Best schools for a non-partier girl

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Anonymous wrote:Probably not a popular opinion here but she might benefit from a little mainstream socializing. Not saying she needs to get under the keg or become Blutarsky but partying can be, you know, fun. Lighten up, have some fun. It’s college.

Hmm... how about the girl decides that. Not you. Would you encourage her to get sexually active too “because it is college and supposed to be fun.”

And college is for getting an education and learning how to adult. Many more adults don’t drink than do.

Wow, what a disconnect between my words and your reaction. Point me to where I said she shouldn’t decide. I’m suggesting that there are benefits to developing socially, that she might be nervous or shy and could thereby benefit from participating. I was intimidated by the college social scene and it took some time to come out of my shell. It helped me, ultimately, (after a year of hiding in the library on weekend nights) and had I been somewhere where it could be avoided completely it would have pushed that further down the road. And you can party without drinking. Or did you not realize that? Another you issue.

Faulty premise. Just because a student is not partying does not mean they are not developing socially or hiding in the library on weekends. I hate this notion that anyone who isn't into the party scene is some weird recluse. Partying is NOT the only way to socialize.

Nope, not the only one. Never said that. But an important one. Do adults “party”? Of course. Cocktail parties, dinner parties, work parties. These are venues that everyone will need to learn to navigate. College is a great time for many to develop those skills. I still hate my work parties, or the baseball parent parties. And it is definitely not my favorite form of socializing. But I don’t have much of a choice and I’m glad I learned how to cope. I did that in college.

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Partying in college was good practice for your WORK cocktail receptions....where do you work??????!!!!!!

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Anonymous wrote:Partying in college was good practice for your WORK cocktail receptions....where do you work??????!!!!!!

Sitting around the dorm drinking is so different?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Probably not a popular opinion here but she might benefit from a little mainstream socializing. Not saying she needs to get under the keg or become Blutarsky but partying can be, you know, fun. Lighten up, have some fun. It’s college.

Hmm... how about the girl decides that. Not you. Would you encourage her to get sexually active too “because it is college and supposed to be fun.”

And college is for getting an education and learning how to adult. Many more adults don’t drink than do.

Wow, what a disconnect between my words and your reaction. Point me to where I said she shouldn’t decide. I’m suggesting that there are benefits to developing socially, that she might be nervous or shy and could thereby benefit from participating. I was intimidated by the college social scene and it took some time to come out of my shell. It helped me, ultimately, (after a year of hiding in the library on weekend nights) and had I been somewhere where it could be avoided completely it would have pushed that further down the road. And you can party without drinking. Or did you not realize that? Another you issue.

Faulty premise. Just because a student is not partying does not mean they are not developing socially or hiding in the library on weekends. I hate this notion that anyone who isn't into the party scene is some weird recluse. Partying is NOT the only way to socialize.

Nope, not the only one. Never said that. But an important one. Do adults “party”? Of course. Cocktail parties, dinner parties, work parties. These are venues that everyone will need to learn to navigate. College is a great time for many to develop those skills. I still hate my work parties, or the baseball parent parties. And it is definitely not my favorite form of socializing. But I don’t have much of a choice and I’m glad I learned how to cope. I did that in college.

Do explain what skills one would learn at a college party that would help them navigate a cocktail party.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Probably not a popular opinion here but she might benefit from a little mainstream socializing. Not saying she needs to get under the keg or become Blutarsky but partying can be, you know, fun. Lighten up, have some fun. It’s college.

Hmm... how about the girl decides that. Not you. Would you encourage her to get sexually active too “because it is college and supposed to be fun.”

And college is for getting an education and learning how to adult. Many more adults don’t drink than do.

Wow, what a disconnect between my words and your reaction. Point me to where I said she shouldn’t decide. I’m suggesting that there are benefits to developing socially, that she might be nervous or shy and could thereby benefit from participating. I was intimidated by the college social scene and it took some time to come out of my shell. It helped me, ultimately, (after a year of hiding in the library on weekend nights) and had I been somewhere where it could be avoided completely it would have pushed that further down the road. And you can party without drinking. Or did you not realize that? Another you issue.

Faulty premise. Just because a student is not partying does not mean they are not developing socially or hiding in the library on weekends. I hate this notion that anyone who isn't into the party scene is some weird recluse. Partying is NOT the only way to socialize.

Nope, not the only one. Never said that. But an important one. Do adults “party”? Of course. Cocktail parties, dinner parties, work parties. These are venues that everyone will need to learn to navigate. College is a great time for many to develop those skills. I still hate my work parties, or the baseball parent parties. And it is definitely not my favorite form of socializing. But I don’t have much of a choice and I’m glad I learned how to cope. I did that in college.

Do explain what skills one would learn at a college party that would help them navigate a cocktail party.

Keep thinking your library dork is getting the full experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Probably not a popular opinion here but she might benefit from a little mainstream socializing. Not saying she needs to get under the keg or become Blutarsky but partying can be, you know, fun. Lighten up, have some fun. It’s college.

Hmm... how about the girl decides that. Not you. Would you encourage her to get sexually active too “because it is college and supposed to be fun.”

And college is for getting an education and learning how to adult. Many more adults don’t drink than do.

Wow, what a disconnect between my words and your reaction. Point me to where I said she shouldn’t decide. I’m suggesting that there are benefits to developing socially, that she might be nervous or shy and could thereby benefit from participating. I was intimidated by the college social scene and it took some time to come out of my shell. It helped me, ultimately, (after a year of hiding in the library on weekend nights) and had I been somewhere where it could be avoided completely it would have pushed that further down the road. And you can party without drinking. Or did you not realize that? Another you issue.

Faulty premise. Just because a student is not partying does not mean they are not developing socially or hiding in the library on weekends. I hate this notion that anyone who isn't into the party scene is some weird recluse. Partying is NOT the only way to socialize.

Nope, not the only one. Never said that. But an important one. Do adults “party”? Of course. Cocktail parties, dinner parties, work parties. These are venues that everyone will need to learn to navigate. College is a great time for many to develop those skills. I still hate my work parties, or the baseball parent parties. And it is definitely not my favorite form of socializing. But I don’t have much of a choice and I’m glad I learned how to cope. I did that in college.

I see both sides..

Celebrating or drinking alcohol at parties is something done all over the industrialized world...South American, European, and most Asian countries all drink alcohol. It's certainly not anything abnormal.

That said, I don't think a student is weird for not drinking alcohol and they will adjust fine to adulthood!