Has anyone on here found their spouse on the Ashley Madison list?

[Anonymous]

I don't know why, but I was surprised to see so many Jewish names on the list. I always thought the "good Jewish husbands" were good Jewish husbands, I guess....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: I don't know why, but I was surprised to see so many Jewish names on the list. I always thought the "good Jewish husbands" were good Jewish husbands, I guess....

Being horny and dissatisfied, applies to all men.
Regardless of being a Jew.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think he is lying, too. But he won't admit anything. Now what? I am so frustrated, and he's blowing it off.

Is your marriage otherwise good? Then just go on with life. Blissful ignorance is better than bitter divorced.

When did this site get taken over by middle aged men drowning in mid life crisis? Blissful ignorance is what the louts count on. PP stay with him long enough to get yourself settled financially then run like hell.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My "D"H is on the credit card list. He said he never paid money, just used it to verify his birthday. And his birthday showed up as wrong. He told me he was just curious about the website, had heard a radio ad and wanted to check it out. No intent to cheat, and that he never messaged, met or slept with anyone. He also told me he had mentioned it to me years ago, that he'd looked around on it, and that I must have forgotten. Gaslighting? I don't know what to do now, if he won't confess anything.

Oh no. That's not how it works. All you needed to do in order to "look around" was enter an email address (i.e. [e-mail]). If someone's credit card is in the data, they PAID for services.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think he is lying, too. But he won't admit anything. Now what? I am so frustrated, and he's blowing it off.

Most will normally never admit anything. My husband only admitted an affair when I had the hotel bill in my hands. If you don't want to leave yet, lay low. Play stupid for a while. Do you know what username he used? It's worth a Google. Also Google his email address. If he has multiple email addresses search them all on fb. Sign up for spokeo and search his username email address etc. They will all eventually trip up somehow. Hopefully he was just curious and wanted to chat. But I'm cynical given my experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes and a new fake email address I didn't know about. I confronted him and got the password for AM (he had wiped his account) and then I used the same password to get into his email. I found the mother load there. At least 8 different accounts at various hookup sites, starting from about a year ago. Also an email referring to a pay as you go cell account for a phone I didn't know about.
We have a 2.5 yr old and I'm 3 months pregnant. He's going to have to find a place to stay after he comes by to visit his daughter tonight. I don't want to be near him.

I'm so so sorry. Hugs. My first husband was a filthy dog. Married to a wonderful man now. Transfer all $$ into your name only. Hoard cash & try to live off of joint credit cards. Discreetly liquidate anything of his that's valuable. Get a lawyer but keep meetings & phone calls short and focused.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think he is lying, too. But he won't admit anything. Now what? I am so frustrated, and he's blowing it off.

Most will normally never admit anything. My husband only admitted an affair when I had the hotel bill in my hands. If you don't want to leave yet, lay low. Play stupid for a while. Do you know what username he used? It's worth a Google. Also Google his email address. If he has multiple email addresses search them all on fb. Sign up for spokeo and search his username email address etc. They will all eventually trip up somehow. Hopefully he was just curious and wanted to chat. But I'm cynical given my experience.

Secretly hoard $$$ too

[Anonymous]

No ... but I found someone else's.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Found the name of a guy who is engaged to be married. The marriage is taking place in the near future.

I don't know if his fiancee is aware of this. If I were in her place I'd want to know but that does not mean I should tell her. OTOH, if she finds out later that I knew and did not tell her I don't know what her reaction would be.

How soon is the wedding? If it's in a few months, might be worth a discussion.... If it's too soon to stop, I wouldn't say anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes and a new fake email address I didn't know about. I confronted him and got the password for AM (he had wiped his account) and then I used the same password to get into his email. I found the mother load there. At least 8 different accounts at various hookup sites, starting from about a year ago. Also an email referring to a pay as you go cell account for a phone I didn't know about.
We have a 2.5 yr old and I'm 3 months pregnant. He's going to have to find a place to stay after he comes by to visit his daughter tonight. I don't want to be near him.

I'm so so sorry. Hugs. My first husband was a filthy dog. Married to a wonderful man now. Transfer all $$ into your name only. Hoard cash & try to live off of joint credit cards. Discreetly liquidate anything of his that's valuable. Get a lawyer but keep meetings & phone calls short and focused.

Thank you. Luckily I'm ok financially and actually have way more cash than he does. The only joint acct we have is for paying the mortgage and household expenses. I have my own savings. I'm only worried about how this may affect my daughter and future child. It sounds funny to say but other than this he is a great father and husband (of course this overshadows any of the good he's done as a father). The lies don't stop.

Did you have children when you left?

[Anonymous]

The AM men are gross. They are dumb for using their real names and CC information.

They are bottom of the barrel scrapers.

Yuck. Run ladies.

Once a cheater always a cheater.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes and a new fake email address I didn't know about. I confronted him and got the password for AM (he had wiped his account) and then I used the same password to get into his email. I found the mother load there. At least 8 different accounts at various hookup sites, starting from about a year ago. Also an email referring to a pay as you go cell account for a phone I didn't know about.
We have a 2.5 yr old and I'm 3 months pregnant. He's going to have to find a place to stay after he comes by to visit his daughter tonight. I don't want to be near him.

I'm so so sorry. Hugs. My first husband was a filthy dog. Married to a wonderful man now. Transfer all $$ into your name only. Hoard cash & try to live off of joint credit cards. Discreetly liquidate anything of his that's valuable. Get a lawyer but keep meetings & phone calls short and focused.

Thank you. Luckily I'm ok financially and actually have way more cash than he does. The only joint acct we have is for paying the mortgage and household expenses. I have my own savings. I'm only worried about how this may affect my daughter and future child. It sounds funny to say but other than this he is a great father and husband (of course this overshadows any of the good he's done as a father). The lies don't stop.

Did you have children when you left?

I mean it overshadows all the good he's done as a husband in the past. He's still a good father I'll give him that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The AM men are gross. They are dumb for using their real names and CC information.

They are bottom of the barrel scrapers.

Yuck. Run ladies.

Once a cheater always a cheater.

+1. I'm the pregnant DW with a 2 yr old. I took him back before. Mea culpa.

[Anonymous]

Ridiculous to divorce a man who is a good husband and father, over cheating. You'll likely just end up with another cheater anyway because most men just aren't built for monogamy. Better to keep your family intact for the sake of your children. Monogamy is not natural or easy for most men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ridiculous to divorce a man who is a good husband and father, over cheating. You'll likely just end up with another cheater anyway because most men just aren't built for monogamy. Better to keep your family intact for the sake of your children. Monogamy is not natural or easy for most men.

Easy for you to say when you are not in this poster's shoes.