I'm going to fly across the country and try to get my long-distance ex boyfriend back AMA

[Anonymous]

"But I need to do this."

No you don't. You need to NOT do this.

If you know that everyone you know would try to talk you out of it, that tells you something right there.

It's not the good kind of crazy, not the "so in love" kind of crazy. It really is the stalkerish ugly kind of crazy. You don't want to be that ugly kind of crazy. You are so fixated on this idea that you can't see it rationally right now. You are only thinking from your point of view. If you had any empathy at all and put yourself in his place, you would realize what an absolutely awful idea this is.

Probably he will take out a restraining order against you if you do this. Stop and think about that.

You do NOT need to do this. Just say no. It is OVER. Accept it.

[Anonymous]

Borderline personality disorder.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Borderline personality disorder.

maybe

[Anonymous]

OP, don't do this.

You sound as though you are in the middle of an episode Please call your therapist now!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are impulsive and crazy but why not? I hope it works out for you, just keep us posted. If I were on the receiving end I'd be blown away.

Given what OP has shared I'd call the police, and file a restraining order.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are impulsive and crazy but why not? I hope it works out for you, just keep us posted. If I were on the receiving end I'd be blown away.

Given what OP has shared I'd call the police, and file a restraining order.

If he doesn't want to see me I'll leave.

[Anonymous]

Well you're determined to be a fool so please report back! Assuming you don't end up in jail

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well you're determined to be a fool so please report back! Assuming you don't end up in jail

Why would I end up in jail? What I'm doing isn't illegal.

[Anonymous]

So you say. Go ahead and humiliate yourself. He blocked you so you cannot contact him so you show up at his doorstep.

So you want to turn into the psycho he met on OK Cupid?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So you say. Go ahead and humiliate yourself. He blocked you so you cannot contact him so you show up at his doorstep.

So you want to turn into the psycho he met on OK Cupid?

Why do you care so much?

[Anonymous]

Don’t care but feel sorry for you.

[Anonymous]

OP I simply don't get why you don't warn him with a flower delivery or something that won't look like a bomb. I know you have his address, so why wouldn't you show him that courtesy? Worse, you want to embarass him with his family around? Even if your visit starts to melt his heart, his family will not be charmed and they will chill his up again. Please warn him at least!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I simply don't get why you don't warn him with a flower delivery or something that won't look like a bomb. I know you have his address, so why wouldn't you show him that courtesy? Worse, you want to embarass him with his family around? Even if your visit starts to melt his heart, his family will not be charmed and they will chill his up again. Please warn him at least!

I will take this into consideration. Thank you for the advice.

[Anonymous]

He blocked you, a sure sign he is “just not that into you”. Your stunt is not going to go over well. You obviously like him more than he likes you.

Pp is correct, his family not being charmed is an understatement.

[Anonymous]

Everything you've written is all about how YOU have felt. Even when he was very sick. That probably stood out to him, that instead of being concerned for his well-being, you made it all about you, and in a huge way. And once again, you’re making this trip all about you. Just stop, OP, and leave him alone. That kind of drama only works in the movies.