If you live close to the in-laws, what does your mother's day look like?

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Anonymous wrote:The total lack of respect for elders is on full display in this thread. Mother’s Day should be about honoring mothers, not a “me me me” about who is or is not “in the trenches.” Get over yourselves and celebrate your mothers.

Mother's Day is not meant to be some kind of "respect elders" day. It's for moms to get a day of from a daily grind. You have no grind. Your kids are adults, you're retired and you have nothing to do. No young woman wants to come and "celebrate" it with you by circling around. You get over yourself and go celebrate the young moms.

Actually, the older I get, the more I appreciate my mom and everything she’s done for me and sacrificed for me.

Being in the trenches doesn’t make anyone more deserving of being celebrated. Remember, it’s just a phase over a long life. Moms of all ages have been through those same trenches too plus a heck of a lot more.

BRAVA!!!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The total lack of respect for elders is on full display in this thread. Mother’s Day should be about honoring mothers, not a “me me me” about who is or is not “in the trenches.” Get over yourselves and celebrate your mothers.

Mother's Day is not meant to be some kind of "respect elders" day. It's for moms to get a day of from a daily grind. You have no grind. Your kids are adults, you're retired and you have nothing to do. No young woman wants to come and "celebrate" it with you by circling around. You get over yourself and go celebrate the young moms.

Actually, the older I get, the more I appreciate my mom and everything she’s done for me and sacrificed for me.

Being in the trenches doesn’t make anyone more deserving of being celebrated. Remember, it’s just a phase over a long life. Moms of all ages have been through those same trenches too plus a heck of a lot more.

Of course it does. I guess you've forgotten the sleepless nights and days where you cannot do anything for yourself. Instead of demanding to celebrate "moms of all ages" be kind and considerate to your DD or DIL when they are in the trenches. It's hard work. They deserve a day off to be pampered and celebrated. What do you need a day off of?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The total lack of respect for elders is on full display in this thread. Mother’s Day should be about honoring mothers, not a “me me me” about who is or is not “in the trenches.” Get over yourselves and celebrate your mothers.

Mother's Day is not meant to be some kind of "respect elders" day. It's for moms to get a day of from a daily grind. You have no grind. Your kids are adults, you're retired and you have nothing to do. No young woman wants to come and "celebrate" it with you by circling around. You get over yourself and go celebrate the young moms.

Actually, the older I get, the more I appreciate my mom and everything she’s done for me and sacrificed for me.

Being in the trenches doesn’t make anyone more deserving of being celebrated. Remember, it’s just a phase over a long life. Moms of all ages have been through those same trenches too plus a heck of a lot more.

BRAVA!!!

So you’ve had, what, 20 or so Mother’s Days where you were the center of attention, and you still need the focus to be squarely on you? Got it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The total lack of respect for elders is on full display in this thread. Mother’s Day should be about honoring mothers, not a “me me me” about who is or is not “in the trenches.” Get over yourselves and celebrate your mothers.

Mother's Day is not meant to be some kind of "respect elders" day. It's for moms to get a day of from a daily grind. You have no grind. Your kids are adults, you're retired and you have nothing to do. No young woman wants to come and "celebrate" it with you by circling around. You get over yourself and go celebrate the young moms.

Actually, the older I get, the more I appreciate my mom and everything she’s done for me and sacrificed for me.

Being in the trenches doesn’t make anyone more deserving of being celebrated. Remember, it’s just a phase over a long life. Moms of all ages have been through those same trenches too plus a heck of a lot more.

Of course it does. I guess you've forgotten the sleepless nights and days where you cannot do anything for yourself. Instead of demanding to celebrate "moms of all ages" be kind and considerate to your DD or DIL when they are in the trenches. It's hard work. They deserve a day off to be pampered and celebrated. What do you need a day off of?

DP here. Some of us think it’s all absurd and that no one (of any age or life stage) need to be “pampered.” I grew past the need for parties celebrating me in about 5th grade. While raising small children is a lot of work, having a rigid fixed idea of what you “deserve” for doing it is just a recipe for disappointment.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The total lack of respect for elders is on full display in this thread. Mother’s Day should be about honoring mothers, not a “me me me” about who is or is not “in the trenches.” Get over yourselves and celebrate your mothers.

