Chevy Chase Club to Parents: Your kids are brats

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Do you mean "shirtsleeves to shirtless"? Don't understand comment.

The expression is "shirtsleeves to shirtsleeves in three generations".

I suppose that generation #2 (child of wealth-accumulating generation #1, parent of spendthrift generation #3) is born and dies wearing a jacket?

You've missed the point. Generation one (shirtsleeves) has nothing, but works hard and makes it, thus giving to their children (generation two) a cushy lifestyle. Generation Two, never having had anything required of them, subsequently takes said company fortune and blows it, thus leaving their children -- Generation Three - nothing, except the opportunity to start all over again in their shirtsleeves.

Both PP and PPP explained the expression, but I admit I've wondered what the middle generation wears, if not shirtsleeves. A silk robe?

[Anonymous]

*bad

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't consider jumping on furniture "wracking the place".Its the sign that children need more physical activity.
I have a different approach and think that trully free person can't be raised in prison.And I don't want him to be raised with bunch of psychological problems,supressed by opinion of this materialistic society .I try to explain what's good or bed,but that would not include "jumping on furniture".

Jumping on the furniture is a sign that children are mannerless brats. Whatever your level of physical activity or imprisonment, you can behave with good manners. But I've heard before that behaving with good manners all the time is middle class, while upper class only use good manners in front of the right people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't consider jumping on furniture "wracking the place".Its the sign that children need more physical activity.
I have a different approach and think that trully free person can't be raised in prison.And I don't want him to be raised with bunch of psychological problems,supressed by opinion of this materialistic society .I try to explain what's good or bed,but that would not include "jumping on furniture".

Jumping on the furniture is a sign that children are mannerless brats. Whatever your level of physical activity or imprisonment, you can behave with good manners. But I've heard before that behaving with good manners all the time is middle class, while upper class only use good manners in front of the right people.

You trully think that once child grow up he will continue to jump on furniture?
What's manners?To me manners are useless if behind hides anger,frustration etc.Thats why the whole country has shrinks,that's why we have people who take the gun and go shoot people.But we have manners.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't consider jumping on furniture "wracking the place".Its the sign that children need more physical activity.
I have a different approach and think that trully free person can't be raised in prison.And I don't want him to be raised with bunch of psychological problems,supressed by opinion of this materialistic society .I try to explain what's good or bed,but that would not include "jumping on furniture".

a truly free person has to live by himself because society doesn't work that way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't consider jumping on furniture "wracking the place".Its the sign that children need more physical activity.
I have a different approach and think that trully free person can't be raised in prison.And I don't want him to be raised with bunch of psychological problems,supressed by opinion of this materialistic society .I try to explain what's good or bed,but that would not include "jumping on furniture".

a truly free person has to live by himself because society doesn't work that way.

I think most of adults need to take some time off and go jump on furniture.It would help to deal with many issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't consider jumping on furniture "wracking the place".Its the sign that children need more physical activity.
I have a different approach and think that trully free person can't be raised in prison.And I don't want him to be raised with bunch of psychological problems,supressed by opinion of this materialistic society .I try to explain what's good or bed,but that would not include "jumping on furniture".

a truly free person has to live by himself because society doesn't work that way.

I think most of adults need to take some time off and go jump on furniture.It would help to deal with many issues.

Only other people's furniture, of course. You don't want to break your own things.

[Anonymous]

Why do rich people like to air their dirty laundry in public. The CC letter should have stayed private just like the letter to STA boys about being nicer to NCS girls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OK, I think this is the time to tell an anecdote of the last time I was at Chevy.


I grew up going there and was recently home visiting my parents for Christmas (I live in Los Angeles now)

I went to the bathroom and while in there a group of young girls were milling around, playing with the hairbrushes and kind of joking with each other. I noticed that one of the girls seemed kind of bossy, but thought nothing of it when I walked up to wash my hands.

The bossy one came up to me and asked how old I was.

Thinking they were sweet little girls, I gave them and a big smile and told them my age, 26.

The girl immediately glared at me and informed me that I dont look 26, I look like a teenager. (This was not intended as a compliment, I can assure you)

This seemed to break some kind of onslaught, and as I dried my hands, one of them shouted at me that she hated my dress.

It was really SO bizarre, and I kind of wanted to say something back, or tell them that they were being completely out of line. But then I realized that I was genuinely thinking of insulting a bunch of ten year olds, so I didn't do it.

BUT I dont think I've ever been so appalled by the behavior of kids. It was really strange.

As I walked away from the bathroom I could hear them saying stuff to a woman who had walked in.

It was pretty gross, like Mean Girls Chevy Edition.

If that's what the kids are like now, I'm glad Chevy is doing something.

So obviously not true.

