Did I act like a jerk in this situation?

[Anonymous]

Awww...remember everyone, OP was once somebody's very special snowflake!

[Anonymous]

So... I am assuming all these non-entitled people on this thread had absolutely no issue with men not getting up for them when they were on the metro pregnant? It's "just" a pregnancy, right? Oh yea, you'll say it's different since you couldn't possibly be asked to stand.

This thread sure brought out the worst in some people. I have seen much more unreasonable fears on DCUM from women TTcing (e.g. "my BP was slightly higher, I am not pregnant, now I worry I might get preeclampsia and die"... uhm... what??) and pregnant, this one is certainly not as unusual as you try to make it sound.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So... I am assuming all these non-entitled people on this thread had absolutely no issue with men not getting up for them when they were on the metro pregnant? It's "just" a pregnancy, right? Oh yea, you'll say it's different since you couldn't possibly be asked to stand.

This thread sure brought out the worst in some people. I have seen much more unreasonable fears on DCUM from women TTcing (e.g. "my BP was slightly higher, I am not pregnant, now I worry I might get preeclampsia and die"... uhm... what??) and pregnant, this one is certainly not as unusual as you try to make it sound.

You're acting as if he forced her out of her seat and made her stand. What he did was decline to let her husband sit in his seat. He did nothing to the pregnant lady.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So... I am assuming all these non-entitled people on this thread had absolutely no issue with men not getting up for them when they were on the metro pregnant? It's "just" a pregnancy, right? Oh yea, you'll say it's different since you couldn't possibly be asked to stand.

This thread sure brought out the worst in some people. I have seen much more unreasonable fears on DCUM from women TTcing (e.g. "my BP was slightly higher, I am not pregnant, now I worry I might get preeclampsia and die"... uhm... what??) and pregnant, this one is certainly not as unusual as you try to make it sound.

As a woman, I resent this. I would happily give my seat to any person who was unable to stand for health/medical reasons on the metro. My metro rides are usually 15 minutes or less and I do not pay extra for a special seat nor does my fare entitle me to a seat at all. The pregnant woman in this thread had a seat.

OP, if you are so anxious that you need your DH sitting next to you, you need to discuss your problems with your doctor and stop expecting strangers to accommodate you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Awww...remember everyone, OP was once somebody's very special snowflake!

You're acting like a jerk in this particular situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was on a flight recently. I was sitting in coach, in an aisle seat, in one of the rows with seats that have just a tad more leg room (they're called 'premium' or economy plus or something like that). A pregnant woman was sitting next to me. Turns out that her husband was a few rows back; for some reason they didn't have seats together. The husband, who was also in an aisle seat, said to me something like, 'excuse me, would you mind switching seats with me so that i can sit with my wife? this is her first flight pregnant.' I pointed to my legs and said apologetically, "this seat has extra leg room...." The husband said, 'oh okay' and went back to his seat. What do you think? Was it kind of jerky to me not to move? The flight was about 2 hours.

I think so, yes. It was two hours out of your life and I'm sure that woman would have appreciated sitting next to her husband. Think twice next time and try to be more considerate.

I disagree with this, and especially the last snarky comment. Why didn't the woman offer to move back to sit with her husband? Answer - she was sitting in a row with more leg room, and didn't want to give it up - I'm sure whomever was in the middle seat next to her husband would have gladly taken a seat with extra room. If she really wanted to sit next to her husband, she could have moved, but thought the extra room was more important. Why doesn't the same apply to the OP (whether s/he paid extra for the seat or not)?

Note - my answer woudl have been different if is was a parent asking to sit next to a child. But these are two adults - I view that as totally different.

[Anonymous]

My husband and I rarely sit next to each other on flights, when I was pregnant or otherwise. We both travel a ton for work and have our own flying "styles." It's just a plane ride. You were fine not to move.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I disagree with this, and especially the last snarky comment. Why didn't the woman offer to move back to sit with her husband? Answer - she was sitting in a row with more leg room, and didn't want to give it up - I'm sure whomever was in the middle seat next to her husband would have gladly taken a seat with extra room. If she really wanted to sit next to her husband, she could have moved, but thought the extra room was more important. Why doesn't the same apply to the OP (whether s/he paid extra for the seat or not)?

Note - my answer woudl have been different if is was a parent asking to sit next to a child. But these are two adults - I view that as totally different.

Have you not read the thread, PP? OP has said a couple of times that her DH was in a row with two family members traveling together, and so she didn't want to move back to split them up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You could have chosen charity, the greater good, and you chose self over selflessness.

Next time you are faced with such a situation, try to push yourself to greater charity.

Next time you order the T-bone steak and glance over to the next table where the guy ordered the mini burger, make damm sure you give him your steak!!

[Anonymous]

I get you are a very nervous flyer...pregnancy has nothing to do with it as flying pregnant is exactly the same as flying not pregnant.

If you are so scared to fly that you need your husband right beside you as support then you need to pay in advance to reserve seats so that happens.

[Anonymous]

So... I am assuming all these non-entitled people on this thread had absolutely no issue with men not getting up for them when they were on the metro pregnant? It's "just" a pregnancy, right?

I am not one of the prior posters, but I didn't have an issue with people not giving me a seat. I went to the gym and rode my bike throughout my pregnany and was perfectly capable of standing for 20 minutes. Many times people would offer me a seat, and I would decline, because I'm not disable and how disingenuous would it be to accept the seat, ride the train home, and then go do the elliptical for 45 minutes? If someone had a complicated pregnancy or health issues, there are seats that people are required to give them by law and they should speak up and ask for them if people are not offering!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You could have chosen charity, the greater good, and you chose self over selflessness.

Next time you are faced with such a situation, try to push yourself to greater charity.

Next time you order the T-bone steak and glance over to the next table where the guy ordered the mini burger, make damm sure you give him your steak!!

Your comparison is foolish, and fails to make the point you were trying to make.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I disagree with this, and especially the last snarky comment. Why didn't the woman offer to move back to sit with her husband? Answer - she was sitting in a row with more leg room, and didn't want to give it up - I'm sure whomever was in the middle seat next to her husband would have gladly taken a seat with extra room. If she really wanted to sit next to her husband, she could have moved, but thought the extra room was more important. Why doesn't the same apply to the OP (whether s/he paid extra for the seat or not)?

Note - my answer woudl have been different if is was a parent asking to sit next to a child. But these are two adults - I view that as totally different.

Have you not read the thread, PP? OP has said a couple of times that her DH was in a row with two family members traveling together, and so she didn't want to move back to split them up.

Obviously not, you [insert insult questioning your intelligence]. I responded to the post without reading the rest of the thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You could have chosen charity, the greater good, and you chose self over selflessness.

Next time you are faced with such a situation, try to push yourself to greater charity.

Next time you order the T-bone steak and glance over to the next table where the guy ordered the mini burger, make damm sure you give him your steak!!

Your comparison is foolish, and fails to make the point you were trying to make.

THe PP in the quote suggested to choose charity and selflessness over self. So having paid the extra for premium economy, you want the guy to switch seats to economy right? That is called being selfless right? So, how is the steak example different? Would you prefer I said "the guy at the other table looking hungrily at my T-bone while nibbling on his mini burger, all the while giving me those sad puppy dog eyes."

[Anonymous]

not jerky. Even if you didn't pay more for the seat. Pregnant or not, it won't kill a husband and wife to sit apart for 2 hours.