Secret about your child

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Re: the HIV+ child and generational issues.

When aids first became an epidemic, it WAS a death sentence. Research and treatments are making it something one can live with.

However, just because it is survivable doesn't make it something you want to contract. Not to mention the other stds still out there and also stuff that could kill you.

Don't slack off on condoms just because HIV is no longer an immediate death sentence.

How is not wanting to stigmatize HIV the same as choosing not to use condoms?! It just really makes me sad to see how misinformed the statements regarding people, especially children, with HIV are. Especially when the number of AIDS orphans in the African continent is exploding, and we may well see larger numbers of children adopted to the US who have HIV. Please, don't let your kids treat these children as pariahs!!

I'm the PP who originally brought up the millennial thing, and I stand by my comment. Don't stigmatize, but treat it seriously. Younger people aren't.

[Anonymous]

I realize this is on a tangent, and I am sorry that we have strayed her.

Certainly, it is a good thing to remove the stigma attached to those living with HIV, especially children.

The point myself and another poster wee making is that because it is no longer as scary as it used to be due to research and treatments, one shouldn't disregard safety and contract it or any number other preventable diseases out of stu

[Anonymous]

Dang it - fat fingered the submit button.

Out of stupidity.

There, statement done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

My eldest is a delicate flower. I'm putting her in sports because I want her to learn about teamwork and sportmanship, but I am pretty sure she's a nerd and not cut out for athletics in the long run.


Debate team would teach her about teamwork and sportsmanship, but without making her feel like a failure.

You don't know yet if it will make her feel like a failure. My son is not very athletic and still has fun on his low-key rec soccer team. He's not a good player, but not terrible either, and he has a good time.

Why in the world would not being into sports make a kid feel like a failure? Many, many kids are not into sports and they are perfectly happy and successful, in school, with friends, etc.

I love nerds. So do other nerds (I'm not one). So sick of the assumption that nerds are not good enough. Sports kids bore me.

Personally, I'm sick of people who think kids can be neatly classified as "sports kids" and decide that as a group they're uninteresting. I teach my kids that stereotypes are for people who lack critical thinking skills.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

My eldest is a delicate flower. I'm putting her in sports because I want her to learn about teamwork and sportmanship, but I am pretty sure she's a nerd and not cut out for athletics in the long run.


Debate team would teach her about teamwork and sportsmanship, but without making her feel like a failure.

You don't know yet if it will make her feel like a failure. My son is not very athletic and still has fun on his low-key rec soccer team. He's not a good player, but not terrible either, and he has a good time.

Why in the world would not being into sports make a kid feel like a failure? Many, many kids are not into sports and they are perfectly happy and successful, in school, with friends, etc.

I love nerds. So do other nerds (I'm not one). So sick of the assumption that nerds are not good enough. Sports kids bore me.

Personally, I'm sick of people who think kids can be neatly classified as "sports kids" and decide that as a group they're uninteresting. I teach my kids that stereotypes are for people who lack critical thinking skills.

Aren't you sweet.

[Anonymous]

This is just a response to the older bedwetters. I wet the bed until I was 12. I was really concerned when I had children it would be the same for them so I asked a pediatrician about it when mine were younger and it's a chemical imbalance that works itself out when you hit puberty. It was an inconvenience for me and luckily my children were not bedwetters. Please be kind to your children my parents made me feel like trash about it. I was not allowed to drink anything after 5pm and when I wet the bed which was every night I could not get up. I just had to lay in the wet bed and clothes all night. Very damaging psychologically.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is just a response to the older bedwetters. I wet the bed until I was 12. I was really concerned when I had children it would be the same for them so I asked a pediatrician about it when mine were younger and it's a chemical imbalance that works itself out when you hit puberty. It was an inconvenience for me and luckily my children were not bedwetters. Please be kind to your children my parents made me feel like trash about it. I was not allowed to drink anything after 5pm and when I wet the bed which was every night I could not get up. I just had to lay in the wet bed and clothes all night. Very damaging psychologically.

Wow, that's terrible. I wet the bed until I was 6. I recall doing it overnight at a friend's house when I was almost 6 and after that I didn't want to stay over at friends' houses for a few years because I was too embarrassed. I wasn't allowed to drink anything after dinner and that did help. My parents figured I'd grow out of it and I did. As an adult, I still try not to drink too close to bedtime and more often than not I get out of bed around 2 or 3 am to pee. But at least I wake up to do it.

[Anonymous]

My just turned 8 year old DD still sleeps with us most nights of the week. She starts off in her room but them at some point during the night she climbs into our bed. She says she's scared. My husband looks to me to fix it...I'm tired as f**( so I just let her stay. Hopefully we wont have to go to college with her and sleep with her in her dorm.

[Anonymous]

To the bed wetters -- many bed wetters have milk or gluten allergies. They irritate the bladder and make the person want to pee.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok, then this is a secret about myself - I DON'T think my first is the most fabulous kid on earth. She is very, very difficult. She was diagnosed ADHD a couple years ago, and she's been on medication for a year. Things at school have improved, but not so much at home. We're working on finding therapy for the whole family, but trying to navigate that through our insurance company is not easy. The places that get recommended are out of network and way too pricey.

I love the child, but not a fan of the drama. It's just a daily slog and demoralizing for all.

How old is your daughter? I'd like to help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 9 year old won't go upstairs or downstairs by himself unless someone is on the house level that he wants to go to. Drives me nuts.

My son used to do this too - in hindsight, may have been an early sign of anxiety which we did not treat until symptoms worsened at age 11.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is just a response to the older bedwetters. I wet the bed until I was 12. I was really concerned when I had children it would be the same for them so I asked a pediatrician about it when mine were younger and it's a chemical imbalance that works itself out when you hit puberty. It was an inconvenience for me and luckily my children were not bedwetters. Please be kind to your children my parents made me feel like trash about it. I was not allowed to drink anything after 5pm and when I wet the bed which was every night I could not get up. I just had to lay in the wet bed and clothes all night. Very damaging psychologically.

Sarah Silverman wrote a book and wrote about her bedwetting. She said the same thing you did and had the same experience you did. You are not alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To the bed wetters -- many bed wetters have milk or gluten allergies. They irritate the bladder and make the person want to pee.

Please, stop with this ridiculous nonsense. Please, just STOP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

My eldest is a delicate flower. I'm putting her in sports because I want her to learn about teamwork and sportmanship, but I am pretty sure she's a nerd and not cut out for athletics in the long run.


Debate team would teach her about teamwork and sportsmanship, but without making her feel like a failure.

You don't know yet if it will make her feel like a failure. My son is not very athletic and still has fun on his low-key rec soccer team. He's not a good player, but not terrible either, and he has a good time.

Why in the world would not being into sports make a kid feel like a failure? Many, many kids are not into sports and they are perfectly happy and successful, in school, with friends, etc.

I love nerds. So do other nerds (I'm not one). So sick of the assumption that nerds are not good enough. Sports kids bore me.

I love nerds. I hate sports kids or people. Did you know it's an American cultural thing to put down nerds? Nerds are almost revered in some other countries (like the one I grew up before coming to the US for grad studies at an ivy).

[Anonymous]

I still use the power of breastfeeding/comfort sucking on the breast if my 2.5 is not consolable from crying (once a week). It still works magic since she can't suck and cry at the same time. But a newborn is coming soon so I really should stop.