Too big an age gap?

[Anonymous]

I'm 32 and dating a guy who is 47. I'm not sure where the relationship is headed but I do worry that it might be too big an age gap. What's the biggest age gap others have faced and how did it work out? I'm not desperate to get married and have kids but I do know the clock is ticking.

[Anonymous]

At age 32, I don't care how old the other person is, I'd want to know where they are with regard to getting married and having children. That is not something you want to wait to find out whether he's 32, 42 or 52.

[Anonymous]

My MIL is more than 20 years younger than her husband, and they are very happy. Been married 30+ years now.

[Anonymous]

At your age I don't think 15 years itself is a big deal. I think what's more important is you need to figure out what you want in life.

At 32 you should be able to answer with a reasonable amount of certainty if you want kids and marriage.

You should know the kind of thing you want and need out of partner/husband/ father and be able to seek them out in a guy.

[Anonymous]

Too big a gap

[Anonymous]

I think the biggest issue can be his baggage -- he's got 15 years' more baggage than OP. Does he have kids and an ex-wife? If not, why?

[Anonymous]

Ew.

[Anonymous]

What attracts you to senior citizens, OP?

[Anonymous]

Op has he got young children or teens, or none? Does he want to have another family??

[Anonymous]

I have a friend who is very serious with a guy who is 13 years older (she is 40). I think he's the best boyfriend she has ever had.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't want to breed with someone that old. Big likelihood the baby would have issues. Lots of studies document issues caused by advanced paternal age.

Having said that, I doubt a 47 year old man wants kids anyway. He might not even want a wife. If he's never married, chances are he enjoys being on his own.

[Anonymous]

Does this bring back a memory! I was 30 and was at an Apple store and ran into a friend (acquaintance?) of my parents who was about 50, divorced and an empty nester. She had a computer problem and Apple told her we can give you an appt in a week. I told her I could check it out for her that evening, so I did. At her place we were chatting about general stuff and then the wine encouraged conversation drifted into what its like to be single and 30 and divorced and 50-ish. It didn't take long for us to end up in her bed and she was awesome. She was also beautiful and smart. For about six months we were FWB's but I knew I wanted to have children and that the age gap was going to be a huge problem for both our families. She felt the same way so no one ever knew about our relationship but us. I'm now happily married with a child but sadly, she is still divorced. If she had been 40-ish when we met you never know what might have happened.

OP, this likely doesn't help you with your problem but it brought back a fond memory!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the biggest issue can be his baggage -- he's got 15 years' more baggage than OP. Does he have kids and an ex-wife? If not, why?

Ex wife yes, kids no.

[Anonymous]

Damn people- could be a kind, handsome 47 year old who looks 40.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the biggest issue can be his baggage -- he's got 15 years' more baggage than OP. Does he have kids and an ex-wife? If not, why?

Ex wife yes, kids no.

Why didn't he have kids?