My D wants to go away with BF and family

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So you still got your free childcare. Hopefully your doaughter's are as generous with their future grandkid.

Get a clue. They're already having sex.

Childcare? She's 17! Get a clue. If you think 17 year olds need babysitters, how in the world do you think they are going to survive in college??

[Anonymous]

This wouldn't happen in my house. But if my DH had agreed to it (which would happen when only hell freezes over), I wouldn't renege on his agreement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you still got your free childcare. Hopefully your doaughter's are as generous with their future grandkid.

Get a clue. They're already having sex.

Childcare? She's 17! Get a clue. If you think 17 year olds need babysitters, how in the world do you think they are going to survive in college??

Different poster here. The OP had stated that she would be away on a business trip and her husband would be away on a golf trip and her other daughter would be in camp, so she would not want her 17 year-old daughter to be at home alone.

Later she stated that her daughter wouldn't actually be alone at home because the OP's sister would be there, too... So it did seem kind of flaky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, a few things. Healthy straight men do not invite girls to go away with them unless they are expecting sex. Healthy straight women should not go on such trips unless they want to have sex with the men who invite them.

This X10000. Come on people. They are going to have sex on this trip.

[Anonymous]

DH should cancel his trip. She should not be able to go aaa with a BF for ten days.

[Anonymous]

Give her a massive talk about unwanted pregnancies, birth control, emotional ties and her duty to stay on track with studies/college apps/her future. Then left her go.

[Anonymous]

D will probably be fine. Just don't give her too much grief if she does have responsible. And, talk to her about what to do if she does not want to have sex and there is pressure or anything unwanted happens. (who to contact, calling her Dad, talking to DH about what to do if he gets a call, etc...)

Like another PP said, my best friend in high school was given all sorts of grief by her parents over having responsible sex with the really nice computer-geek guy she met in COLLEGE. They broke up because he could tell they didn't like him, and she's been with loser after loser ever since.

[Anonymous]

should be "responsible sex" above

[Anonymous]

Wow, she's 17 not 12. When I was 17 I travelled around Europe for a MONTH with my boyfriend, WITHOUT his parents. (Just the two of us).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She's too young but your husband needs to be the one to tell her she can't go. It's not really a question about sex (cause if they are having it, they are having it) but more about the other people in the house. Do you trust his dad, the other guests? That is what would concern me more than anything.

Wow - seriously? You really think male = rapist?

Dont see where you came to that conclusion.

Husband should not have given permission with you OP.

I wouldnt let my daughter go AND I would have a real talk about sex and condoms and diseases and pregnancy and experimentation and this and that and every possible thing. And drinking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Give her a massive talk about unwanted pregnancies, birth control, emotional ties and her duty to stay on track with studies/college apps/her future. Then left her go.

This is probably the best compromise.

Wack on DH's head from me with rolled up newspaper for giving permission like a dingbat without consulting mom!