Secret about your child

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 7 year old DS comes into our bed every night in the middle of the night- usually around 2 or 3 am.

He first started around 4.5/5, and we were just so tired and thought it was a phase that would naturally pass. Initially, he also didn't do it every night.

Not it is every night. And he is 7. And he is getting bigger. And our bed is a queen size. And sometimes he is a restless sleeper.

And we're still tired. Sometimes my husband will be unable to sleep about getting pummeled and will go sleep in DS's empty bed.

Is this going to resolve itself?

Eventually
I know a family like this... they all played musical beds every night, apparently, like a bunch of damn house cats sleeping all over the place. Everyone is now grown, out of the house, and seems reasonably well adjusted. So in the grand scheme of things, if you are okay with it (sleeping okay and such) then I say just let it take it's course.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I thought these secrets would be a little heavier. Not that these aren't major issues. But I know two families and know some very heavy secrets about them. One has a highschool DD who has HIV and the other is raising a transgendered child. Nobody at their children's schools knows this.

I hope these kids are getting the help and support they need and that this isn't shoved under the carpet because they think it's "shameful." I can absolutely understand not wanting to widely share these things, but the HIV is a safety issue, and I imagine the transgender child would benefit from plenty of support and perhaps therapy to help find ways to deal with the fear of others finding other and the stress of being around people who may be really insensitive about issues like this.

These kids are being raised by two of the best families I know. Full on loving and supportive and completely open to their children. Both have received much counseling and are doing their best to raise well adjusted kids. The one with HIV is so well maintained and surpressed at this point that she is living a very healthy lifestyle. I have no idea if they have spoken to the school but they haven't told other parents. And the chances of another child getting the virus are so minimal with how surpressed the virus is at this point. The other child is older elementary and has only started living as the opposite sex in the past two years. The child had just transferred to another school because the family had just moved. It seemed to be the best time to make this transition. This child and family receives lots of support and counseling. But telling other students would destroy this child. This child already is experiencing huge anxiety issues and does not want anyone to know. Both situations are not something I would wish on anyone.

How did the DD contract HIV? I would never say it IRL but this freaks me out. I saw/read something a few years ago about people adopting babies who have HIV, most of whom contracted it from their drug-addicted mothers. When my ds was in daycare he was bit three times by another baby, then bit a fourth time and she drew blood. My ped couldn't have been less concerned, as it's a "normal" part of daycare, and the thought of HIV didn't seem to cross anyone's mind. Also, think about the collisions you see in sports where at least one person ends up bleeding. Remote as the chances may be, I worry about this.

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My child has autism.

[Anonymous]

My kid is currently getting way more screen time than I ever thought I would allow. Like multiple hours every day. Every day I swear I'm taking that iPad away, but then I fail, or succeed a little then give up. I'm having a tough time myself recently. Depression, anxiety, marriage is a mess, think spouse is cheating, DC has some special needs and is not an easy kid and I just don't have energy these days. I feel like a massive parenting failure because I can't seem to manage simp,e things like getting a fairly balanced/normal dinner on plus keeping house somewhat organized, etc. etc. my to do list is expanding and when my kid is on the iPad she's happy and I can have the best chance of getting stuff done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Eventually
I know a family like this... they all played musical beds every night, apparently, like a bunch of damn house cats sleeping all over the place. Everyone is now grown, out of the house, and seems reasonably well adjusted. So in the grand scheme of things, if you are okay with it (sleeping okay and such) then I say just let it take it's course.

I love this!! Our family is exactly like a bunch of damn house cats at night.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid is currently getting way more screen time than I ever thought I would allow. Like multiple hours every day. Every day I swear I'm taking that iPad away, but then I fail, or succeed a little then give up. I'm having a tough time myself recently. Depression, anxiety, marriage is a mess, think spouse is cheating, DC has some special needs and is not an easy kid and I just don't have energy these days. I feel like a massive parenting failure because I can't seem to manage simp,e things like getting a fairly balanced/normal dinner on plus keeping house somewhat organized, etc. etc. my to do list is expanding and when my kid is on the iPad she's happy and I can have the best chance of getting stuff done.

When I was a kid I routinely watched 2-3 hours of tv per day. Sesame Street, Mr Rogers, 3-2-1 Contact, Electric Company all before dinner. Then Silver Spoons and something else after dinner from 8-9pm. I also read a shit-ton of books, did tons of imaginative play and creative writing, danced, acted, played sports..

Just sort of ... always made time for tv. Probably watched two hours at minimum every day through high school. Now an adult and still watch two to three hours of tv at night while doing mail, laundry, working out, etc. I still read, write, keep the house neat, play with the kids, care for the dog, etc. For some kids it's a problem, for other kids tv can be fine.

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I love both of my kids. I really do. But I really love my first and I definitely like him more. And I honestly am so disappointed in myself for this. I tell people that you love both children equally.. but its not really true in my case. I love both of them in different ways. But my first just has a bigger piece of my heart.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My 7 year old DS comes into our bed every night in the middle of the night- usually around 2 or 3 am.