+1

even 10 year old spoiled brats don't speak or behave that way

Consider yourself lucky you haven't been exposed to this. and remember, there was power from being in a pack.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't consider jumping on furniture "wracking the place".Its the sign that children need more physical activity.
I have a different approach and think that trully free person can't be raised in prison.And I don't want him to be raised with bunch of psychological problems,supressed by opinion of this materialistic society .I try to explain what's good or bed,but that would not include "jumping on furniture".

a truly free person has to live by himself because society doesn't work that way.

I think most of adults need to take some time off and go jump on furniture.It would help to deal with many issues.

Only other people's furniture, of course. You don't want to break your own things.

You know I grew up with father being antique collector.We had some 18th century chairs in the living room and one day I was playing actively and the chair fell down.Since it was so old it just fell apart.I got so scared that my father will kill me.He smiled at me and said :"Dont worry about it they were very old."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't consider jumping on furniture "wracking the place".Its the sign that children need more physical activity.
I have a different approach and think that trully free person can't be raised in prison.And I don't want him to be raised with bunch of psychological problems,supressed by opinion of this materialistic society .I try to explain what's good or bed,but that would not include "jumping on furniture".

If kids need more physical activity then their parents should take them to the gym, out on the ball field, or on a bike ride. They should not drop them at the club. Or aid and abet their disruption of other guests because parent is too lame and lazy to leave the club, their drink, and their buddies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't consider jumping on furniture "wracking the place".Its the sign that children need more physical activity.
I have a different approach and think that trully free person can't be raised in prison.And I don't want him to be raised with bunch of psychological problems,supressed by opinion of this materialistic society .I try to explain what's good or bed,but that would not include "jumping on furniture".

a truly free person has to live by himself because society doesn't work that way.

I think most of adults need to take some time off and go jump on furniture.It would help to deal with many issues.

Only other people's furniture, of course. You don't want to break your own things.

You know I grew up with father being antique collector.We had some 18th century chairs in the living room and one day I was playing actively and the chair fell down.Since it was so old it just fell apart.I got so scared that my father will kill me.He smiled at me and said :"Dont worry about it they were very old."

Your house, your chair. What's with you folks?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: One percenters who operate in the corporate world have a different viewpoint. They want kids who are risk takers and who won't take guff. They want a kid who sees a grade of "B" on a test paper as an initial negotiating point.

How is this sad?

Without risk-takers we wouldn't have Apple,Facebook etc

Risk-taking does not equal wrecking up the place. Jumping on furniture, throwing balls indoors, putting food all over the table and in heating vents. This is terrible behavior, not risk-taking.

I would be more worried if my child was sitting playing quietly in the corner.I would think something wrong with him.

OMG! This board always breaks down into extremes! So in your mind a child can be a bratty, self-centered little sh*t or a quiet social-phobic child who sits in a corner?! Please come meet me in the real world where the optimal behavior parents should aim for is a child who has some manners and understands that behavior is modified for one's environment. I raise my kids to understand that play on a playground is different than play in a shared space with adults (country club, pool club, company picnics). My children are also aware at 6 and 8 that their behavior is also a reflection to others of my husband and me (and our values as parents/humans), especially when at company picnics, for example, since DH owns the company. They are not the warm fuzzy center of the universe but no one is! They have to know what is appropriate where...this is your job as a parent!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't consider jumping on furniture "wracking the place".Its the sign that children need more physical activity.
I have a different approach and think that trully free person can't be raised in prison.And I don't want him to be raised with bunch of psychological problems,supressed by opinion of this materialistic society .I try to explain what's good or bed,but that would not include "jumping on furniture".

a truly free person has to live by himself because society doesn't work that way.

Guess what, idiot. There are no "truly free persons." You, and your precious snowflakes who are no doubt being raised to believe that they are somehow smarter, better, more creative and therefore superior to everyone around them and above the law, have to live with RULES. Isn't that just awful? You pay $80,000 to join this country club and guess what -- they don't want your little brat jumping on the chairs!! I mean, can you imagine?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't consider jumping on furniture "wracking the place".Its the sign that children need more physical activity.
I have a different approach and think that trully free person can't be raised in prison.And I don't want him to be raised with bunch of psychological problems,supressed by opinion of this materialistic society .I try to explain what's good or bed,but that would not include "jumping on furniture".

Jumping on furniture, especially not your own home, is bad behavior.

This is part of the problem. Parents these days have different definitions of bad behavior. Some parents think a 7 yr old talking disrespectfully to the parent or any adult is just "expressing his feelings", or letting their little kids run around in a crowded restaurant while others are trying to enjoy their meal is cute. We've lost sight of being polite and having manners. Everything is about me, me, me or my kid, my kid, my kid. Sad.