Secret about your child

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My children are the best people I know. I like them more than any other children I've ever met. Including yours.

How is this a secret? This is how parents are supposed to feel, how we are programmed to feel. Otherwise we'd leave them on the side of the road during the hard parts.

I promise you're children aren't inherently or objectively more likable.

Exactly. I find my children more beautiful, more intelligent, and more humorous than any other child I've met.

Yeah, but the difference here is that mine actually are!

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Anonymous wrote:My 7 year old DS comes into our bed every night in the middle of the night- usually around 2 or 3 am.

He first started around 4.5/5, and we were just so tired and thought it was a phase that would naturally pass. Initially, he also didn't do it every night.

Not it is every night. And he is 7. And he is getting bigger. And our bed is a queen size. And sometimes he is a restless sleeper.

And we're still tired. Sometimes my husband will be unable to sleep about getting pummeled and will go sleep in DS's empty bed.

Is this going to resolve itself?

Our 6 year old does this (her sister sleeps like a rock) Not every night, but when she does, my DH will usually go to the guest room to sleep the rest of the night.

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My eldest is a delicate flower. I'm putting her in sports because I want her to learn about teamwork and sportmanship, but I am pretty sure she's a nerd and not cut out for athletics in the long run.

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Anonymous wrote:I thought these secrets would be a little heavier. Not that these aren't major issues. But I know two families and know some very heavy secrets about them. One has a highschool DD who has HIV and the other is raising a transgendered child. Nobody at their children's schools knows this.

I hope these kids are getting the help and support they need and that this isn't shoved under the carpet because they think it's "shameful." I can absolutely understand not wanting to widely share these things, but the HIV is a safety issue, and I imagine the transgender child would benefit from plenty of support and perhaps therapy to help find ways to deal with the fear of others finding other and the stress of being around people who may be really insensitive about issues like this.

These kids are being raised by two of the best families I know. Full on loving and supportive and completely open to their children. Both have received much counseling and are doing their best to raise well adjusted kids. The one with HIV is so well maintained and surpressed at this point that she is living a very healthy lifestyle. I have no idea if they have spoken to the school but they haven't told other parents. And the chances of another child getting the virus are so minimal with how surpressed the virus is at this point. The other child is older elementary and has only started living as the opposite sex in the past two years. The child had just transferred to another school because the family had just moved. It seemed to be the best time to make this transition. This child and family receives lots of support and counseling. But telling other students would destroy this child. This child already is experiencing huge anxiety issues and does not want anyone to know. Both situations are not something I would wish on anyone.

WHAT? Umm, kids cut themselves ALL THE TIME. Jesus, I hope this child isn't in the same care as my child. They are obligated to disclose this information to the care center.

Umm.. relax. She's in highschool.

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My almost 6 years old still wears a pull up at night or he will wake up soaking WET. We don't know any kid his age that is still wearing diapers/pullups at night. Child said he has tried but still "I pee alot at night, mom. I can't get up to go to the bathroom. I tried many times, mom. I will fall out of the bed if I try." And this is a kid that everyone says he's so well trained in manners, eating, dressing being nice. But, that has nothing to do with biological functions.
I blame it on the dumb loft bed which is high and hard to get off at night in the dark. And DH always encourage him to drink enough water...at NIGHT before bed!
But, it's not the end of the world.

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How did the DD contract HIV? I would never say it IRL but this freaks me out. I saw/read something a few years ago about people adopting babies who have HIV, most of whom contracted it from their drug-addicted mothers. When my ds was in daycare he was bit three times by another baby, then bit a fourth time and she drew blood. My ped couldn't have been less concerned, as it's a "normal" part of daycare, and the thought of HIV didn't seem to cross anyone's mind. Also, think about the collisions you see in sports where at least one person ends up bleeding. Remote as the chances may be, I worry about this.

