Too big an age gap?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He's far too old. Unless you want babies with health issues

I was older than op, my hubby was older than op's guy, and our child is beautifully healthy.
Where do you get this misinfo pp?

You were fortunate, advanced paternal age has been linked to autism and other neuro issues.

The correlation is nowhere near the risk of older mothers. And the cause is not clear. It could be partly that "on the spectrum" men dont have kids until later in life. It's not an irrelevant concern but I wouldn't use this as the sole criterion.

Sorry PP. I know its not what you want to hear but https://www.autismspeaks.org/science/science-news/study-ties-dad’s-age-risk-autism-other-mental-disorders-kids

You must not have read your own article. It says that there is a small correlation (not a cause) and clearly states that the risk is still small.

Sorry, but your attempt to "turn the tables" on men by equating advanced maternal age to older fathers is obvious and unsupported by facts.

Actually, most of the time, advanced age of the mother has no effect on the fitness of the child, only on pregnancy complications and the health of the mother during pregnancy.

On the other hand, age of the father has everything to do with the fitness of the child.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencetech/article-2587223/Whos-daddy-And-old-Children-born-older-fathers-likely-ugly-live-longer.html

So there is no "turning of the tables" because there were no tables to be turned

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He's far too old. Unless you want babies with health issues

I was older than op, my hubby was older than op's guy, and our child is beautifully healthy.
Where do you get this misinfo pp?

You were fortunate, advanced paternal age has been linked to autism and other neuro issues.

The correlation is nowhere near the risk of older mothers. And the cause is not clear. It could be partly that "on the spectrum" men dont have kids until later in life. It's not an irrelevant concern but I wouldn't use this as the sole criterion.

Sorry PP. I know its not what you want to hear but https://www.autismspeaks.org/science/science-news/study-ties-dad’s-age-risk-autism-other-mental-disorders-kids

You must not have read your own article. It says that there is a small correlation (not a cause) and clearly states that the risk is still small.

Sorry, but your attempt to "turn the tables" on men by equating advanced maternal age to older fathers is obvious and unsupported by facts.

Actually, most of the time, advanced age of the mother has no effect on the fitness of the child, only on pregnancy complications and the health of the mother during pregnancy.

On the other hand, age of the father has everything to do with the fitness of the child.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencetech/article-2587223/Whos-daddy-And-old-Children-born-older-fathers-likely-ugly-live-longer.html

So there is no "turning of the tables" because there were no tables to be turned

Pregnancy complications certainty can affect the health of a baby.

You are clearly invested in downplaying the risk of advanced maternal age while exaggerating the risk for fathers, employing sophomoric talking points that fall apart upon examination.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He's far too old. Unless you want babies with health issues

I was older than op, my hubby was older than op's guy, and our child is beautifully healthy.
Where do you get this misinfo pp?

You were fortunate, advanced paternal age has been linked to autism and other neuro issues.

The correlation is nowhere near the risk of older mothers. And the cause is not clear. It could be partly that "on the spectrum" men dont have kids until later in life. It's not an irrelevant concern but I wouldn't use this as the sole criterion.

Sorry PP. I know its not what you want to hear but https://www.autismspeaks.org/science/science-news/study-ties-dad’s-age-risk-autism-other-mental-disorders-kids

You must not have read your own article. It says that there is a small correlation (not a cause) and clearly states that the risk is still small.

Sorry, but your attempt to "turn the tables" on men by equating advanced maternal age to older fathers is obvious and unsupported by facts.

Actually, most of the time, advanced age of the mother has no effect on the fitness of the child, only on pregnancy complications and the health of the mother during pregnancy.

On the other hand, age of the father has everything to do with the fitness of the child.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencetech/article-2587223/Whos-daddy-And-old-Children-born-older-fathers-likely-ugly-live-longer.html

So there is no "turning of the tables" because there were no tables to be turned

Pregnancy complications certainty can affect the health of a baby.

You are clearly invested in downplaying the risk of advanced maternal age while exaggerating the risk for fathers, employing sophomoric talking points that fall apart upon examination.

Nope, you seem to want to ignore the very clear risks of increased parental age that are given in the articles.

I guess it struck a nerve? Oh well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What attracts you to senior citizens, OP?

Uh if 47 is a "Senior Citizen," then J LO must live in a retirement community along
w/Jay Z, P. Duffy, Gwen Stefani + Mariah Carey.

[Anonymous]

*Diddy

[Anonymous]

She-23
He 49
Married 2 years. Seem happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She-23
He 49
Married 2 years. Seem happy.

Keyword being seem

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She-23
He 49
Married 2 years. Seem happy.

Not similar to OP's situation.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's far too old. Unless you want babies with health issues

I was older than op, my hubby was older than op's guy, and our child is beautifully healthy.
Where do you get this misinfo pp?

You were fortunate, advanced paternal age has been linked to autism and other neuro issues.

