Did I act like a jerk in this situation?
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Anonymous
| I was on a flight recently. I was sitting in coach, in an aisle seat, in one of the rows with seats that have just a tad more leg room (they're called 'premium' or economy plus or something like that). A pregnant woman was sitting next to me. Turns out that her husband was a few rows back; for some reason they didn't have seats together. The husband, who was also in an aisle seat, said to me something like, 'excuse me, would you mind switching seats with me so that i can sit with my wife? this is her first flight pregnant.' I pointed to my legs and said apologetically, "this seat has extra leg room...." The husband said, 'oh okay' and went back to his seat. What do you think? Was it kind of jerky to me not to move? The flight was about 2 hours. |
Anonymous
| It wasnt your most shining jerk-free moment, but if you paid extra for the leg room you aren't required to give it up. |
Anonymous
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If it was that important to sit together, his wife could have moved back. I'm sure the person I the husbands row would have swapped.
I would have said "no" as well. The leg room is important to me. |
Anonymous
| You could have been more gracious. You weren't obligated. |
Anonymous
| Not a jerk at all. And I've been a very pregnant woman on a flight. |
Anonymous
| Yes you were. Thank god my husband isn't you. |
Anonymous
| Was the leg room really important to you, OP? Or were you just trying to prove a point? |
Anonymous
| Not at all jerky. She should have offered to move back and switch with the person sitting next to her husband instead. |
Anonymous
| Did you pay more for the seat? Then no...not a jerk. Did you luck into the seat? Then yes... |
Anonymous
| OP you were fine. I agree that she could have moved back to be with her husband. This is her first flight pregnant? How stupid. It is not like it was her first flight ever. I would have thought to myself, "this is my first flight with hemmorroids" so friggin what? |
Anonymous
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OP, you were fine. You paid extra for the leg room because you needed the extra space. The woman's husband chose not to do the same, but wanted you to switch with him? The rude person was he, not you. He was trying to get something for nothing.
And I'm speaking from the perspective of a stupid person who once spend the entire night of a flight from California to DC in upright because the very tall man behind me asked me not to recline my seat. He hadn't purchased a seat that would provide needed extra legroom, so the person in front of him (lucky me) paid the price in loss of sleep. After that very uncomfortable night, I learned my lesson about letting people take advantage of me. |
Anonymous
This part isn't clear to me. Did OP need the space, or did she just want it? Did OP need the space more than the couple needed to be together, say one of them was a fearful flyer? Also affecting my opinion would be whether OP lucked into the seat or paid for it. Although an argument can also be made that "ability to pay" is not directly correlated with need, take healthcare, for example. |
Anonymous
| Not a jerk at all and I hate people who act like being pregnant entitles them to special treatment. Agree with PPa the husband was rude to ask. You were fine. |
Anonymous
| NOT a jerk. |
Anonymous
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You could have chosen charity, the greater good, and you chose self over selflessness.
Next time you are faced with such a situation, try to push yourself to greater charity. |