Haven't had sex in 3.5 months

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Anonymous wrote:I am married. Going on month 60. Deal.

yup

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3 months here and I’m married. I might as well be single, I mean I’ll at least get to do what I want when I want to. Ironically she also forgot my birthday a few days ago.

So if you’re looking for a FWB hit me up.

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Anonymous wrote:Married and closing in on 144 months, so 3.5 doesn’t seem so bad.

What? Why?

Seriously.

OR: I married a man who has low-t and no interest in sex. We never had a very active sex life, but I wasn’t expecting zero. I tried initiating, for years, and eventually stopped. We get along well and, at 46, am not interested in looking for someone new and completely destroying my child’s life. It’s my new normal.

Kind of similar situation here.

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Anonymous wrote:I am married. Going on month 60. Deal.

I agree with you. I’ve been there with you and married. 3.5 months is nothing,

You are all fools. Giving someone the benefits of marraige withoubthe responsibility.

The responsabilities of marriage are the ones you agree with your husband/wife. Sex should not be a responsability. Besides, I believe sex is overestimated.
I would love to have a more active sex life, but I prefer to accomodate a lower libido than many other things. My husband is an amazing partner and father. I love him deeply.

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Anonymous wrote:Another single mom who would prefer to have sex in a LTR. Threads such as morning sex one are depressing

I agree. I wanted to reply to that how jealous I was. OMG, I would have morning sex every day. And sex every night.

if you had done that to begin with, you probably wouldn't be divorced.

That pp here. My husband was abusive. I left my marriage to save my life. The idea of trusting someone enough to get to the point of having the option of regularmorning sex is a fairytale to me now. I like to daydream about it, though.

NP. Sorry to hear. What a jerk the “divorce” poster. Typical douche bag, probably.

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Anonymous wrote: I don’t understand married couples can agree on no sex for long periods of time. I’ve been married for 17 years and we’ve never gone for more than two weeks. And that’s unusual. Well if you don’t count the six week post partum breaks My husband would be so frustrated. We would be divorced

That is your husband. Could you live like that? If your answer is yes think that there are guys who can as well. 1+1 and you got your answer.
If your answer is no, just think different people have different priorities.

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Anonymous wrote: I don’t understand married couples can agree on no sex for long periods of time. I’ve been married for 17 years and we’ve never gone for more than two weeks. And that’s unusual. Well if you don’t count the six week post partum breaks My husband would be so frustrated. We would be divorced

They don't "agree" it is one spouse (usually the wife) who decides she does not want sex. You are correct this rapidly leads to divorce. If not divorced, it means they are in a de-facto open marriage: the other spouse is most certainly continuing to have sex.

It is not always the wife (maybe not even "usually") and it does not always "rapidly leads to divorce".

As some others have said, sometimes when there is no sex an adult makes the hard decision to tough it out in the relationship so as not to implode the life of a child, to put their own sexual desires on a long-term back burner until the child is grown and then prioritize your own needs. Many will say that if the parents aren't happy the kids aren't happy so you might as well split up, but as in my case the marriage was fine otherwise, the partner was a good parent and mostly a good spouse, so if it's just a sex thing, kid's needs come first.

Right, I covered that, it’s the de-facto open marriage.

I understand that you believe that. However, in my opinion sex is not like breathing, you actually can live without it. I respected my husband and the marriage and did not defacto open it for my own pleasure. I went years without sex and then when my kids were grown I left him and in subsequent relationships had some great sex. I did not want to set an example of cheating for my children to possibly find out about.

I am sorry for your painful situation. You had every right to open your marriage. Very few men could (or would) do as you have gone “years” without sex. It’s just not a real option, physically.

And while it’s not true in your case, then stats do clearly show that in most sexless marriages the wife is the refuser.

Of course it is. You may not like it, but it is an option. Lack of sex will not cause you to die. It's not the same need as food, water, and shelter. You may be frustrated, unhappy, disappointed, but no one will be putting you in the ground for a lack of sex.

I don’t think you grasp what I’m saying. A normal libido man will NOT go long time without sex. If it’s not with his wife then it’s with some other woman. Why would anybody consider that anyway? If your spouse has stopped having sex, just go elsewhere without any regrets or remorse. Totally justified.

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Ugh - I can't imagine 3.5 months let alone 3.5 weeks. I realize that excluding baby times we've rarely gone more than a week and we've been married 35 years.

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Anonymous wrote:3 months here and I’m married. I might as well be single, I mean I’ll at least get to do what I want when I want to. Ironically she also forgot my birthday a few days ago.

So if you’re looking for a FWB hit me up.

Dude. She didn’t “forget” it. I just went through this. Women don’t “forget” stuff like birthdays. You’re done, she is scheming and planning right now. Keep a sharp eye on your finances, save up for a new place and a lawyer. It over. Sorry man, it sucks.

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Anonymous wrote:I am married. Going on month 60. Deal.

I agree with you. I’ve been there with you and married. 3.5 months is nothing,

You are all fools. Giving someone the benefits of marraige withoubthe responsibility.

The responsabilities of marriage are the ones you agree with your husband/wife. Sex should not be a responsability.

Sex is indeed a responsibility that you agree to accept when you agree to get married.

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You are all fools. Giving someone the benefits of marraige withoubthe responsibility.
The responsabilities of marriage are the ones you agree with your husband/wife. Sex should not be a responsability. Besides, I believe sex is overestimated.
I would love to have a more active sex life, but I prefer to accomodate a lower libido than many other things. My husband is an amazing partner and father. I love him deeply.

But it is, it's literally in the vows.

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Anonymous wrote:Another single mom who would prefer to have sex in a LTR. Threads such as morning sex one are depressing

I agree. I wanted to reply to that how jealous I was. OMG, I would have morning sex every day. And sex every night.

Is that how you became a single mom?

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Anonymous wrote:Another single mom who would prefer to have sex in a LTR. Threads such as morning sex one are depressing

I agree. I wanted to reply to that how jealous I was. OMG, I would have morning sex every day. And sex every night.

Is that how you became a single mom?

Do you really believe that sex cures all? As long as there is sex in the relationship, there can be no other issues? If only she had sex morning and night, she wouldn’t be a single mom?

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Anonymous wrote:Another single mom who would prefer to have sex in a LTR. Threads such as morning sex one are depressing

I agree. I wanted to reply to that how jealous I was. OMG, I would have morning sex every day. And sex every night.

Is that how you became a single mom?

Do you really believe that sex cures all? As long as there is sex in the relationship, there can be no other issues? If only she had sex morning and night, she wouldn’t be a single mom?

Lack of sex destroys all. If there is no sex, the fact that all other aspects of the relationship are awesome doesn't matter.

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Anonymous wrote:Another single mom who would prefer to have sex in a LTR. Threads such as morning sex one are depressing

I agree. I wanted to reply to that how jealous I was. OMG, I would have morning sex every day. And sex every night.

Is that how you became a single mom?

Do you really believe that sex cures all? As long as there is sex in the relationship, there can be no other issues? If only she had sex morning and night, she wouldn’t be a single mom?

No but it is a defining factor in practically every marriage that’s ever existed. It is the most effective bonding and communication method.

You can try to frame your argument anyway you want, but that’s the truth and you know it. Look at this forum and yourself: when you decided by fiat that sex was no longer a part of your marriage, how much longer did it last and you were divorced? If I asked your XDH, what would he say about you turning it off?