At what rate? 1 in 300,000? Get a grip, unless you are planning on having 300,000 kids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's far too old. Unless you want babies with health issues

I was older than op, my hubby was older than op's guy, and our child is beautifully healthy.
Where do you get this misinfo pp?

You were fortunate, advanced paternal age has been linked to autism and other neuro issues.

The correlation is nowhere near the risk of older mothers. And the cause is not clear. It could be partly that "on the spectrum" men dont have kids until later in life. It's not an irrelevant concern but I wouldn't use this as the sole criterion.

Sorry PP. I know its not what you want to hear but https://www.autismspeaks.org/science/science-news/study-ties-dad’s-age-risk-autism-other-mental-disorders-kids

Sorry, pp, but every parent I have met with autistic kids or add kids HAS BEEN THE YOUNG ONES. In 15+ years of marriage and socializing, I've seen no correlation between age and the health of the kids I've met. The only thing I've noticed, is 3 of the 4 smartest kids in school have older parents, but maybe that is just good parenting.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's far too old. Unless you want babies with health issues

I was older than op, my hubby was older than op's guy, and our child is beautifully healthy.
Where do you get this misinfo pp?

You were fortunate, advanced paternal age has been linked to autism and other neuro issues.

The correlation is nowhere near the risk of older mothers. And the cause is not clear. It could be partly that "on the spectrum" men dont have kids until later in life. It's not an irrelevant concern but I wouldn't use this as the sole criterion.

Sorry PP. I know its not what you want to hear but https://www.autismspeaks.org/science/science-news/study-ties-dad’s-age-risk-autism-other-mental-disorders-kids

Sorry, pp, but every parent I have met with autistic kids or add kids HAS BEEN THE YOUNG ONES. In 15+ years of marriage and socializing, I've seen no correlation between age and the health of the kids I've met. The only thing I've noticed, is 3 of the 4 smartest kids in school have older parents, but maybe that is just good parenting.

Well your anecdotal experience is obviously what should be listened to rather than hard data. Thanks PP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a child of parents with that sort of age difference. The advice I transmit to you from my mother is Do Not Marry Him. They've been married forever. My mom is a sprightly 72 now. My dad is a frail late eighties. Here is what mom had to say:

- know that if you marry him, you will live by his age and by his timeline. You will do things that men his age want to do.

- initially he will try to act young and do young things to please you, but as he grows comfortable, he will revert to his natural behavior, which goes with his age.

- because of the above, you will age prematurely. That is, if you are 30, you will live like a 42-year old.

- by way of a personal anecdote, my dad now requires close supervision and care, and cannot live alone. Mom is going strong and would love more than anything to be with her grandchildren (and adult children), but unfortunately cannot leave dad on his own to stay with us. She resents that very much and says he makes her live an old life.

Short summary: this age gap is fine in the beginning but a very bad deal for the young woman (good deal for the guy, though).

+1

[Anonymous]

My mother remarried when she was 36 and DSF was 64 (I was 12). Stepdad gave us all a huge socioeconomic boost, but died of cancer 14 yrs later. At the time they met, he was recently retired and ready to travel. He had been an executive and was accustomed to being cared for (he was an incredibly smart guy, but couldn't boil water), so her career ended and she became a stay at home spouse. I don't think mom has any regrets, but she's been alone since she was 50 (she's 78 now). The PP who said May-December relationships move at the pace of December was right.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's far too old. Unless you want babies with health issues

I was older than op, my hubby was older than op's guy, and our child is beautifully healthy.
Where do you get this misinfo pp?

You were fortunate, advanced paternal age has been linked to autism and other neuro issues.

The correlation is nowhere near the risk of older mothers. And the cause is not clear. It could be partly that "on the spectrum" men dont have kids until later in life. It's not an irrelevant concern but I wouldn't use this as the sole criterion.

Sorry PP. I know its not what you want to hear but https://www.autismspeaks.org/science/science-news/study-ties-dad’s-age-risk-autism-other-mental-disorders-kids

Sorry, pp, but every parent I have met with autistic kids or add kids HAS BEEN THE YOUNG ONES. In 15+ years of marriage and socializing, I've seen no correlation between age and the health of the kids I've met. The only thing I've noticed, is 3 of the 4 smartest kids in school have older parents, but maybe that is just good parenting.

Well your anecdotal experience is obviously what should be listened to rather than hard data. Thanks PP.

It is experience. It is not fabricated. And in 15 + yrs, I have yet to meet older parents whose children have suffered any ill health because their parents were older. In 15 yrs, I have met kids who benefited from having older experienced parents. It is a fact, and yes, I know what anecdotal is. And if you choose to ignore the voice of experience, go ahead. See if I care. The fact is, you will listen to no one and you will gladly throw your statistics out the window as soon as it suits you. So stop acting like you will fall on your sword for them, you are coming across as a drama queen.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He's far too old. Unless you want babies with health issues

I was older than op, my hubby was older than op's guy, and our child is beautifully healthy.
Where do you get this misinfo pp?

Just because you dodged a bullet doesn't mean that science is wrong.