I don't get all the frills about TTC

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If the OP wanted to understand the feelings that go along with TTC, there are endless resources online.

If she just wanted to talk about TTCers and how she's better than them, she should just say it.

OP is wondering why some, not all - some - people trying to conceive become self-centered, all-about-me, I don't value your happiness, don't even say the word child, egotistical, narcissistic, tunnel-visioned, the sight of a child will burn my eyeballs, people. There are endless resources for that?

Have you never used google? Type "jealousy" and "ttc" into the search bar and then hit "enter".

Hear the "whooshing" sound over your head? It's the point that was being made...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had 4 kids, and never once told anyone we were trying. My friend did before any of us had kids, I remember she made a HUGE deal out it. She even told us to save the date, and not schedule anything for the summer of her baby's birth. Then she remodeled a room and decorated it for a baby BOY, crib, dresser, everything, all before she had conceived. Then 10 months later, they were still trying, and I and two other friends had just given birth. They ended up moving, and she finally got pregnant 18 months after she first announced trying. She had a girl too, she laughs about it now, but it was bizarre.

That is bizarre. I have a friend who sent out an email to friends and family announcing they were going to start trying which I thought was so odd! I mean, they were young and all but you never know. Anyway, they got pregnant pretty quickly and things went fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had 4 kids, and never once told anyone we were trying. My friend did before any of us had kids, I remember she made a HUGE deal out it. She even told us to save the date, and not schedule anything for the summer of her baby's birth. Then she remodeled a room and decorated it for a baby BOY, crib, dresser, everything, all before she had conceived. Then 10 months later, they were still trying, and I and two other friends had just given birth. They ended up moving, and she finally got pregnant 18 months after she first announced trying. She had a girl too, she laughs about it now, but it was bizarre.

This is crazy. It reminds me of Charlotte on sex and the city, creating a nursery, quitting her job, etc. before even conceiving.

[Anonymous]

I've never heard of this! No one's ever told me they were trying. Who wants that pressure and expectation from people?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've never heard of this! No one's ever told me they were trying. Who wants that pressure and expectation from people?

My BIL and SIL called my parents-in-law and told them they wanted to meet with them to tell them something very important. They went out to dinner and announced they were now trying. I was grossed out hearing the news secondhand. I wanted to ask how exactly they announced it. "We threw out the condoms! We tossed the pills! We burned the barrier devices!"

My side of the family is open to children, so if you are married, you are always "trying." Even when you're pregnant

[Anonymous]

I agree with OP. I had my own miscarriages/problems getting pregnant when suddenly EVERY one of my friends got knocked up. It was crazy.

I never expected special treatment. And if something on FB hurts you, quietly hide them, block them, unfriend, do what you have to do. But it is TOTALLY unreasonable to expect peopleto avoid talking about babies or pregnancy or putting away baby clothes.

[Anonymous]

You people suck.