Mother's Day is not meant to be some kind of "respect elders" day. It's for moms to get a day of from a daily grind. You have no grind. Your kids are adults, you're retired and you have nothing to do. No young woman wants to come and "celebrate" it with you by circling around. You get over yourself and go celebrate the young moms.

Actually, the older I get, the more I appreciate my mom and everything she’s done for me and sacrificed for me.

Being in the trenches doesn’t make anyone more deserving of being celebrated. Remember, it’s just a phase over a long life. Moms of all ages have been through those same trenches too plus a heck of a lot more.

BRAVA!!!

So you’ve had, what, 20 or so Mother’s Days where you were the center of attention, and you still need the focus to be squarely on you? Got it.

Honestly, I don't get these old women whose biggest achievement seems to be that they gave birth 30-40-50 years ago. Move on. The focus of a normal society should be on the young, not the old. But I guess the old don't want to give up their influence and power. The positive from such unsupportive old is that the actual adults are not having kids any more: they cannot afford it nor do they get any support. So I guess then it's appropriate to "celebrate" your 70-80 yo mom until she dies as there are no grandkids anyway.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The total lack of respect for elders is on full display in this thread. Mother’s Day should be about honoring mothers, not a “me me me” about who is or is not “in the trenches.” Get over yourselves and celebrate your mothers.

Mother's Day is not meant to be some kind of "respect elders" day. It's for moms to get a day of from a daily grind. You have no grind. Your kids are adults, you're retired and you have nothing to do. No young woman wants to come and "celebrate" it with you by circling around. You get over yourself and go celebrate the young moms.

Actually, the older I get, the more I appreciate my mom and everything she’s done for me and sacrificed for me.

Being in the trenches doesn’t make anyone more deserving of being celebrated. Remember, it’s just a phase over a long life. Moms of all ages have been through those same trenches too plus a heck of a lot more.

Of course it does. I guess you've forgotten the sleepless nights and days where you cannot do anything for yourself. Instead of demanding to celebrate "moms of all ages" be kind and considerate to your DD or DIL when they are in the trenches. It's hard work. They deserve a day off to be pampered and celebrated. What do you need a day off of?

DP here. Some of us think it’s all absurd and that no one (of any age or life stage) need to be “pampered.” I grew past the need for parties celebrating me in about 5th grade. While raising small children is a lot of work, having a rigid fixed idea of what you “deserve” for doing it is just a recipe for disappointment.

Maybe. But then if you don't need to get pampered or get a day off from raising young kids, what do you need a day off when you don't have any? Looks like the older women have a very rigid idea of how they should be celebrated for something that happened decades ago.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The total lack of respect for elders is on full display in this thread. Mother’s Day should be about honoring mothers, not a “me me me” about who is or is not “in the trenches.” Get over yourselves and celebrate your mothers.

Mother's Day is not meant to be some kind of "respect elders" day. It's for moms to get a day of from a daily grind. You have no grind. Your kids are adults, you're retired and you have nothing to do. No young woman wants to come and "celebrate" it with you by circling around. You get over yourself and go celebrate the young moms.

Actually, the older I get, the more I appreciate my mom and everything she’s done for me and sacrificed for me.

Being in the trenches doesn’t make anyone more deserving of being celebrated. Remember, it’s just a phase over a long life. Moms of all ages have been through those same trenches too plus a heck of a lot more.

Of course it does. I guess you've forgotten the sleepless nights and days where you cannot do anything for yourself. Instead of demanding to celebrate "moms of all ages" be kind and considerate to your DD or DIL when they are in the trenches. It's hard work. They deserve a day off to be pampered and celebrated. What do you need a day off of?

DP here. Some of us think it’s all absurd and that no one (of any age or life stage) need to be “pampered.” I grew past the need for parties celebrating me in about 5th grade. While raising small children is a lot of work, having a rigid fixed idea of what you “deserve” for doing it is just a recipe for disappointment.

