I'm going to fly across the country and try to get my long-distance ex boyfriend back AMA

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm glad everyone here talked me down. I cancelled my ticket.

I hadn't slept in two days or eaten and was probably manic of some kind. I do have mental health issues but bipolar has pretty much been ruled out by several mental health professionals. I suspect I do have borderline personality disorder and have for a long time. I did ask my psychiatrist and she sort of brushed me off, but I took it upon myself to go around her and enroll in a DBT program because it's obvious that I need help. The program is totally covered by my insurance so I have nothing to lose. If there's any chance for me and the man in question to be together I need to get healthy and focus on myself.

I probably would have gone through with it if not for the anonymous shame of DCUM. You guys can be dicks but you really helped me and I appreciate it.

OP, I'm rooting for you and am happy to see this update. I'm sorry you're struggling with your mental and sorry people shamed you or were nasty, but this outcome is for the best. Focus on yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This has got to be the goofiest shit I’ve ever read in my life. Life is not a RomCom OP. I hope for the sake of reality check for you that his new gf (or preexsisting wife) answers the door when you knock. I also hope the airport loses your luggage...

Be honest. You didn't read this page did you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This has got to be the goofiest shit I’ve ever read in my life. Life is not a RomCom OP. I hope for the sake of reality check for you that his new gf (or preexsisting wife) answers the door when you knock. I also hope the airport loses your luggage...

Be honest. You didn't read this page did you

Nope! I read the first two pages and replied

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This has got to be the goofiest shit I’ve ever read in my life. Life is not a RomCom OP. I hope for the sake of reality check for you that his new gf (or preexsisting wife) answers the door when you knock. I also hope the airport loses your luggage...

Be honest. You didn't read this page did you

Nope! I read the first two pages and replied

Wow! You admitted it. Wanna get married?

[Anonymous]

NP here, I read through this entire thread. Fascinating.

OP - best of luck on your future endeavors with mental health. From personal experience, I can share that life gets much easier once you've found and sustain the right treatment. Remember this moment. In the future, when you've found a partner and have settled down, life will become crazy again. You have to remember that you cannot be your best self or a decent partner without whatever treatment works. I hope that makes sense. In the past DH and I experience lows in our marriage, I cannot ignore the fact that it's also when I am off my medication. He almost left me one for it (when we were young and dating). Guys don't want drama. People who are managing a mental health issue don't need men who want drama.

Best of luck!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This has got to be the goofiest shit I’ve ever read in my life. Life is not a RomCom OP. I hope for the sake of reality check for you that his new gf (or preexsisting wife) answers the door when you knock. I also hope the airport loses your luggage...

Be honest. You didn't read this page did you

Nope! I read the first two pages and replied

Wow! You admitted it. Wanna get married?

Sure. What time can you be dressed and at the courthouse? I’m game regardless of your sex btw...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This has got to be the goofiest shit I’ve ever read in my life. Life is not a RomCom OP. I hope for the sake of reality check for you that his new gf (or preexsisting wife) answers the door when you knock. I also hope the airport loses your luggage...

Be honest. You didn't read this page did you

Nope! I read the first two pages and replied

Wow! You admitted it. Wanna get married?

Sure. What time can you be dressed and at the courthouse? I’m game regardless of your sex btw...

My kind of woman

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it's awesome and romantic. Sure, it might backfire. He'll, his live-in GF might even answer the door but she'll always wonder if she doesn't try. If it blows up, she has closure and can move on.

Good for you OP! If he gives you the chance, rock his world. Guys always fall for great sex.

Life is not Sleepless in Seattle. Assuming OP is the normal one, she should have some pride and self respect - not to mention respect for his decision - and move along. There is nothing romantic about becoming a desperate stalker. That she's even considering this leads me to question whether she is in fact normal.

[Anonymous]

This is great - a DCUM intervention that succeeded. Good for you OP. We have every one of us experienced rejection like you, and many of us brought it on like you did. It takes real strength to change your mind as you did, and that strength will see you through the healing process however long it takes.

[Anonymous]

OP, you handled this thread with such grace. I really admire you. I’m glad you aren’t going though. Get healthy and you will find an even better man who doesn’t bring out your neurosis so much! Good luck to you!

[Anonymous]

OP, kudos to you and good luck with the treatment. And don't get discouraged if the first 1-2-3- approaches don't work, it often takes some experimentation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you handled this thread with such grace. I really admire you. I’m glad you aren’t going though. Get healthy and you will find an even better man who doesn’t bring out your neurosis so much! Good luck to you!

Another misandrist

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm glad everyone here talked me down. I cancelled my ticket.

I hadn't slept in two days or eaten and was probably manic of some kind. I do have mental health issues but bipolar has pretty much been ruled out by several mental health professionals. I suspect I do have borderline personality disorder and have for a long time. I did ask my psychiatrist and she sort of brushed me off, but I took it upon myself to go around her and enroll in a DBT program because it's obvious that I need help. The program is totally covered by my insurance so I have nothing to lose. If there's any chance for me and the man in question to be together I need to get healthy and focus on myself.

I probably would have gone through with it if not for the anonymous shame of DCUM. You guys can be dicks but you really helped me and I appreciate it.

You made the right decision to cancel! You don't have a mental problem, you're love sick and a break up is hard. It's true that it takes time to get over it, a long time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I'm glad everyone here talked me down. I cancelled my ticket.

I hadn't slept in two days or eaten and was probably manic of some kind. I do have mental health issues but bipolar has pretty much been ruled out by several mental health professionals. I suspect I do have borderline personality disorder and have for a long time. I did ask my psychiatrist and she sort of brushed me off, but I took it upon myself to go around her and enroll in a DBT program because it's obvious that I need help. The program is totally covered by my insurance so I have nothing to lose. If there's any chance for me and the man in question to be together I need to get healthy and focus on myself.

I probably would have gone through with it if not for the anonymous shame of DCUM. You guys can be dicks but you really helped me and I appreciate it.

You made the right decision to cancel! You don't have a mental problem, you're love sick and a break up is hard. It's true that it takes time to get over it, a long time.

No. OP does have mental health issues going on and it's good that she acknowledges this and is getting help for it. I'm rooting for you OP!

[Anonymous]

OP, google "love addiction." It is real, and believe it or not, there are support groups out there, called SLAA. Google it and you will find the support you need.