and one is not. They both found people and are loving their experiences at the larger universities.

[Anonymous]

Probably not a popular opinion here but she might benefit from a little mainstream socializing. Not saying she needs to get under the keg or become Blutarsky but partying can be, you know, fun. Lighten up, have some fun. It’s college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Probably not a popular opinion here but she might benefit from a little mainstream socializing. Not saying she needs to get under the keg or become Blutarsky but partying can be, you know, fun. Lighten up, have some fun. It’s college.

Hmm... how about the girl decides that. Not you. Would you encourage her to get sexually active too “because it is college and supposed to be fun.”

And college is for getting an education and learning how to adult. Many more adults don’t drink than do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Probably not a popular opinion here but she might benefit from a little mainstream socializing. Not saying she needs to get under the keg or become Blutarsky but partying can be, you know, fun. Lighten up, have some fun. It’s college.

Hmm... how about the girl decides that. Not you. Would you encourage her to get sexually active too “because it is college and supposed to be fun.”

And college is for getting an education and learning how to adult. Many more adults don’t drink than do.

Wow, what a disconnect between my words and your reaction. Point me to where I said she shouldn’t decide. I’m suggesting that there are benefits to developing socially, that she might be nervous or shy and could thereby benefit from participating. I was intimidated by the college social scene and it took some time to come out of my shell. It helped me, ultimately, (after a year of hiding in the library on weekend nights) and had I been somewhere where it could be avoided completely it would have pushed that further down the road. And you can party without drinking. Or did you not realize that? Another you issue.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Probably not a popular opinion here but she might benefit from a little mainstream socializing. Not saying she needs to get under the keg or become Blutarsky but partying can be, you know, fun. Lighten up, have some fun. It’s college.

Hmm... how about the girl decides that. Not you. Would you encourage her to get sexually active too “because it is college and supposed to be fun.”

And college is for getting an education and learning how to adult. Many more adults don’t drink than do.

Wow, what a disconnect between my words and your reaction. Point me to where I said she shouldn’t decide. I’m suggesting that there are benefits to developing socially, that she might be nervous or shy and could thereby benefit from participating. I was intimidated by the college social scene and it took some time to come out of my shell. It helped me, ultimately, (after a year of hiding in the library on weekend nights) and had I been somewhere where it could be avoided completely it would have pushed that further down the road. And you can party without drinking. Or did you not realize that? Another you issue.

+1. Absurd overreaction. My diffident daughter was begged by her friends to go to homecoming and she eventually relented. It was terrifying for her, occasionally awkward, but she had fun. Some kids got wasted, others did not. She found a way through that felt good and grew as a result.

Also, “many more adults don’t drink than do” is factually inaccurate, so your post is off base on all counts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Probably not a popular opinion here but she might benefit from a little mainstream socializing. Not saying she needs to get under the keg or become Blutarsky but partying can be, you know, fun. Lighten up, have some fun. It’s college.

Hmm... how about the girl decides that. Not you. Would you encourage her to get sexually active too “because it is college and supposed to be fun.”

And college is for getting an education and learning how to adult. Many more adults don’t drink than do.

Agree. The rest of the world treats college than no more than getting a degree. They don't care about your EC's or have sports teams or anything else. It is school.

People that treat college as a time to "lighten up" usually are taking easy courses, failing out, or have the wrong values of what college is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Probably not a popular opinion here but she might benefit from a little mainstream socializing. Not saying she needs to get under the keg or become Blutarsky but partying can be, you know, fun. Lighten up, have some fun. It’s college.

Hmm... how about the girl decides that. Not you. Would you encourage her to get sexually active too “because it is college and supposed to be fun.”

And college is for getting an education and learning how to adult. Many more adults don’t drink than do.

Agree. The rest of the world treats college than no more than getting a degree. They don't care about your EC's or have sports teams or anything else. It is school.

People that treat college as a time to "lighten up" usually are taking easy courses, failing out, or have the wrong values of what college is.

Sorry you had no fun in college. Many of us did. I bet you’re still terrible at parties.

