AMA: I am a high achiever raised by awful parents

[Anonymous]

The whole theme of your post disgusts me. Just because you "succeeded" by making a lot of money does not mean you are a great human being. You are probably simply compensating for the pain of your children. Or you are emotionally vacant, or a sadist, or with latent mental illness, or remote with your own children. Who gives a fuck that you became lawyers and doctors? That proves absolutely nothing, except that perhaps trauma compelled you to win at all costs. I imagine you all succeeded probably stepping all over others because you never learned empathy or emotional intelligence as children.

I could be wrong about all of the above but the premise of your post is completely stupid. You said nothing about how you function or how YOU parent today, which speaks volumes.

[Anonymous]

Aren't you just too wonderful for words!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The whole theme of your post disgusts me. Just because you "succeeded" by making a lot of money does not mean you are a great human being. You are probably simply compensating for the pain of your children. Or you are emotionally vacant, or a sadist, or with latent mental illness, or remote with your own children. Who gives a fuck that you became lawyers and doctors? That proves absolutely nothing, except that perhaps trauma compelled you to win at all costs. I imagine you all succeeded probably stepping all over others because you never learned empathy or emotional intelligence as children.

I could be wrong about all of the above but the premise of your post is completely stupid. You said nothing about how you function or how YOU parent today, which speaks volumes.

Wow, this post is more reflective on you PP than the OP. Clearly something is seriously wrong in your life and you're projecting on the OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The whole theme of your post disgusts me. Just because you "succeeded" by making a lot of money does not mean you are a great human being. You are probably simply compensating for the pain of your children. Or you are emotionally vacant, or a sadist, or with latent mental illness, or remote with your own children. Who gives a fuck that you became lawyers and doctors? That proves absolutely nothing, except that perhaps trauma compelled you to win at all costs. I imagine you all succeeded probably stepping all over others because you never learned empathy or emotional intelligence as children.

I could be wrong about all of the above but the premise of your post is completely stupid. You said nothing about how you function or how YOU parent today, which speaks volumes.

Whew, threads that touch on mental illness never fail to attract the mentally ill. What happened in your childhood to fill you with such rage? The anger and poison are just leaping out of your post!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are you throwing this pity party?

The best comment of the whole thread

And this is not for OP - guys, that story about hiring a PI to follow the nanny - wasn't it just priceless? I really feel bad about calling OP about all the contradictory statements so far because I want more of that manic flow of narcissistic creativity.

it's that time of day when the crazies take over the thread. are you really addressing other posters as if we are your girlfriends? bye, felicia!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The whole theme of your post disgusts me. Just because you "succeeded" by making a lot of money does not mean you are a great human being. You are probably simply compensating for the pain of your children. Or you are emotionally vacant, or a sadist, or with latent mental illness, or remote with your own children. Who gives a fuck that you became lawyers and doctors? That proves absolutely nothing, except that perhaps trauma compelled you to win at all costs. I imagine you all succeeded probably stepping all over others because you never learned empathy or emotional intelligence as children.

I could be wrong about all of the above but the premise of your post is completely stupid. You said nothing about how you function or how YOU parent today, which speaks volumes.

Wow, this post is more reflective on you PP than the OP. Clearly something is seriously wrong in your life and you're projecting on the OP.

This. DH and I lived through similar childhoods to go on to personal and professional success and have worked hard to create a loving and healthy environment for our children. Your vitriol and hatred is quite telling--about you.

[Anonymous]

I bet 20:26, 20:50, and 20:55 are the same nut posting repeatedly.

[Anonymous]

What do you mean you contribute $400 of the $650? You donate it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What do you mean you contribute $400 of the $650? You donate it?

You were almost there. If you had left the second line out, your post would have been hilarious. You were a touch heavyhanded with the second line.

[Anonymous]

Ignore the crazies, OP. Well done. Peace to you and yours.

[Anonymous]

PP here of the "vitriolic post." The point is that there are plenty of very outwardly successful people with poor childhoods. It is crazy that the OP never acknowledged how he or she is in their personal life and how their children are. It was like, I made a bunch of money despite my parents. Many Americans use "lawyer" or "doctor" interchangeably with "good person" or "successful person." I would be much more interested in knowing how the OP healed from his or her emotional wounds and managed to progress and care for his/her own children, having had such a poor one. There's no vitriol in this, it's just getting to the heart of the matter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP here of the "vitriolic post." The point is that there are plenty of very outwardly successful people with poor childhoods. It is crazy that the OP never acknowledged how he or she is in their personal life and how their children are. It was like, I made a bunch of money despite my parents. Many Americans use "lawyer" or "doctor" interchangeably with "good person" or "successful person." I would be much more interested in knowing how the OP healed from his or her emotional wounds and managed to progress and care for his/her own children, having had such a poor one. There's no vitriol in this, it's just getting to the heart of the matter.

You are crazy and angry and you need medication. You shouldn't have come back to clarify because you still sound every bit as unhinged. No one ever agrees on anything around here, so when multiple DCUMers agree that you are scary, you know you need help.

Also, try reading the thread. OP spoke a lot about his/her marriage and kids.

[Anonymous]

I am torn about this poster and this thread. On the one hand, I can and do know many individuals who have risen above utter cruelty, pathology, terrorizing parents, etc. and who have accomplished -- along with their siblings -- so very much despite their circumstances. They have my admiration and I appreciate their willingness to share and to reflect. On the other hand, there are people who, for whatever reason, engage in spinning stories that are not true -- sometimes because they are pathological themselves, sometimes for 'fun' -- who knows. My gut is telling me and has told me since the first post that something's askew here, other than the exceptional, horrid abuse the poster reports. (The syntax doesn't work -- at points the poster's language is very sophisticated and at points it's more immature -- and some of the narrative seems to fall apart at points, although if I'd lived the life the poster reports, I'd certainly have trouble sharing it without some 'fall apart.')

I guess, in some ways, it doesn't matter whether the poster is a troll or someone who is able to share his/her story with us (albeit not with his/her spouse).....It *is* true that every day, children survive the abuses the poster reports. If someone finds solace or healing in reading these posts, then perhaps it's all 'okay.'

Peace and healing to those who suffer the kinds of childhoods this poster relates, regardless of this thread's veracity.....

[Anonymous]

My question is about OP saying his parents were actually diagnosed as NPD, bipolar, and BPD. Most people with personality disorders operate in a firm "nothing's wrong with me, YOU"RE the one who's messed up" mindset, and do not seek treatment or diagnosis, because they think they're fine. So how did that come about with your parents getting actual diagnoses?

[Anonymous]

I can't believe I read this entire thread.

Internet friends, this is an obvious fake post. Too tired to detail why, but come on. . .

I do appreciate the other PPs who shared their stories and reactions. Thanks for speaking your truth.

Jeff, help us out and shut this thing down.