She's Fat & Lazy

[Anonymous]

Not being able to lose weight does not mean she's lazy. It means she's not able to lose weight.

[Anonymous]

OP, I agree with your concern (both for health and appearance). However, unless your DW has written this post, nothing will happen. SHE has to want to put in the work. Sorry that you feel this way but it's very common and only gets worse as the years go by.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not being able to lose weight does not mean she's lazy. It means she's not able to lose weight.

Wrong! Exercising and dieting and not seeing results means that you are not able to lose weight. Not putting in the work to lose weight is what OP is talking about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe try stop being such a judgemental asshole.

OP could have worded it differently but you know what he meant. Stop being so sensitive.

[Anonymous]

Do what the other moms around here do to stay skinny...get her some Adderall and call it a day.

[Anonymous]

OP - What is does your diet and exercise regime look like? If you're one of those people that doesn't have to put in much gym time, eats what you want, and it doesn't impact your weight, then maybe you need to set an example and change what you're doing.

My fiance is someone who needs to eat like 4000 calories a day just to maintain his weight. When he doesn't, he loses weight/muscle. It's rather annoying. But, while not overweight at all, I carry about 10lbs more than I'd like. And each lb is a pain in the ass to lose and keep gone. Men need to realize how much harder it is for women to lose weight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe try stop being such a judgemental asshole.

OP could have worded it differently but you know what he meant. Stop being so sensitive.

Totally agree.
- overweight woman

[Anonymous]

Who is watching the kids, cooking dinner, driving the kids around, doing homework and bedtime routine while she works out?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who is watching the kids, cooking dinner, driving the kids around, doing homework and bedtime routine while she works out?

Nice try! Is this your excuse?

[Anonymous]

I gained lots of weight during my 1st pregnancy. But I was able to take it off by walking, watching my calories and going to the gym. With my second pregnancy I was so careful to stay active and eat right. I gained less and I looked pretty good after I had the baby. Then the sleepless nights and taking care of a toddler and a infant 24/7 got the better of me and I just plain could not fit in exercise. If I got any time to myself I just wanted to sleep! Soon I started to get flabby, my body fat percentage went up and "Wham!" I developed insulin resistance which makes losing weight an uphill battle. I found that what I used to do to lose weight no longer worked. I was tired, impatient and just downright frustrated. And I really didn't "get" that I had to change my approach.

Long story short, I discovered that carb cutting is the way (really the only way) to go. That means focusing on lean meat and veggies, moderate amounts of fat and staying away from pasta, bread, rice, pizza, potatoes, sweets altogether (because those foods trigger blood sugar swings and hunger)... not something that most people really want to do. Unless they have to.

Would you be willing to cook some tasty low carb dishes for your wife so she doesn't have to think about all of this while she is also taking care of young children? Would you be willing to adjust your own diet and stay away from starchy carbs and sweets for a while? Maybe take over with the kids while she takes a walk around the block...

You can not do it for her but you can certainly make it easier for her to do it .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who is watching the kids, cooking dinner, driving the kids around, doing homework and bedtime routine while she works out?

Oh please. I'm a single mom and work full-time and have 3 kids that I'm shuttling around 5 days a week, minimum. I can make it to the gym at least 3 days a week. More if I have a light work schedule that week.

If she has a husband and the financial means that he can afford to get her a personal trainer, surely she can find someone to watch the kids, or have them go to the gym daycare for an hour.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do what the other moms around here do to stay skinny...get her some Adderall and call it a day.

Newsflash! Many moms around here don't get fat to begin with. Not a solution for OP but something to think about. Having a kid doesn't mean you have to gain a lot of permanent weight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who is watching the kids, cooking dinner, driving the kids around, doing homework and bedtime routine while she works out?

Nice try! Is this your excuse?

No. My H watches the kids, cooks dinner, drives the kids around, does homework and bedtime routing on the nights I work out, or go out, or work late.

It's very telling that the answer was not simply I do all these things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who is watching the kids, cooking dinner, driving the kids around, doing homework and bedtime routine while she works out?

Oh please. I'm a single mom and work full-time and have 3 kids that I'm shuttling around 5 days a week, minimum. I can make it to the gym at least 3 days a week. More if I have a light work schedule that week.

If she has a husband and the financial means that he can afford to get her a personal trainer, surely she can find someone to watch the kids, or have them go to the gym daycare for an hour.

So your suggestion is that she hire a babysitter? Is that okay OP if she hires a babysitter at night?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who is watching the kids, cooking dinner, driving the kids around, doing homework and bedtime routine while she works out?

Nice try! Is this your excuse?

No. My H watches the kids, cooks dinner, drives the kids around, does homework and bedtime routing on the nights I work out, or go out, or work late.

It's very telling that the answer was not simply I do all these things.

OP didn't answer that question. I would assume that he (and most DHs) would do these things.