Btw, I personally don't care. My mom nor my MIL never required trips and flowers to celebrate and it was chill. I have teenagers now and am also chill. But it irks me when these 60-70-80 year old women come out with demands to be celebrated on a day when they do not have children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The total lack of respect for elders is on full display in this thread. Mother’s Day should be about honoring mothers, not a “me me me” about who is or is not “in the trenches.” Get over yourselves and celebrate your mothers.

Mother's Day is not meant to be some kind of "respect elders" day. It's for moms to get a day of from a daily grind. You have no grind. Your kids are adults, you're retired and you have nothing to do. No young woman wants to come and "celebrate" it with you by circling around. You get over yourself and go celebrate the young moms.

Actually, the older I get, the more I appreciate my mom and everything she’s done for me and sacrificed for me.

Being in the trenches doesn’t make anyone more deserving of being celebrated. Remember, it’s just a phase over a long life. Moms of all ages have been through those same trenches too plus a heck of a lot more.

Of course it does. I guess you've forgotten the sleepless nights and days where you cannot do anything for yourself. Instead of demanding to celebrate "moms of all ages" be kind and considerate to your DD or DIL when they are in the trenches. It's hard work. They deserve a day off to be pampered and celebrated. What do you need a day off of?

DP here. Some of us think it’s all absurd and that no one (of any age or life stage) need to be “pampered.” I grew past the need for parties celebrating me in about 5th grade. While raising small children is a lot of work, having a rigid fixed idea of what you “deserve” for doing it is just a recipe for disappointment.

These threads are mostly moms of kids of all ages who say they’d be fine doing very little or nothing, but their mils are the demanding ones preventing them from having that chill day by wanting a big deal made. So is it rigid to just want to relax? It’s not compatible with the mil wishes and that’s where the disappointment comes from a lot of the time imo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The total lack of respect for elders is on full display in this thread. Mother’s Day should be about honoring mothers, not a “me me me” about who is or is not “in the trenches.” Get over yourselves and celebrate your mothers.

Mother's Day is not meant to be some kind of "respect elders" day. It's for moms to get a day of from a daily grind. You have no grind. Your kids are adults, you're retired and you have nothing to do. No young woman wants to come and "celebrate" it with you by circling around. You get over yourself and go celebrate the young moms.

Actually, the older I get, the more I appreciate my mom and everything she’s done for me and sacrificed for me.

Being in the trenches doesn’t make anyone more deserving of being celebrated. Remember, it’s just a phase over a long life. Moms of all ages have been through those same trenches too plus a heck of a lot more.

Of course it does. I guess you've forgotten the sleepless nights and days where you cannot do anything for yourself. Instead of demanding to celebrate "moms of all ages" be kind and considerate to your DD or DIL when they are in the trenches. It's hard work. They deserve a day off to be pampered and celebrated. What do you need a day off of?

DP here. Some of us think it’s all absurd and that no one (of any age or life stage) need to be “pampered.” I grew past the need for parties celebrating me in about 5th grade. While raising small children is a lot of work, having a rigid fixed idea of what you “deserve” for doing it is just a recipe for disappointment.

So why don't you tell all that to a MIL who expects flowers, an elaborate meal and a trip to her to "celebrate" while the young mom barely got any sleep wrangling the little ones? How's that for a Mother's Day for you?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The total lack of respect for elders is on full display in this thread. Mother’s Day should be about honoring mothers, not a “me me me” about who is or is not “in the trenches.” Get over yourselves and celebrate your mothers.

Mother's Day is not meant to be some kind of "respect elders" day. It's for moms to get a day of from a daily grind. You have no grind. Your kids are adults, you're retired and you have nothing to do. No young woman wants to come and "celebrate" it with you by circling around. You get over yourself and go celebrate the young moms.

Actually, the older I get, the more I appreciate my mom and everything she’s done for me and sacrificed for me.

Being in the trenches doesn’t make anyone more deserving of being celebrated. Remember, it’s just a phase over a long life. Moms of all ages have been through those same trenches too plus a heck of a lot more.

Of course it does. I guess you've forgotten the sleepless nights and days where you cannot do anything for yourself. Instead of demanding to celebrate "moms of all ages" be kind and considerate to your DD or DIL when they are in the trenches. It's hard work. They deserve a day off to be pampered and celebrated. What do you need a day off of?

