Bringing your own toys to the playground-what's the etiquette?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So if I bring an apple for my kid as a snack, am I supposed to share with you because your kid is distracted and wants one?

Haha NOPE!! Youre crazy op.

This reminds me when my kids were younger and I would have snacks for them- inevitably, there would be one or two little ones hovering around us looking at us, crying and reaching for our snacks. It was so awkward. I would have to ignore them and or say no. Obv. it was distracting for them but according to OP I should have to share because of etiquette? I'll agree with PP... NOPE!

Snacks and toys are not analogous. It's routine to bring snacks and water to a playground and if a kid gets hungry bc she's inspired by your kid's snack, her parent should feed her. People don't routinely bring toys to playgrounds because the playground is sufficiently entertaining.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course they can bring their own toy. No, they don't have to share while they are actively playing with it. No one ever has to share (whether they are playing with it or not)...but offering turns is always nice and appreciated. To little kids, babies are annoying and can ruin games because they want to grab everything and 'get in the way'. The father was there to play with his kid, not yours. That's just kind of how it goes.

This is how I feel too.

You can't "offer a turn" of frisbee to an 18 month old. They can't play that game so what would happen is the 18 month old if offered to play would pick it up, hold it, and have a fucking meltdown when mom intervened to take it and give it back. Because that's what they do.

I truly hope one day when OPs kid is older she makes him dutifully share every ball and frisbee he ever brings to the playground with tiny toddlers and makes him invite even the babies to join him in his games. Since she expects the world to do that for him now with great umbrage and indignation if they do not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course they can bring their own toy. No, they don't have to share while they are actively playing with it. No one ever has to share (whether they are playing with it or not)...but offering turns is always nice and appreciated. To little kids, babies are annoying and can ruin games because they want to grab everything and 'get in the way'. The father was there to play with his kid, not yours. That's just kind of how it goes.

This is how I feel too.

You can't "offer a turn" of frisbee to an 18 month old. They can't play that game so what would happen is the 18 month old if offered to play would pick it up, hold it, and have a fucking meltdown when mom intervened to take it and give it back. Because that's what they do.

I truly hope one day when OPs kid is older she makes him dutifully share every ball and frisbee he ever brings to the playground with tiny toddlers and makes him invite even the babies to join him in his games. Since she expects the world to do that for him now with great umbrage and indignation if they do not.

First I'm not inconsiderate and thus would not allow my child to bring toys to the playground for this very reason-just as I do not allow it now. Even though it might make MY life easier to bring a toy to the playground or story time, I don't. In the rare circumstance that I would allow my child to bring something, I would absolutely have him be prepared to share it, just like others on this thread have said they do. And I will teach my child to play nicely and gently with other, younger children. It's called socializing, being friendly, and being inclusive.

[Anonymous]

OP, how do you know the dad did not say anything to the 3 year old? Just because he did not yelll nor make a scene doesn't mean the yelling was not addressed.

You need to let this go, OP, versus responding to every post that doesn't agree with your perspective. i am sorry you were annoyed, but a tot lot is open space.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course they can bring their own toy. No, they don't have to share while they are actively playing with it. No one ever has to share (whether they are playing with it or not)...but offering turns is always nice and appreciated. To little kids, babies are annoying and can ruin games because they want to grab everything and 'get in the way'. The father was there to play with his kid, not yours. That's just kind of how it goes.

This is how I feel too.

You can't "offer a turn" of frisbee to an 18 month old. They can't play that game so what would happen is the 18 month old if offered to play would pick it up, hold it, and have a fucking meltdown when mom intervened to take it and give it back. Because that's what they do.

I truly hope one day when OPs kid is older she makes him dutifully share every ball and frisbee he ever brings to the playground with tiny toddlers and makes him invite even the babies to join him in his games. Since she expects the world to do that for him now with great umbrage and indignation if they do not.

