Male salary/ income is a deal breaker to women?

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Anonymous wrote:OP here , to the poster who made recent comment about people on here not daying your average fastfood employee.i dont know if youre right or not but i kind of get that draft seeing some of the figures and occupations some people have mentioned in this section.im apart of the "regular people" crowd no 3 figure jobs amongst me my family or friends.so now im even more curious to know if women with this big paying jobs would give a mcdonalds employee (of moderate age) the time of day or automatically consider him to be a loser just because of his occupation.

OP why do you want to be considered by these women with big paying jobs? Why does it matter to you?

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Anonymous wrote:OP here i appreciate all the women honest opinions.i hear some women say they could careless about how much a guy makes long as he is good to them overall and i wondered how true that statement was to majority of women.

Also OP this board is full of a lot of petty, spoiled people who think a HHI of 400K is "middle class" ... It may be representative of DC but it isn't representative of the world at large.

Exactly. Head about 40 miles outside of the radius and you will find plenty of women who have no problem with Burger King guy...

You think a woman in Leesburg is going to be happy with a guy that works at BK? Ummmmm, I grew up in the Shenandoah Valley and a good job was working for the state or county. BK and Walmart was for losers who were going nowhere fast. We're not as low rent as your petty fantasies.

Ok then. So maybe you can answer: who does a Burger King employee date? Do fast food workers just tend to date other fast food workers?

They don't get married to each other, studies have shown that low income women do not see the need to marry low income men, "they can do bad on their own".

So? Why is that my problem?

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Ok then. So maybe you can answer: who does a Burger King employee date? Do fast food workers just tend to date other fast food workers?

Most fast food employees are young. The older ones obviously are not dating your typical DCUMer. Some of them are between jobs, have addiction issues, dealt with adversity, or are simply from a modest walk of life where having a modest job is nothing to be ashamed of.

I can't express enough how out of touch people in DC are. There is a whole world of people that make under $40k per year and don't consider themselves poor or losers. Many of you would be at a loss to live outside of the affluent cocoons of DC/Boston/NYC/SF etc.

But then who do fast food workers in DC date? And FWIW, $40K goes a lot further just about anywhere in the US than DC/Boston/NYC/SF.

Fast food workers date other fast food workers or maybe retail workers.

Hot female fast food workers date upper class men.

No, not really. Upper class men may date hot women who are not particularly educated and high-achieving, but they typically have some kind of job that allows those men to introduce their girlfriends to their social circle without feelings embarrassed. You can say your girlfriend works at a law firm without mentioning she's the receptionist.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here i appreciate all the women honest opinions.i hear some women say they could careless about how much a guy makes long as he is good to them overall and i wondered how true that statement was to majority of women.

Also OP this board is full of a lot of petty, spoiled people who think a HHI of 400K is "middle class" ... It may be representative of DC but it isn't representative of the world at large.

Exactly. Head about 40 miles outside of the radius and you will find plenty of women who have no problem with Burger King guy...

You think a woman in Leesburg is going to be happy with a guy that works at BK? Ummmmm, I grew up in the Shenandoah Valley and a good job was working for the state or county. BK and Walmart was for losers who were going nowhere fast. We're not as low rent as your petty fantasies.

Ok then. So maybe you can answer: who does a Burger King employee date? Do fast food workers just tend to date other fast food workers?

They don't get married to each other, studies have shown that low income women do not see the need to marry low income men, "they can do bad on their own".

So? Why is that my problem?

Is this OP? Are you wondering why this is your problem?

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OP here..to pp no thats not me asking whats the problem.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here , to the poster who made recent comment about people on here not daying your average fastfood employee.i dont know if youre right or not but i kind of get that draft seeing some of the figures and occupations some people have mentioned in this section.im apart of the "regular people" crowd no 3 figure jobs amongst me my family or friends.so now im even more curious to know if women with this big paying jobs would give a mcdonalds employee (of moderate age) the time of day or automatically consider him to be a loser just because of his occupation.

OP why do you want to be considered by these women with big paying jobs? Why does it matter to you?

OP here,

Im just asking a question since we're on the subject. I didnt mention myself as being considered either.i was generally speaking.

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Ok then. So maybe you can answer: who does a Burger King employee date? Do fast food workers just tend to date other fast food workers?

Most fast food employees are young. The older ones obviously are not dating your typical DCUMer. Some of them are between jobs, have addiction issues, dealt with adversity, or are simply from a modest walk of life where having a modest job is nothing to be ashamed of.

I can't express enough how out of touch people in DC are. There is a whole world of people that make under $40k per year and don't consider themselves poor or losers. Many of you would be at a loss to live outside of the affluent cocoons of DC/Boston/NYC/SF etc.

But then who do fast food workers in DC date? And FWIW, $40K goes a lot further just about anywhere in the US than DC/Boston/NYC/SF.

Fast food workers date other fast food workers or maybe retail workers.

Hot female fast food workers date upper class men.

No, not really. Upper class men may date hot women who are not particularly educated and high-achieving, but they typically have some kind of job that allows those men to introduce their girlfriends to their social circle without feelings embarrassed. You can say your girlfriend works at a law firm without mentioning she's the receptionist.

I think the occupation you are looking for is "PR". I'm in my early 30s and should go 450k+ this year. My next wife will be in PR. A wife who values her own career as opposed to other endeavors is just not what I want, if I were starting from scratch.

