Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Maybe try stop being such a judgemental asshole.
I don't think this is a fair response. Until you have seen someone you love in this position where extra weight really starts to impact quality of life and health, then I don't think you can really understand how frustrating it is. You have to just sit there and watch the person slowly deteriorate into a shell of who they once were. It's small things at first...can't do the hike, can't go on the bike ride, my knees hurt, my ankles hurt, I'm tired, I'm hot (on a day that's not so hot), won't go in the pool with the kids, can't walk the several flight of stairs on vacation so I'll just stay in the car. That's the small stuff that starts as the extra pounds add up. Then get ready for the serious health issues as you age - diabetes, increased risk of cancer, joint replacement, lack of mobility. It sucks. For the fat person and for the spouse.
OP is asking a legitimate question. Calling her lazy isn't great, but it's frustrating.