First I'm not inconsiderate and thus would not allow my child to bring toys to the playground for this very reason-just as I do not allow it now. Even though it might make MY life easier to bring a toy to the playground or story time, I don't. In the rare circumstance that I would allow my child to bring something, I would absolutely have him be prepared to share it, just like others on this thread have said they do. And I will teach my child to play nicely and gently with other, younger children. It's called socializing, being friendly, and being inclusive.

OP your kid IS 18 MONTHS OLD. Stop saying what you will "never" do and how your son will be when he's older. You have so much learning to do about this whole parenting thing. Stop acting like you know everything and be open to listening to the people who have BTDT and are offering the perspective *you asked for.* You will not have a toddler forever, he's going to grow up and be older one day and you will absolutely be facing this from the opposite side not too far in the future. And no, at that point in time, you are not going to make your kid "be inclusive" with babies at the playground. Go to Gymboree if you want people to have to play with you and your kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course they can bring their own toy. No, they don't have to share while they are actively playing with it. No one ever has to share (whether they are playing with it or not)...but offering turns is always nice and appreciated. To little kids, babies are annoying and can ruin games because they want to grab everything and 'get in the way'. The father was there to play with his kid, not yours. That's just kind of how it goes.

This is how I feel too.

You can't "offer a turn" of frisbee to an 18 month old. They can't play that game so what would happen is the 18 month old if offered to play would pick it up, hold it, and have a fucking meltdown when mom intervened to take it and give it back. Because that's what they do.

I truly hope one day when OPs kid is older she makes him dutifully share every ball and frisbee he ever brings to the playground with tiny toddlers and makes him invite even the babies to join him in his games. Since she expects the world to do that for him now with great umbrage and indignation if they do not.

First I'm not inconsiderate and thus would not allow my child to bring toys to the playground for this very reason-just as I do not allow it now. Even though it might make MY life easier to bring a toy to the playground or story time, I don't. In the rare circumstance that I would allow my child to bring something, I would absolutely have him be prepared to share it, just like others on this thread have said they do. And I will teach my child to play nicely and gently with other, younger children. It's called socializing, being friendly, and being inclusive.

OP your kid IS 18 MONTHS OLD. Stop saying what you will "never" do and how your son will be when he's older. You have so much learning to do about this whole parenting thing. Stop acting like you know everything and be open to listening to the people who have BTDT and are offering the perspective *you asked for.* You will not have a toddler forever, he's going to grow up and be older one day and you will absolutely be facing this from the opposite side not too far in the future. And no, at that point in time, you are not going to make your kid "be inclusive" with babies at the playground. Go to Gymboree if you want people to have to play with you and your kid.

I think I'll be able to handle the tricky minefield of "give the baby a turn" in the future, but thanks for your concern.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think I'll be able to handle the tricky minefield of "give the baby a turn" in the future, but thanks for your concern.

Move on people.
Nothing to see here.
The OP has spoken.

[Anonymous]

This is silly. Does the same "give the toddler a turn" idea apply to throwing a baseball? Playing football? Riding a scooter? Please report back to this thread in 3 or 4 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is silly. Does the same "give the toddler a turn" idea apply to throwing a baseball? Playing football? Riding a scooter? Please report back to this thread in 3 or 4 years.

Yes. These vicious kids who wish to play baseball and IGNORE OP's precious baby are so cruel and she would never ever raise such disgraceful ill mannered children.

Op is the reason everyone laughs at first time toddler moms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is silly. Does the same "give the toddler a turn" idea apply to throwing a baseball? Playing football? Riding a scooter? Please report back to this thread in 3 or 4 years.

Yes. These vicious kids who wish to play baseball and IGNORE OP's precious baby are so cruel and she would never ever raise such disgraceful ill mannered children.

Op is the reason everyone laughs at first time toddler moms.

Not "everyone" laughs at first time moms-that's awful no matter how many kids you have. I have no problem with you laughing at me, that's fine. Also your examples are not applicable for a tot lot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course they can bring their own toy. No, they don't have to share while they are actively playing with it. No one ever has to share (whether they are playing with it or not)...but offering turns is always nice and appreciated. To little kids, babies are annoying and can ruin games because they want to grab everything and 'get in the way'. The father was there to play with his kid, not yours. That's just kind of how it goes.