DP here. Some of us think it’s all absurd and that no one (of any age or life stage) need to be “pampered.” I grew past the need for parties celebrating me in about 5th grade. While raising small children is a lot of work, having a rigid fixed idea of what you “deserve” for doing it is just a recipe for disappointment.

So why don't you tell all that to a MIL who expects flowers, an elaborate meal and a trip to her to "celebrate" while the young mom barely got any sleep wrangling the little ones? How's that for a Mother's Day for you?

I am telling them that. I’m telling everyone that. Expectations are what ruin most things.

My in-laws used to get annoyed that we didn’t plan Mother’s or Father’s Day the way they wanted. We ignored them. Then for a few years they decided they were going to host, I guess to do it their way? We would agree to come for a fixed period of time but not the entire day. (They are local.) Then after a few years I think they realized that was a lot of work (no kidding!) and they dropped it all together. This year they are not even in town.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The total lack of respect for elders is on full display in this thread. Mother’s Day should be about honoring mothers, not a “me me me” about who is or is not “in the trenches.” Get over yourselves and celebrate your mothers.

Mother's Day is not meant to be some kind of "respect elders" day. It's for moms to get a day of from a daily grind. You have no grind. Your kids are adults, you're retired and you have nothing to do. No young woman wants to come and "celebrate" it with you by circling around. You get over yourself and go celebrate the young moms.

Actually, the older I get, the more I appreciate my mom and everything she’s done for me and sacrificed for me.

Being in the trenches doesn’t make anyone more deserving of being celebrated. Remember, it’s just a phase over a long life. Moms of all ages have been through those same trenches too plus a heck of a lot more.

BRAVA!!!

So you’ve had, what, 20 or so Mother’s Days where you were the center of attention, and you still need the focus to be squarely on you? Got it.

I think you’ve missed the point. I’ve never felt the need to be the center of attention on any Mother’s Day. Whether my kids were little or now that they’re grown, a simple Happy Mother’s Day has been sufficient. I don’t see why everything has to be such a huge production and have the world revolve around me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The total lack of respect for elders is on full display in this thread. Mother’s Day should be about honoring mothers, not a “me me me” about who is or is not “in the trenches.” Get over yourselves and celebrate your mothers.

Mother's Day is not meant to be some kind of "respect elders" day. It's for moms to get a day of from a daily grind. You have no grind. Your kids are adults, you're retired and you have nothing to do. No young woman wants to come and "celebrate" it with you by circling around. You get over yourself and go celebrate the young moms.

Actually, the older I get, the more I appreciate my mom and everything she’s done for me and sacrificed for me.

Being in the trenches doesn’t make anyone more deserving of being celebrated. Remember, it’s just a phase over a long life. Moms of all ages have been through those same trenches too plus a heck of a lot more.

Of course it does. I guess you've forgotten the sleepless nights and days where you cannot do anything for yourself. Instead of demanding to celebrate "moms of all ages" be kind and considerate to your DD or DIL when they are in the trenches. It's hard work. They deserve a day off to be pampered and celebrated. What do you need a day off of?

DP here. Some of us think it’s all absurd and that no one (of any age or life stage) need to be “pampered.” I grew past the need for parties celebrating me in about 5th grade. While raising small children is a lot of work, having a rigid fixed idea of what you “deserve” for doing it is just a recipe for disappointment.

Btw, I personally don't care. My mom nor my MIL never required trips and flowers to celebrate and it was chill. I have teenagers now and am also chill. But it irks me when these 60-70-80 year old women come out with demands to be celebrated on a day when they do not have children.

I’ve never met any of these older women who have demanded anything for Mother’s Day. I’ve read about them here on the MIL bashing posts but never met one in real life.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The total lack of respect for elders is on full display in this thread. Mother’s Day should be about honoring mothers, not a “me me me” about who is or is not “in the trenches.” Get over yourselves and celebrate your mothers.

Mother's Day is not meant to be some kind of "respect elders" day. It's for moms to get a day of from a daily grind. You have no grind. Your kids are adults, you're retired and you have nothing to do. No young woman wants to come and "celebrate" it with you by circling around. You get over yourself and go celebrate the young moms.

