Haven't had sex in 3.5 months

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Anonymous wrote:Quite a few married men that are in town for the weekend on Tinder. Check it out, wealthy ones too.

Why do men on here think that most women find married men desireable?

Because they do, just not their own husbands.

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Anonymous wrote:I used to have sex often but DH got cancer and heart failure from chemo, and we live from treatment to treatment for the past 5 years. No more sex for me. Bob. Battery operated boyfriend. He feels so crappy all the time, there’s not much affection or companionship. I’m venting, but I’m not finding many bright moments to enjoy with him, and I can’t name very many moments where I think he’s living life. Maybe with sports. He loves watching football. On the other hand, we had our first grandchild, which to me is a delight. He is uninterested in the grandchild. When he passes, I’m guessing the granny dating crowd is nonexistent (I’m 50).

First, hang in there! No doubt your life is tough but your DH's is tougher.
Second, the granny dating crowd is alive and well. But like all dating it takes work.
Third, enjoy Bob.

Caregiver burnout.

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Anonymous wrote:Another single mom who would prefer to have sex in a LTR. Threads such as morning sex one are depressing

I agree. I wanted to reply to that how jealous I was. OMG, I would have morning sex every day. And sex every night.

Is that how you became a single mom?

Do you really believe that sex cures all? As long as there is sex in the relationship, there can be no other issues? If only she had sex morning and night, she wouldn’t be a single mom?

No but it is a defining factor in practically every marriage that’s ever existed. It is the most effective bonding and communication method.

You can try to frame your argument anyway you want, but that’s the truth and you know it. Look at this forum and yourself: when you decided by fiat that sex was no longer a part of your marriage, how much longer did it last and you were divorced? If I asked your XDH, what would he say about you turning it off?

She stated she’d have sex any time of day, you’re a bit of a dim bulb. Perhaps that is why you’re dating your hand?

Her statement is a theoretical projection of what she thinks she’d do with her fictitious Prince Charming. In reality though, her previous relationships have become sexless within year 2. Believe her actions and her track record, not her words on an anonymous forum

I am the pp who said sex every morning and every night. Everyone missed where I replied to a similar comment that I left my marriage because XH was abusive. This thread isn't about me and if I did or did not have sex with my ex.

No, I no longer daydream about Prince Charming. I married him and it almost killed me. I say that flippantly, but it is true. I daydream about really good sex all the time, though. And maybe I do build a new Prince Charming in my head, but he is very different from the one I wanted 10 years ago. This one does yard work.

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Married husband. One kid. Haven't had sex in five years. What were you complaining about again? 3.5 months???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Married husband. One kid. Haven't had sex in five years. What were you complaining about again? 3.5 months???

Again. This isn’t for you. Go to counseling.

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Anonymous wrote:Married husband. One kid. Haven't had sex in five years. What were you complaining about again? 3.5 months???

Again. This isn’t for you. Go to counseling.

Nice answer. A woman complains of not having sex for three months. It's understandable. A man complains about not having sex for five years. He's in the wrong.

You woman and your insane biased viewed on men. Wake up and grow up.

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Anonymous wrote:Married husband. One kid. Haven't had sex in five years. What were you complaining about again? 3.5 months???

Again. This isn’t for you. Go to counseling.

Nice answer. A woman complains of not having sex for three months. It's understandable. A man complains about not having sex for five years. He's in the wrong.

You woman and your insane biased viewed on men. Wake up and grow up.

Sex positive Man here. Yes, he's in the wrong. Anybody whose response to not having sex in 5 years is to complain on an anonymous forum is in the wrong. Obviously that man does not actually want sex, or he would already have solved that problem (one way or another) many years ago.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Married husband. One kid. Haven't had sex in five years. What were you complaining about again? 3.5 months???

Again. This isn’t for you. Go to counseling.

Nice answer. A woman complains of not having sex for three months. It's understandable. A man complains about not having sex for five years. He's in the wrong.

You woman and your insane biased viewed on men. Wake up and grow up.

Sex positive Man here. Yes, he's in the wrong. Anybody whose response to not having sex in 5 years is to complain on an anonymous forum is in the wrong. Obviously that man does not actually want sex, or he would already have solved that problem (one way or another) many years ago.