This is how I feel too.

You can't "offer a turn" of frisbee to an 18 month old. They can't play that game so what would happen is the 18 month old if offered to play would pick it up, hold it, and have a fucking meltdown when mom intervened to take it and give it back. Because that's what they do.

I truly hope one day when OPs kid is older she makes him dutifully share every ball and frisbee he ever brings to the playground with tiny toddlers and makes him invite even the babies to join him in his games. Since she expects the world to do that for him now with great umbrage and indignation if they do not.

First I'm not inconsiderate and thus would not allow my child to bring toys to the playground for this very reason-just as I do not allow it now. Even though it might make MY life easier to bring a toy to the playground or story time, I don't. In the rare circumstance that I would allow my child to bring something, I would absolutely have him be prepared to share it, just like others on this thread have said they do. And I will teach my child to play nicely and gently with other, younger children. It's called socializing, being friendly, and being inclusive.

OP your kid IS 18 MONTHS OLD. Stop saying what you will "never" do and how your son will be when he's older. You have so much learning to do about this whole parenting thing. Stop acting like you know everything and be open to listening to the people who have BTDT and are offering the perspective *you asked for.* You will not have a toddler forever, he's going to grow up and be older one day and you will absolutely be facing this from the opposite side not too far in the future. And no, at that point in time, you are not going to make your kid "be inclusive" with babies at the playground. Go to Gymboree if you want people to have to play with you and your kid.

I think I'll be able to handle the tricky minefield of "give the baby a turn" in the future, but thanks for your concern.

NP. That's far from clear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is silly. Does the same "give the toddler a turn" idea apply to throwing a baseball? Playing football? Riding a scooter? Please report back to this thread in 3 or 4 years.

Yes. These vicious kids who wish to play baseball and IGNORE OP's precious baby are so cruel and she would never ever raise such disgraceful ill mannered children.

Op is the reason everyone laughs at first time toddler moms.

Not "everyone" laughs at first time moms-that's awful no matter how many kids you have. I have no problem with you laughing at me, that's fine. Also your examples are not applicable for a tot lot.

Op omg let it goooooooo you are insufferable. You're already awake, go ahead and take your kid to the tot lot before these wretches of society with toys show up later to be a distraction

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is silly. Does the same "give the toddler a turn" idea apply to throwing a baseball? Playing football? Riding a scooter? Please report back to this thread in 3 or 4 years.

Yes. These vicious kids who wish to play baseball and IGNORE OP's precious baby are so cruel and she would never ever raise such disgraceful ill mannered children.

Op is the reason everyone laughs at first time toddler moms.

Not "everyone" laughs at first time moms-that's awful no matter how many kids you have. I have no problem with you laughing at me, that's fine. Also your examples are not applicable for a tot lot.

Op omg let it goooooooo you are insufferable. You're already awake, go ahead and take your kid to the tot lot before these wretches of society with toys show up later to be a distraction

Omg pp we disagree! I disagree with you! It's ok, don't be so darn controlling-It's early in the morning-don't spend your day trying to change my mind.

[Anonymous]

I've brought many a toy to the park before. My son, 3, always likes to bring a stuffed animal buddy with him and lately we bring sand toys. He's been bringing things for years. I don't make him share if he doesn't want to. He gets plenty of practice sharing in other situations and with his brother. However, if he sees someone else's toy I tell him the same thing and tell him it's someone else's toy and he can't have it. If we have to leave the playground then that's what happens. (Which we have only had to leave one time.) I figure it's the real world and he has to learn that not everything is his. He can't have everything he sees. Now days he takes it pretty well so I think he understands that.

[Anonymous]

Your kid is too young to play frisbee. Your kid is too young to play soccer. Get over it. No one is obligated to share or play with your kid at a public playground.

One day, it will be a popsicle, birthday cake, stomp rocket, water balloons...