I can't believe I have to post these links, but:

http://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/bhcv2/bhcarticles.nsf/pages/HIV_AIDS_hepatitis_and_sport

http://www.avert.org/hiv-transmission-questions-answers.htm

HIV is much, much less virulent than other blood-borne diseases like Hepatitis, and even less so now that there are so many excellent drugs to suppress the virus. I'd be way more worried about a local infection from the bite you described, and understanding why another child was able to bite your kid four separate times, than HIV!! People fought long and hard to destigmatize HIV, remember Ryan White? Please don't undo their decades of courageous work by spreading misinformation and fear-mongering.

You're a millennial, aren't you?

Not sure how that's relevant...but to answer your question, no, I'm not.

Millennials aren't taking HIV seriously.

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Millennials aren't taking HIV seriously.

That may be the case, but it's not an excuse to spread misinformation and fear-monger at the expense of innocent people! FWIW, I take HIV (and other infectious diseases) more seriously than you can possibly guess...and I think one of the keys to preventing the spread of such diseases is to make sure people are properly educated about risks and prevention.

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Anonymous wrote:My kid is currently getting way more screen time than I ever thought I would allow. Like multiple hours every day. Every day I swear I'm taking that iPad away, but then I fail, or succeed a little then give up. I'm having a tough time myself recently. Depression, anxiety, marriage is a mess, think spouse is cheating, DC has some special needs and is not an easy kid and I just don't have energy these days. I feel like a massive parenting failure because I can't seem to manage simp,e things like getting a fairly balanced/normal dinner on plus keeping house somewhat organized, etc. etc. my to do list is expanding and when my kid is on the iPad she's happy and I can have the best chance of getting stuff done.

Do what you gotta do!! Sounds like you are dealing with a lot. No harm done with the ipad. Hand in there, and good luck =)

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hand/hang

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Most nights after the second night feeding I let DS cosleep with us. Actually, he usually sleeps on me while I am propped up slightly on a couple pillows. This has kept me sane during these first few months. I'm too ashamed to tell my relatives we do this, because they would judge me.

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Anonymous wrote:I will not betray the trust between my children and I by revealing their secrets.

+1 Their trust is precious to me. No way I'd breach that, even on an anonymous message board.

100. The betrayal on this thread is breathtaking.

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Anonymous wrote:I will not betray the trust between my children and I by revealing their secrets.

+1 Their trust is precious to me. No way I'd breach that, even on an anonymous message board.

100. The betrayal on this thread is breathtaking.

As is the sanctimony.

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Anonymous wrote:Most nights after the second night feeding I let DS cosleep with us. Actually, he usually sleeps on me while I am propped up slightly on a couple pillows. This has kept me sane during these first few months. I'm too ashamed to tell my relatives we do this, because they would judge me.

Screw them-our one year old has barely spent any time in her crib. And we just don't care that much-she's so damn cute and sleeps great with us. I don't mind having her with us.

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How did the DD contract HIV? I would never say it IRL but this freaks me out. I saw/read something a few years ago about people adopting babies who have HIV, most of whom contracted it from their drug-addicted mothers. When my ds was in daycare he was bit three times by another baby, then bit a fourth time and she drew blood. My ped couldn't have been less concerned, as it's a "normal" part of daycare, and the thought of HIV didn't seem to cross anyone's mind. Also, think about the collisions you see in sports where at least one person ends up bleeding. Remote as the chances may be, I worry about this.

I can't believe I have to post these links, but:

http://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/bhcv2/bhcarticles.nsf/pages/HIV_AIDS_hepatitis_and_sport

http://www.avert.org/hiv-transmission-questions-answers.htm

HIV is much, much less virulent than other blood-borne diseases like Hepatitis, and even less so now that there are so many excellent drugs to suppress the virus. I'd be way more worried about a local infection from the bite you described, and understanding why another child was able to bite your kid four separate times, than HIV!! People fought long and hard to destigmatize HIV, remember Ryan White? Please don't undo their decades of courageous work by spreading misinformation and fear-mongering.

You're a millennial, aren't you?

Idiot. PP wouldn't remember Ryan White if she was a millennial. Stop being so ignorant, you witch.

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I love page 6 was all one bitchy person responding to previous posts!