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Well OP all is fair in love and war, and generally, an unemployed man or a man who has a burger king like job is not going to be attractive to a high-earning woman. That's just the way it is, women have the freedom to date/marry whomever they want to. There are no tricks or smooth talk that can get around this. Living in the DC area,you probably see a lot of successful women, and think that since there are so many of them why can't I just have one, but women have choices.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here , to the poster who made recent comment about people on here not daying your average fastfood employee.i dont know if youre right or not but i kind of get that draft seeing some of the figures and occupations some people have mentioned in this section.im apart of the "regular people" crowd no 3 figure jobs amongst me my family or friends.so now im even more curious to know if women with this big paying jobs would give a mcdonalds employee (of moderate age) the time of day or automatically consider him to be a loser just because of his occupation.

OP why do you want to be considered by these women with big paying jobs? Why does it matter to you?

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Im just asking a question since we're on the subject. I didnt mention myself as being considered either.i was generally speaking.

Umm, we are on the subject because you have brought this topic up on this and multiple threads.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here i appreciate all the women honest opinions.i hear some women say they could careless about how much a guy makes long as he is good to them overall and i wondered how true that statement was to majority of women.

Also OP this board is full of a lot of petty, spoiled people who think a HHI of 400K is "middle class" ... It may be representative of DC but it isn't representative of the world at large.

Exactly. Head about 40 miles outside of the radius and you will find plenty of women who have no problem with Burger King guy...

You think a woman in Leesburg is going to be happy with a guy that works at BK? Ummmmm, I grew up in the Shenandoah Valley and a good job was working for the state or county. BK and Walmart was for losers who were going nowhere fast. We're not as low rent as your petty fantasies.

Ok then. So maybe you can answer: who does a Burger King employee date? Do fast food workers just tend to date other fast food workers?

They don't get married to each other, studies have shown that low income women do not see the need to marry low income men, "they can do bad on their own".

So? Why is that my problem?

Is this OP? Are you wondering why this is your problem?

I'm the pp who asked why this is my problem. I'm also one of the women who posted above to say, essentially, that under the vast majority of circumstances I wouldn't consider dating a guy who worked at Burger King. The question was asked a couple of times, in response to people saying they wouldn't be interested either, who these people date, as if somehow those of us who wouldn't date them are responsible for answering that question. But we're really not. No one is obligated to date anyone, or even consider them.

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Anonymous wrote:It is a deal breaker to me since I am a teacher. If you make less than I do, how do you think you can provide for a family? I don't want to be the breadwinner as a teacher.

In most parts of the country two teachers could live comfortably. DC is just nuts with cost of living and a general sense of entitlement.

But I don't live in most parts of the country. I live in DC.

I am a teacher married to a teacher. We live comfortably in Silver Spring.

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Anonymous wrote:My income requirement was that he make at least more than me. This is simply because I knew that I could not carry a family on my teacher's salary. I didn't know how much Dh made until a few days before the wedding. However, I knew that he fit the criteria based on his profession.

This makes no sense. You couldn't support a family on your teacher's salary, but what about on double that?

And you committed to marry a guy without knowing the specifics of his finances? Seriously?

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I do not consider myself to be a high earner (a lawyer earning 110k, its the least Ive made in my career thus far, I am totally mommy-tracked myself into a very family-friendly gig).


But I cannot honestly imagine being married to someone who earns less than me.

Yes, I realize my way of thinking is crazy---that 110k is a "low" salary" -- but I am being honest here. I would not respect a man who earned less than me given how much more I could be earning if I was not the primary caregiver to my kiddos.

I am the person at every field trip, at every 3pm "concert" and doing emergency your kiddo had an accident at school please come to and change him type asks. If I went full-throttle, I could easily earn 250+.

So, any spouse of mine would by definition need to be a high earner since I expect a lot from myself and my spouse.

I am re-reading this and recognize how entitled and crazy this sounds to a normal person.

I do not lack perspective. I was born and raised poor in this country (poor). Family of 5 sharing one bedroom and one bathroom, government cheese, poor. I would never want that for my kids. So I work my a@@ off and expect the same from my DH.

Happily married 15 years.

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Anonymous wrote:Well OP all is fair in love and war, and generally, an unemployed man or a man who has a burger king like job is not going to be attractive to a high-earning woman. That's just the way it is, women have the freedom to date/marry whomever they want to. There are no tricks or smooth talk that can get around this. Living in the DC area,you probably see a lot of successful women, and think that since there are so many of them why can't I just have one, but women have choices.

OP here. So the law of attraction is dictated by financial status?i seen an actress who usually dated high paid entertainers state she just wants a "regular guy" she could care less if they worked at burger king.so i dont think your statement of high earning woman holds much weight for every female.

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Anonymous wrote:I do not consider myself to be a high earner (a lawyer earning 110k, its the least Ive made in my career thus far, I am totally mommy-tracked myself into a very family-friendly gig).


But I cannot honestly imagine being married to someone who earns less than me.

Yes, I realize my way of thinking is crazy---that 110k is a "low" salary" -- but I am being honest here. I would not respect a man who earned less than me given how much more I could be earning if I was not the primary caregiver to my kiddos.

I am the person at every field trip, at every 3pm "concert" and doing emergency your kiddo had an accident at school please come to and change him type asks. If I went full-throttle, I could easily earn 250+.

So, any spouse of mine would by definition need to be a high earner since I expect a lot from myself and my spouse.

I am re-reading this and recognize how entitled and crazy this sounds to a normal person.

I do not lack perspective. I was born and raised poor in this country (poor). Family of 5 sharing one bedroom and one bathroom, government cheese, poor. I would never want that for my kids. So I work my a@@ off and expect the same from my DH.

Happily married 15 years.

OP here , i respect your honesty.