Haven't had sex in 3.5 months

[Anonymous]

Women will have sex—and plenty of it—with a man they want to have sex with. If your wife is not having sex with you married men, then she’s not attracted to you any more .turn her loose. Let her free to sow her wild oats.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Single mom here - I recently passed the two-year mark for the first time in my entire life.

Kinda sucks because I really like sex, but I'm past the point of wanting it outside of a relationship. I don't want to get attached to someone I'm not dating. And with my busy schedule, it's hard to put in the time to find someone to date. (I don't meet a lot of men naturally at my age - 45.)

Crossing my fingers I won't go 3 years, but it could happen.

Exhibit A for women are from mars. Insufficient motivation (too busy?) to have sex... for years!!!

No you missed the point. She’s not willing to have sex with someone she’s not in a relationship with. It’s not that she can’t find time formsex; she doesn’t have time for a relationship. For her, the relationship is more important than just having sex. It’s not insufficient motivation. It’s life.

Exhibit B ^^

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Single mom here - I recently passed the two-year mark for the first time in my entire life.

Kinda sucks because I really like sex, but I'm past the point of wanting it outside of a relationship. I don't want to get attached to someone I'm not dating. And with my busy schedule, it's hard to put in the time to find someone to date. (I don't meet a lot of men naturally at my age - 45.)

Crossing my fingers I won't go 3 years, but it could happen.

Exhibit A for women are from mars. Insufficient motivation (too busy?) to have sex... for years!!!

OP here. I pray it doesn't get to that point for me, but here's the thing

I'm not into having a FWB
I'm not interested in online dating
I do not want to hook up with random barflys

So that takes me out of the running for a lot of potential sexual encounters. I have my kids all but a few weeks throughout the year, so the chance I'll meet someone "organically" are low, realistically.

But here's hoping sex comes to me sooner rather than later

Exhibit C ^^

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Single mom here - I recently passed the two-year mark for the first time in my entire life.

Kinda sucks because I really like sex, but I'm past the point of wanting it outside of a relationship. I don't want to get attached to someone I'm not dating. And with my busy schedule, it's hard to put in the time to find someone to date. (I don't meet a lot of men naturally at my age - 45.)

Crossing my fingers I won't go 3 years, but it could happen.

Exhibit A for women are from mars. Insufficient motivation (too busy?) to have sex... for years!!!

OP here. I pray it doesn't get to that point for me, but here's the thing

I'm not into having a FWB
I'm not interested in online dating
I do not want to hook up with random barflys

So that takes me out of the running for a lot of potential sexual encounters. I have my kids all but a few weeks throughout the year, so the chance I'll meet someone "organically" are low, realistically.

But here's hoping sex comes to me sooner rather than later

Exhibit C ^^

I am a prolific dater (or was, in my past). I would be happy to date, and have sex. But how?

[Anonymous]

To the person or persons who keep posting “exhibit”...get it through your head. For some women, sex is emotional. It comes with feelings. It requires exclusivity. It’s not about just going out, finding anyone who is breathing, and taking them home to fu*k them.

[Anonymous]

I haven't had sex since the summer of 2014 and before that the summer of 2011, and before that the summer of 2010. And before that the summer of 2008.

Hey at least it's almost summer!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I haven't had sex since the summer of 2014 and before that the summer of 2011, and before that the summer of 2010. And before that the summer of 2008.

Hey at least it's almost summer!!

Yay, summertime sex! Hot! Slippery! Sweaty!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To the person or persons who keep posting “exhibit”...get it through your head. For some women, sex is emotional. It comes with feelings. It requires exclusivity. It’s not about just going out, finding anyone who is breathing, and taking them home to fu*k them.

And for these women, never having sex again is an option, including if they are in a relationship. They simply do not view sex as something they need, and have no trouble going without.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To the person or persons who keep posting “exhibit”...get it through your head. For some women, sex is emotional. It comes with feelings. It requires exclusivity. It’s not about just going out, finding anyone who is breathing, and taking them home to fu*k them.

