Long term unemployed husband

[Anonymous]

Mine hasn't worked for 16 years. Ummmm I don't think he's going to get a job. It's a shame. He's a nice guy and good father. But 16 years? Really???

He lost his job when I was pregnant with our son. Now that same son will be off to college in a few years and I will be free to divorce my husband. Like I said, it's a shame. He's a nice, decent man. And I really do love him. But i can't live with the resentment and feelings of being taken advantage of anymore.

Sometimes it makes me sad that occasionally I catch myself counting the years until my son is grown and off to college so I can get out from this tremendous financial burden of supporting the family on my own when I should be savoring every moment I have with my son before he's off his own.

[Anonymous]

Can I ask what the status is now?! I’m in a similar situation and it’s hell on earth. I’m afraid we will split and I complete blame it on his unemployment. It’s all consuming to our marriage

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mine hasn't worked for 16 years. Ummmm I don't think he's going to get a job. It's a shame. He's a nice guy and good father. But 16 years? Really???

He lost his job when I was pregnant with our son. Now that same son will be off to college in a few years and I will be free to divorce my husband. Like I said, it's a shame. He's a nice, decent man. And I really do love him. But i can't live with the resentment and feelings of being taken advantage of anymore.

Sometimes it makes me sad that occasionally I catch myself counting the years until my son is grown and off to college so I can get out from this tremendous financial burden of supporting the family on my own when I should be savoring every moment I have with my son before he's off his own.

Add a couple more kids in the mix and you're my SIL. I have no idea how they are surviving financially. She also lost her job and is working at a much reduced rate with a long commute each way. My BIL thinks he's going to go back to the high-paying financial sector after over 15 years not working at all. It's insane.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Part of being a man is working hard and providing well for his family.

It seems sadly that your husband is failing miserably at this.

So sorry OP.

There is no excuse, not a good father either. The economy is doing well, he could find a job if he really wanted or something temporary until something in his field comes up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We've gone through 5 years of the worse financial pullback since the Great Depression. Husbands and wives annoyed at unemployed spouses need to educate themselves and show some sympathy and respect.

Our gov needs to focus on increasing immigration, we have a shortage of workers, we need to import more guest workers from China and India

Vote for expanding immigration to fix the worker shortage

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mine hasn't worked for 16 years. Ummmm I don't think he's going to get a job. It's a shame. He's a nice guy and good father. But 16 years? Really???

He lost his job when I was pregnant with our son. Now that same son will be off to college in a few years and I will be free to divorce my husband. Like I said, it's a shame. He's a nice, decent man. And I really do love him. But i can't live with the resentment and feelings of being taken advantage of anymore.

Sometimes it makes me sad that occasionally I catch myself counting the years until my son is grown and off to college so I can get out from this tremendous financial burden of supporting the family on my own when I should be savoring every moment I have with my son before he's off his own.

My sister in law hasn’t worked since 1998. And she thinks this normal. Crazy world when a spouse thinks they don’t have to get a job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Applying to positions beneath one does not necessarily work. I'm a lawyer that used to work at a big firm then got laid off. After a long time of unemployment when I expanded my attempts and applied to jobs "beneath" me, I thought I'd be welcomed. Nope, I never heard back from any one of them.

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