Actually the issue is more single parent vs unhappily married one. Note the lack of gender? It’s not woman vs man. It’s an entirely different conversation.

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Anonymous wrote:Married husband. One kid. Haven't had sex in five years. What were you complaining about again? 3.5 months???

Again. This isn’t for you. Go to counseling.

Nice answer. A woman complains of not having sex for three months. It's understandable. A man complains about not having sex for five years. He's in the wrong.

You woman and your insane biased viewed on men. Wake up and grow up.

Sex positive Man here. Yes, he's in the wrong. Anybody whose response to not having sex in 5 years is to complain on an anonymous forum is in the wrong. Obviously that man does not actually want sex, or he would already have solved that problem (one way or another) many years ago.

Actually the issue is more single parent vs unhappily married one. Note the lack of gender? It’s not woman vs man. It’s an entirely different conversation.

Oops. Yes. I agree!

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Anonymous wrote: I don’t understand married couples can agree on no sex for long periods of time. I’ve been married for 17 years and we’ve never gone for more than two weeks. And that’s unusual. Well if you don’t count the six week post partum breaks My husband would be so frustrated. We would be divorced

My experience (10 years and 6 months stretch of no sex while married to the ex) did not include an 'agreement not to have sex'. In a healthy marriage, such as the one I now enjoy, both partners enjoy sex and are aware that sometimes the timing just isn't right, so later today or tomorrow morning in the shower. In the difficult marriage, though, one party can be so generally disagreeable that the 'thrill is gone', I know the answer is 'no' and even if she says yes, it's without desire or interest.

[Anonymous]

Single mom here - I recently passed the two-year mark for the first time in my entire life.

Kinda sucks because I really like sex, but I'm past the point of wanting it outside of a relationship. I don't want to get attached to someone I'm not dating. And with my busy schedule, it's hard to put in the time to find someone to date. (I don't meet a lot of men naturally at my age - 45.)

Crossing my fingers I won't go 3 years, but it could happen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Single mom here - I recently passed the two-year mark for the first time in my entire life.

Ewww. Hope someone got prosecuted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Single mom here - I recently passed the two-year mark for the first time in my entire life.

Kinda sucks because I really like sex, but I'm past the point of wanting it outside of a relationship. I don't want to get attached to someone I'm not dating. And with my busy schedule, it's hard to put in the time to find someone to date. (I don't meet a lot of men naturally at my age - 45.)

Crossing my fingers I won't go 3 years, but it could happen.

Exhibit A for women are from mars. Insufficient motivation (too busy?) to have sex... for years!!!

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Anonymous wrote:Single mom here - I recently passed the two-year mark for the first time in my entire life.

Kinda sucks because I really like sex, but I'm past the point of wanting it outside of a relationship. I don't want to get attached to someone I'm not dating. And with my busy schedule, it's hard to put in the time to find someone to date. (I don't meet a lot of men naturally at my age - 45.)

Crossing my fingers I won't go 3 years, but it could happen.

Exhibit A for women are from mars. Insufficient motivation (too busy?) to have sex... for years!!!

No you missed the point. She’s not willing to have sex with someone she’s not in a relationship with. It’s not that she can’t find time formsex; she doesn’t have time for a relationship. For her, the relationship is more important than just having sex. It’s not insufficient motivation. It’s life.

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Anonymous wrote:Single mom here - I recently passed the two-year mark for the first time in my entire life.

Kinda sucks because I really like sex, but I'm past the point of wanting it outside of a relationship. I don't want to get attached to someone I'm not dating. And with my busy schedule, it's hard to put in the time to find someone to date. (I don't meet a lot of men naturally at my age - 45.)

Crossing my fingers I won't go 3 years, but it could happen.

Exhibit A for women are from mars. Insufficient motivation (too busy?) to have sex... for years!!!

OP here. I pray it doesn't get to that point for me, but here's the thing

I'm not into having a FWB
I'm not interested in online dating
I do not want to hook up with random barflys

So that takes me out of the running for a lot of potential sexual encounters. I have my kids all but a few weeks throughout the year, so the chance I'll meet someone "organically" are low, realistically.

But here's hoping sex comes to me sooner rather than later