Did I act like a jerk in this situation?

[Anonymous]

So tired of pregnant women expecting special treatment. If she really needed to be with her husband they could have booked seats together or asked other person to switch. Women have been having babies for millions of years. Sometimes they need assistance or accoomodations but this isn't one of those times.

[Anonymous]

No way in H*** I would have given up the seat with more leg room. I don't think you were a jerk at all. I hate people that want to switch around seats on airplanes. If it is that important to sit together, then they should have gotten to the airport earlier or called the airline to see if a switch could be made.

I definitely would have given an eyeroll (and maybe laughed out loud) at the "pregnancy" excuse. That is really lame.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You could have chosen charity, the greater good, and you chose self over selflessness.

Next time you are faced with such a situation, try to push yourself to greater charity.

+1 It's good for the soul.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also remember, pregnant women are not allowed to fly after a certain # of weeks pregnant. I know someone who was not allowed on a plane who was very pregnant, so it can happen. So no, she was not about to give birth. The proper approach would have been for the pregnant woman to ask to switch with the person next to her husband, not for him to ask you to give up your seat. The woman should have been able to advocate for herself. If she wanted to sit next to the overbearing, control-obsessed husband, she could have asked.

Wow. Way to make assumptions about a total stranger based on a second-hand encounter that probably lasted all of 30 seconds. You're clearly not judgmental at all, huh?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So tired of pregnant women expecting special treatment. If she really needed to be with her husband they could have booked seats together or asked other person to switch. Women have been having babies for millions of years. Sometimes they need assistance or accoomodations but this isn't one of those times.

My first flight pregnant (and my 8 billionth flight) I booked ahead of time to make sure I was sitting next to my husband. On the connecting flight - we were seperated because we had a delay. Oh well. I managed to sleep and pee just fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would just like to point out that at no point in OP's post does he mention having paid more for the seat. Most of the time you luck into the bulkhead seat without having to pay anything. You all seem like a bunch of small-minded nasties who will find any excuse for what is clearly less than gentlemanly behavior.

+1. Recently DCUM seems to have been invaded by small-minded nasties. Sadly, they often mistakenly think they're "smarter and snarkier" than the rest of us, and this entitles them to be mean. Sad.

[Anonymous]

OP - did you pay extra for the seat? Seems like no. I'd have switched. Then again, she could have moved back also.

So if you didn't pay extra - you could have been nicer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would just like to point out that at no point in OP's post does he mention having paid more for the seat. Most of the time you luck into the bulkhead seat without having to pay anything. You all seem like a bunch of small-minded nasties who will find any excuse for what is clearly less than gentlemanly behavior.

+1. Recently DCUM seems to have been invaded by small-minded nasties. Sadly, they often mistakenly think they're "smarter and snarkier" than the rest of us, and this entitles them to be mean. Sad.

Yeah. "Snark" is usually defined as the equivalent of 12-year old girl behavior. Nothing to be proud of.

[Anonymous]

Even if I had paid more, I would have given him my seat. Two hours in a regular seat would be far from anything that could ruin my day and it could greatly help that couple's. I wouldn't necessarily call you a jerk, but I assume you were raised to give little thought to others.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thanks for the comments. The woman moving back with her DH wasn't an option because that would have split up the two people sitting next to him, who were also traveling together.

[Anonymous]

I don't think there was anything wrong with the husband asking to sit with his wife (regardless of her pregnancy). I figure you can always ask, just don't be upset if someone says no.
And you have the right to say no, of course. I've given up my roomier seat on the train and been annoyed, but I like to think that karma got me back at some point and someone was nicer to me at some point because of it.

And I don't think she is "expecting special treatment" because she is pregnant, her husband just asked to sit next to her. And wouldnt the wife moving back have been just as inconvenient for whoever was sitting next to the husband?
I dont think you were a jerk for saying no, but he wasnt a jerk for asking like other pps are saying, either.

[Anonymous]

No, nothing wrong with the husband asking politely (which it sounds like he did), but also nothing wrong with the OP politely declining.

[Anonymous]

I'm surprised at people taking OP to task for not accommodating two grown adults. Now, if this was a parent asking to sit next to a child, no way would I say no. But just because they'd prefer to sit together? Well, I'd prefer to sit where I am. Why does their preference trump mine? Just because people ask doesn't mean people have to say yes. And the OP didn't just say no, he or she explained why they weren't willing to move. I don't see a problem.

[Anonymous]

Once again, OP - did you pay extra for the seat?

If not, you're pretty inconsiderate and self-involved. Depends how you define "jerk." A 2-hour flight? I'd have done it. It has nothing to do with babying pregnant woman or the husband being controlling (wtf, pp? project much?) It's just being a decent human - do unto others, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No way in H*** I would have given up the seat with more leg room. I don't think you were a jerk at all. I hate people that want to switch around seats on airplanes. If it is that important to sit together, then they should have gotten to the airport earlier or called the airline to see if a switch could be made.

I definitely would have given an eyeroll (and maybe laughed out loud) at the "pregnancy" excuse. That is really lame.

Laughed out loud? You sound like a winner.