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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Probably not a popular opinion here but she might benefit from a little mainstream socializing. Not saying she needs to get under the keg or become Blutarsky but partying can be, you know, fun. Lighten up, have some fun. It’s college. [/quote]

Hmm...  how about the girl decides that. Not you. Would you encourage her to get sexually active too “because it is college and supposed to be fun.”

And college is for getting an education and learning how to adult. Many more adults don’t drink than do. [/quote]

Wow, what a disconnect between my words and your reaction. Point me to where I said she shouldn’t decide. I’m suggesting that there are benefits to developing socially, that she might be nervous or shy and could thereby benefit from participating. I was intimidated by the college social scene and it took some time to come out of my shell. It helped me, ultimately, (after a year of hiding in the library on weekend nights) and had I been somewhere where it could be avoided completely it would have pushed that further down the road. And you can party without drinking. Or did you not realize that? Another you issue. [/quote]

Different poster, not the one who replied above.  Of course a kid can attend parties and stay sober but if she doesn't like being around others who are drinking, why does she need to be there at all for her "social development?"  What social development is there in being in place where she's uncomfortable and frankly bored since she's not there to do the main activity? "She might be nervous or shy and could thereby benefit from participating" -- participating in what, exactly? Being the one sober kid in a party where partying is by definition drinking? That shy kid can go do many other things with that time, like hanging out with people who enjoy what she actually enjoys. If you think that the only thing going on during weekends at college these days is "mainstream socializing" of the keg party variety, you are out of touch.

And you'll come back to say that drinking is just part of partying, and there are what, fun games and sing-alongs? But just be honest -- you know you mean that non-drinking kids just suck it up and get used to going to keg parties so they're not seen as prudes. 
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