He first started around 4.5/5, and we were just so tired and thought it was a phase that would naturally pass. Initially, he also didn't do it every night.

Not it is every night. And he is 7. And he is getting bigger. And our bed is a queen size. And sometimes he is a restless sleeper.

And we're still tired. Sometimes my husband will be unable to sleep about getting pummeled and will go sleep in DS's empty bed.

Is this going to resolve itself?

Eventually
I know a family like this... they all played musical beds every night, apparently, like a bunch of damn house cats sleeping all over the place. Everyone is now grown, out of the house, and seems reasonably well adjusted. So in the grand scheme of things, if you are okay with it (sleeping okay and such) then I say just let it take it's course.

This is us too. We got a king bed. Life is much happier.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My 2.5 yr still does 3 bottles a day.

My 3 yr old is on two bottles a day. Have I tried to make her quit!

Lock the liquor cabinet?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love both of my kids. I really do. But I really love my first and I definitely like him more. And I honestly am so disappointed in myself for this. I tell people that you love both children equally.. but its not really true in my case. I love both of them in different ways. But my first just has a bigger piece of my heart.

+ 1 and hate myself for admitting it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

How did the DD contract HIV? I would never say it IRL but this freaks me out. I saw/read something a few years ago about people adopting babies who have HIV, most of whom contracted it from their drug-addicted mothers. When my ds was in daycare he was bit three times by another baby, then bit a fourth time and she drew blood. My ped couldn't have been less concerned, as it's a "normal" part of daycare, and the thought of HIV didn't seem to cross anyone's mind. Also, think about the collisions you see in sports where at least one person ends up bleeding. Remote as the chances may be, I worry about this.

I can't believe I have to post these links, but:

http://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/bhcv2/bhcarticles.nsf/pages/HIV_AIDS_hepatitis_and_sport

http://www.avert.org/hiv-transmission-questions-answers.htm

HIV is much, much less virulent than other blood-borne diseases like Hepatitis, and even less so now that there are so many excellent drugs to suppress the virus. I'd be way more worried about a local infection from the bite you described, and understanding why another child was able to bite your kid four separate times, than HIV!! People fought long and hard to destigmatize HIV, remember Ryan White? Please don't undo their decades of courageous work by spreading misinformation and fear-mongering.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

How did the DD contract HIV? I would never say it IRL but this freaks me out. I saw/read something a few years ago about people adopting babies who have HIV, most of whom contracted it from their drug-addicted mothers. When my ds was in daycare he was bit three times by another baby, then bit a fourth time and she drew blood. My ped couldn't have been less concerned, as it's a "normal" part of daycare, and the thought of HIV didn't seem to cross anyone's mind. Also, think about the collisions you see in sports where at least one person ends up bleeding. Remote as the chances may be, I worry about this.

I can't believe I have to post these links, but:

http://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/bhcv2/bhcarticles.nsf/pages/HIV_AIDS_hepatitis_and_sport

http://www.avert.org/hiv-transmission-questions-answers.htm

HIV is much, much less virulent than other blood-borne diseases like Hepatitis, and even less so now that there are so many excellent drugs to suppress the virus. I'd be way more worried about a local infection from the bite you described, and understanding why another child was able to bite your kid four separate times, than HIV!! People fought long and hard to destigmatize HIV, remember Ryan White? Please don't undo their decades of courageous work by spreading misinformation and fear-mongering.

You're a millennial, aren't you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

How did the DD contract HIV? I would never say it IRL but this freaks me out. I saw/read something a few years ago about people adopting babies who have HIV, most of whom contracted it from their drug-addicted mothers. When my ds was in daycare he was bit three times by another baby, then bit a fourth time and she drew blood. My ped couldn't have been less concerned, as it's a "normal" part of daycare, and the thought of HIV didn't seem to cross anyone's mind. Also, think about the collisions you see in sports where at least one person ends up bleeding. Remote as the chances may be, I worry about this.

I can't believe I have to post these links, but:

http://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/bhcv2/bhcarticles.nsf/pages/HIV_AIDS_hepatitis_and_sport

http://www.avert.org/hiv-transmission-questions-answers.htm

HIV is much, much less virulent than other blood-borne diseases like Hepatitis, and even less so now that there are so many excellent drugs to suppress the virus. I'd be way more worried about a local infection from the bite you described, and understanding why another child was able to bite your kid four separate times, than HIV!! People fought long and hard to destigmatize HIV, remember Ryan White? Please don't undo their decades of courageous work by spreading misinformation and fear-mongering.

You're a millennial, aren't you?

Not sure how that's relevant...but to answer your question, no, I'm not.

[Anonymous]

She insists I accompany her to the potty because she doesn't like to be alone in a room, and also I still brush her teeth for her. She is 6!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 9 year old won't go upstairs or downstairs by himself unless someone is on the house level that he wants to go to. Drives me nuts.

That is my kid. Scared to be alone on one floor of the house. Unless she is watching TV and doesn't realize you are gone. Then she throws a shit fit when she figures it out, even if there is absolutely nothing wrong.