And for these women, never having sex again is an option, including if they are in a relationship. They simply do not view sex as something they need, and have no trouble going without.

^^ Exhibits D and E.

Intellectually I understand what each of these "exhibit" posts is saying. She wants to be pursued by an attractive man who meets her selection criteria A-Z and fits into her busy schedule. THEN she will have (and enjoy) sex.

My point is that this is not at all what a male would consider to be a "sex drive". It's more like "sex long-term-parking". My posts are not intended to be offensive, just that women truly are from a different planet when it comes to interest in sex.

[Anonymous]

The contempt that these dudes have for women who don’t want to f*ck them is pretty horrifying. I get that sex is very important to you, but for the most part, these are your wives you’re talking about. Do you not care about them for other reasons?

Signed,

Happily married to man I enjoy 2x a week sex with so don’t accuse me of being a divoraced frigid shrew

[Anonymous]

I'm the 10:36 2-year poster.

I would love a relationship and would make time for one, but I haven't met a guy naturally and online dating can take an enormous amount of time for an uncertain payoff. So many of my friends have been online dating for YEARS and not found someone good yet. It would require me literally spending every moment of free time I have away from my child, instead of spending that time working out, fulfilling my volunteer obligations, keeping my house going, seeing my friends or just having some decompression time. I don't want to spend every spare night auditioning guys at Starbucks or the bars.

Dating in your 40's is hard when you have a kid and aren't a supermodel. Every guy I meet is either married, attached to one of my friends, is too young for me (under 35) or there isn't an attraction there. I had a normal dating life in my 20's and 30's, until I had my child.

I feel like you're damned if you do and damned if you don't. If you have sex with random hookups, you're a slut and people tell you that you'll catch herpes. If you don't have sex with random people, they imply there's something wrong with you that you can go without sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The contempt that these dudes have for women who don’t want to f*ck them is pretty horrifying. I get that sex is very important to you, but for the most part, these are your wives you’re talking about. Do you not care about them for other reasons?

Sex is necessary. If she's denying you sex, the "other reasons" you care about her become increasingly unimportant. Not to mention, willingness to have sex is the leading indicator that she cares about you. If she's refusing sex, that means she doesn't care about you. As a result, quite naturally and inevitably you stop caring about her as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women will have sex—and plenty of it—with a man they want to have sex with. If your wife is not having sex with you married men, then she’s not attracted to you any more .turn her loose. Let her free to sow her wild oats.

Don’t agree

Many women don’t want any sex. Even with themselves. No man exists that doesn’t masturbate consistently

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women will have sex—and plenty of it—with a man they want to have sex with. If your wife is not having sex with you married men, then she’s not attracted to you any more .turn her loose. Let her free to sow her wild oats.

Don’t agree

Many women don’t want any sex. Even with themselves. No man exists that doesn’t masturbate consistently

Um, no. I have female friends married to men who don't want to have sex regularly. Low T, weight gain, work stress, etc. These men loose their sex drive.

I also agree that some women who are not having sex actually want sex, just not with their husbands. If your husband is a crabby dick most of the time, who would want to have sex with that. These women have sex with themselves, but no longer desire their spouses.

It does seem easier for men to have sex with a spouse they don't really like. Women would rather just have sex with themselves, or another.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women will have sex—and plenty of it—with a man they want to have sex with. If your wife is not having sex with you married men, then she’s not attracted to you any more .turn her loose. Let her free to sow her wild oats.

Don’t agree

Many women don’t want any sex. Even with themselves. No man exists that doesn’t masturbate consistently

Um, no. I have female friends married to men who don't want to have sex regularly. Low T, weight gain, work stress, etc. These men loose their sex drive.

What your friends apparently do not know is that even low T men masturbate consistently. They lack the desire or ability to perform with women, but they still choke the chicken.