[Anonymous]

GMU

I even tried to make it a party school and failed miserably

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Probably not a popular opinion here but she might benefit from a little mainstream socializing. Not saying she needs to get under the keg or become Blutarsky but partying can be, you know, fun. Lighten up, have some fun. It’s college.

Hmm... how about the girl decides that. Not you. Would you encourage her to get sexually active too “because it is college and supposed to be fun.”

And college is for getting an education and learning how to adult. Many more adults don’t drink than do.

Not pp but actually I would encourage op’s daughter to really explore sexually.

It’s the best time and place to experience different types and races.

Most likely she’ll end up marrying some boring dude that she’ll complain about being “low t” on dcum in 20 years.

But at least in college she’ll have the memories of having a awesome black dude, Latin lover, hipster tatted up band dude, Asian yoga guy, etc

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter is well rounded and smart. But, she has no interest in drinking or smoking marijuana. Her grades are great with lots of extra curriculars. What good schools do you think she would find others like herself?

Wellesley might be a good fit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Probably not a popular opinion here but she might benefit from a little mainstream socializing. Not saying she needs to get under the keg or become Blutarsky but partying can be, you know, fun. Lighten up, have some fun. It’s college.

Hmm... how about the girl decides that. Not you. Would you encourage her to get sexually active too “because it is college and supposed to be fun.”

And college is for getting an education and learning how to adult. Many more adults don’t drink than do.

Wow, what a disconnect between my words and your reaction. Point me to where I said she shouldn’t decide. I’m suggesting that there are benefits to developing socially, that she might be nervous or shy and could thereby benefit from participating. I was intimidated by the college social scene and it took some time to come out of my shell. It helped me, ultimately, (after a year of hiding in the library on weekend nights) and had I been somewhere where it could be avoided completely it would have pushed that further down the road. And you can party without drinking. Or did you not realize that? Another you issue.

Different poster, not the one who replied above. Of course a kid can attend parties and stay sober but if she doesn't like being around others who are drinking, why does she need to be there at all for her "social development?" What social development is there in being in place where she's uncomfortable and frankly bored since she's not there to do the main activity? "She might be nervous or shy and could thereby benefit from participating" -- participating in what, exactly? Being the one sober kid in a party where partying is by definition drinking? That shy kid can go do many other things with that time, like hanging out with people who enjoy what she actually enjoys. If you think that the only thing going on during weekends at college these days is "mainstream socializing" of the keg party variety, you are out of touch.

And you'll come back to say that drinking is just part of partying, and there are what, fun games and sing-alongs? But just be honest -- you know you mean that non-drinking kids just suck it up and get used to going to keg parties so they're not seen as prudes.

[Anonymous]

Ten bucks says the kids being discussed are more fun and open to fun than the ninny parents discussing them. And at least half drink and smoke more than the parents realize.

[Anonymous]

Brandeis or Carleton.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Probably not a popular opinion here but she might benefit from a little mainstream socializing. Not saying she needs to get under the keg or become Blutarsky but partying can be, you know, fun. Lighten up, have some fun. It’s college.

Hmm... how about the girl decides that. Not you. Would you encourage her to get sexually active too “because it is college and supposed to be fun.”

And college is for getting an education and learning how to adult. Many more adults don’t drink than do.

Wow, what a disconnect between my words and your reaction. Point me to where I said she shouldn’t decide. I’m suggesting that there are benefits to developing socially, that she might be nervous or shy and could thereby benefit from participating. I was intimidated by the college social scene and it took some time to come out of my shell. It helped me, ultimately, (after a year of hiding in the library on weekend nights) and had I been somewhere where it could be avoided completely it would have pushed that further down the road. And you can party without drinking. Or did you not realize that? Another you issue.

Faulty premise. Just because a student is not partying does not mean they are not developing socially or hiding in the library on weekends. I hate this notion that anyone who isn't into the party scene is some weird recluse. Partying is NOT the only way to socialize.

[Anonymous]

Pepperdine has a dry campus