Male salary/ income is a deal breaker to women?

[Anonymous]

The actual salary number isn't a dealbreaker, but the ability to live within his means is. I wouldn't consider someone who was deeply in debt with no real way to pay it off. Not my problem.

Agree, I think the crux of it is whether he is financially responsible and overall a considerate person in terms of the family finances. E.g. NOT like some of PP's examples of guys who want their wives to basically give up their careers so they can pursue a pipedream indefinitely. I'd also be fine supporting a guy if he truly embraced the SAHD/household management thing. My concerns would focus more on whether he would really take on this role happily and responsibly (few Dads really seem to and their DWs end up with a brutal second shift) and less on any problem of "supporting him" in the abstract.

[Anonymous]

You need to be employed, it's the sign of a functional adult. Circumstances could change this, such as recently laid off for downsizing, but I expect you to be actively searching for a job at least or working something dead end to pay bills until you get employed again. Just need to know you're a fully functional adult who can handle their own expenses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's a deal breaker for me. I married a man with nothing. Was "always in school". I thought he was ambitious, now I know he was just confused. I should have run when he took me t the movies and I couldn't get anything from the concession stand because he was using his mother's cc and didnt want to spend too much. I'm giving myself away here; but he once got money back on his income tax and posted an fb status telling people to pic a book, any book that had to do with our faith and he'd buy it. We had no savings!!!! The week before his bank acct was -1200. I knew then that I wouldn't spend my life with him

OP here. Lol ouch (sorry for laughing but that concession stand part was crazy)

[Anonymous]

OP here. Basically ladies you find a man who treats you and your kids like royalty he only wants to be with you no other women yet he works at burger king . but says he wants to find something better.does he have a chance with you?

[Anonymous]

I met my DH in college and had no idea of his earning potential.

Together we now make about 500k/yr so life is good. If I were in thr dating world, as a professional, I'd expect that. No salary requirement, but ambition and a career is a must. It's the standard I hold myself to, so there's that.

[Anonymous]

No, that is not what I think. I don't consider working at BK a long-term, stable career for a responsible adult...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Basically ladies you find a man who treats you and your kids like royalty he only wants to be with you no other women yet he works at burger king . but says he wants to find something better.does he have a chance with you?

If he looks like Brad Pitt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Basically ladies you find a man who treats you and your kids like royalty he only wants to be with you no other women yet he works at burger king . but says he wants to find something better.does he have a chance with you?

Says he wants to find something better or has a roadmap, goals, and is executing? If he just " says" then no.

Look I'm 40, I'd want to know why a man is 40 and working at burger King. That's a job for a high school or college kid. Not a grown up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If the size of my tits is a deal breaker for you, then it's only fair the size of your wallet is a deal breaker for me. Easy-peasy.

The size of your mouth is the biggest deal breaker for me. Easy peasy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unemployed is a non-starter for me.

Me, too. I'm very skeptical of unemployed or significantly underemployed men. My dad was one and it wasn't pretty. I don't care if a man doesn't make a lot, but have a gainful career or some sort. Show some dedication and drive. You don't have to be type A, but if you are like the lazy dad next door who let his post-heart attack wife do all the shoveling, you disgust me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Basically ladies you find a man who treats you and your kids like royalty he only wants to be with you no other women yet he works at burger king . but says he wants to find something better.does he have a chance with you?

Is he taking orders or is he the manager?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If the size of my tits is a deal breaker for you, then it's only fair the size of your wallet is a deal breaker for me. Easy-peasy.

fair trade

They call it meat market for a reason...

[Anonymous]

Unemployed doesn't work for me.

I'm a go-getter and I want that in a spouse. Honestly DH would never be unemployed. He always has companies interested in him in case he's thinking of changing jobs (he isn't, but the offers are nice).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Basically ladies you find a man who treats you and your kids like royalty he only wants to be with you no other women yet he works at burger king . but says he wants to find something better.does he have a chance with you?

If he works at headquarters in marketing, yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Basically ladies you find a man who treats you and your kids like royalty he only wants to be with you no other women yet he works at burger king . but says he wants to find something better.does he have a chance with you?

Is he taking orders or is he the manager?

Does he work towards his goals? Goes to school? Remember, not every woman in the world is UMC. Plenty of working-class ladies out there who would be proud to have a guy who has specific goals and diligently works to achieve them.