Actually, the older I get, the more I appreciate my mom and everything she’s done for me and sacrificed for me.

Being in the trenches doesn’t make anyone more deserving of being celebrated. Remember, it’s just a phase over a long life. Moms of all ages have been through those same trenches too plus a heck of a lot more.

Of course it does. I guess you've forgotten the sleepless nights and days where you cannot do anything for yourself. Instead of demanding to celebrate "moms of all ages" be kind and considerate to your DD or DIL when they are in the trenches. It's hard work. They deserve a day off to be pampered and celebrated. What do you need a day off of?

DP here. Some of us think it’s all absurd and that no one (of any age or life stage) need to be “pampered.” I grew past the need for parties celebrating me in about 5th grade. While raising small children is a lot of work, having a rigid fixed idea of what you “deserve” for doing it is just a recipe for disappointment.

Btw, I personally don't care. My mom nor my MIL never required trips and flowers to celebrate and it was chill. I have teenagers now and am also chill. But it irks me when these 60-70-80 year old women come out with demands to be celebrated on a day when they do not have children.

I’ve never met any of these older women who have demanded anything for Mother’s Day. I’ve read about them here on the MIL bashing posts but never met one in real life.

People don’t really talk about this irl and even less so if that’s not their personal scenario…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The total lack of respect for elders is on full display in this thread. Mother’s Day should be about honoring mothers, not a “me me me” about who is or is not “in the trenches.” Get over yourselves and celebrate your mothers.

Mother's Day is not meant to be some kind of "respect elders" day. It's for moms to get a day of from a daily grind. You have no grind. Your kids are adults, you're retired and you have nothing to do. No young woman wants to come and "celebrate" it with you by circling around. You get over yourself and go celebrate the young moms.

Actually, the older I get, the more I appreciate my mom and everything she’s done for me and sacrificed for me.

Being in the trenches doesn’t make anyone more deserving of being celebrated. Remember, it’s just a phase over a long life. Moms of all ages have been through those same trenches too plus a heck of a lot more.

BRAVA!!!

So you’ve had, what, 20 or so Mother’s Days where you were the center of attention, and you still need the focus to be squarely on you? Got it.

I think you’ve missed the point. I’ve never felt the need to be the center of attention on any Mother’s Day. Whether my kids were little or now that they’re grown, a simple Happy Mother’s Day has been sufficient. I don’t see why everything has to be such a huge production and have the world revolve around me.

How old are you, and how old are your children? If you aren’t young and your kids aren’t young, then none of this is about you, and move along.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The total lack of respect for elders is on full display in this thread. Mother’s Day should be about honoring mothers, not a “me me me” about who is or is not “in the trenches.” Get over yourselves and celebrate your mothers.

Mother's Day is not meant to be some kind of "respect elders" day. It's for moms to get a day of from a daily grind. You have no grind. Your kids are adults, you're retired and you have nothing to do. No young woman wants to come and "celebrate" it with you by circling around. You get over yourself and go celebrate the young moms.

Actually, the older I get, the more I appreciate my mom and everything she’s done for me and sacrificed for me.

Being in the trenches doesn’t make anyone more deserving of being celebrated. Remember, it’s just a phase over a long life. Moms of all ages have been through those same trenches too plus a heck of a lot more.

Of course it does. I guess you've forgotten the sleepless nights and days where you cannot do anything for yourself. Instead of demanding to celebrate "moms of all ages" be kind and considerate to your DD or DIL when they are in the trenches. It's hard work. They deserve a day off to be pampered and celebrated. What do you need a day off of?

DP here. Some of us think it’s all absurd and that no one (of any age or life stage) need to be “pampered.” I grew past the need for parties celebrating me in about 5th grade. While raising small children is a lot of work, having a rigid fixed idea of what you “deserve” for doing it is just a recipe for disappointment.

These threads are mostly moms of kids of all ages who say they’d be fine doing very little or nothing, but their mils are the demanding ones preventing them from having that chill day by wanting a big deal made. So is it rigid to just want to relax? It’s not compatible with the mil wishes and that’s where the disappointment comes from a lot of the time imo.

JFC yes. Demanding that a holiday intended for all moms be ALL ABOUT YOU is selfish and rigid.