If you live close to the in-laws, what does your mother's day look like?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The senior mothers have rank. All come to them with gifts and flowers in hand.

The senior mothers are called grandmothers. They have Grandparents Day. Stop trying to get attention on the day the attention should go to young mothers.

When and where did it become young Mother’s Day?

When the old women start getting called grandmothers!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The senior mothers have rank. All come to them with gifts and flowers in hand.

Then why are my mom and MIL demanding visits, but not visiting their own mothers?

And if that's the case, when would anyone ever celebrate the younger moms? They have to be 70 to start getting celebrated?

I'm sorry but once my kids have children of their own, I don't want to be the center of attention.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The senior mothers have rank. All come to them with gifts and flowers in hand.

The senior mothers are called grandmothers. They have Grandparents Day. Stop trying to get attention on the day the attention should go to young mothers.

When and where did it become young Mother’s Day?

Look up the definition of mothering. Mothering is the process of caring for children as their mother. This is what is done when the children are young. Once your children are adults, you're no longer mothering.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:When posters have angst about Mother's Day and become competitive with their MIL, mom, SIL, sister, aunt, cousin, grandma... it only tells me that their marriage and family life is complete shitshow.

If they don't get angry about Mother's Day, then they will have to face the fact that their marriage and life is horrible. And they chose it.

It is easier to be disappointed on Mother's Day then to face that they are disappointed with their entire life and life choices. They can throw a fit for a disappointing MD and maybe get some sympathy here. If they fess up that their marriage and life is disappointing, we all will advise them to dump that loser husband/family. And they are not in a position to do so.

Can I laugh now? I have given the empathy and straight talk already.

Nonsense. The old women are shit-show with their demands and expectations. Nobody normal would want a young mom with little kids to travel to you to pay homage. It shows that those old women have literally nothing going on in their lives. Then if it's not done, they throw a fit that they should be paid respect to. Find something else to do in your old years than demand attention like a toddler.

Your marriage and life sucks. And you are stuck. Nothing to do with young and old moms. You are married to a loser but you are too poor to leave the marriage. Stuck with your snotty kids and your disorganized house and no village. You also want everyone else to suffer with you. LOL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The senior mothers have rank. All come to them with gifts and flowers in hand.

The senior mothers are called grandmothers. They have Grandparents Day. Stop trying to get attention on the day the attention should go to young mothers.

When and where did it become young Mother’s Day?

Look up the definition of mothering. Mothering is the process of caring for children as their mother. This is what is done when the children are young. Once your children are adults, you're no longer mothering.

This is not Mothering Day, it is Mother's Day. .

However, I see you and I hear you. How about we make it into Breast-Feeding Mother's Day. Only celebrate moms who are breastfeeding their kids? Active mothering and active nursing?

Otherwise, include your Nanny and Daycare workers in the Mothering Day!! Because y'all are not taking care of your brats - someone else is.

Effing lunatic!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When posters have angst about Mother's Day and become competitive with their MIL, mom, SIL, sister, aunt, cousin, grandma... it only tells me that their marriage and family life is complete shitshow.

If they don't get angry about Mother's Day, then they will have to face the fact that their marriage and life is horrible. And they chose it.

It is easier to be disappointed on Mother's Day then to face that they are disappointed with their entire life and life choices. They can throw a fit for a disappointing MD and maybe get some sympathy here. If they fess up that their marriage and life is disappointing, we all will advise them to dump that loser husband/family. And they are not in a position to do so.

Can I laugh now? I have given the empathy and straight talk already.

Nonsense. The old women are shit-show with their demands and expectations. Nobody normal would want a young mom with little kids to travel to you to pay homage. It shows that those old women have literally nothing going on in their lives. Then if it's not done, they throw a fit that they should be paid respect to. Find something else to do in your old years than demand attention like a toddler.

Your marriage and life sucks. And you are stuck. Nothing to do with young and old moms. You are married to a loser but you are too poor to leave the marriage. Stuck with your snotty kids and your disorganized house and no village. You also want everyone else to suffer with you. LOL.

Doesn't sound like it's me who is miserable. Make sure you don't let your DIL to have any day off! Talk about being a lunatic. What happened? That son you pushed out 50 years ago is not paying enough homage???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The senior mothers have rank. All come to them with gifts and flowers in hand.

The senior mothers are called grandmothers. They have Grandparents Day. Stop trying to get attention on the day the attention should go to young mothers.

When and where did it become young Mother’s Day?

Look up the definition of mothering. Mothering is the process of caring for children as their mother. This is what is done when the children are young. Once your children are adults, you're no longer mothering.

I can only hope that the children of these people advocating only celebrating young mothers have the same level of disdain toward them as these mothers have for anyone not currently parenting a toddler.

My kids are young but I appreciate my mom now more than ever. I am truly starting to understand everything she did for me and my siblings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The senior mothers have rank. All come to them with gifts and flowers in hand.

The senior mothers are called grandmothers. They have Grandparents Day. Stop trying to get attention on the day the attention should go to young mothers.

When and where did it become young Mother’s Day?

Look up the definition of mothering. Mothering is the process of caring for children as their mother. This is what is done when the children are young. Once your children are adults, you're no longer mothering.

This is not Mothering Day, it is Mother's Day. .

However, I see you and I hear you. How about we make it into Breast-Feeding Mother's Day. Only celebrate moms who are breastfeeding their kids? Active mothering and active nursing?

Otherwise, include your Nanny and Daycare workers in the Mothering Day!! Because y'all are not taking care of your brats - someone else is.

Effing lunatic!!

Mother is the one who is mothering End of story. The same as runner is the one who is running, cook is the one who is cooking etc. If you cooked 50 years ago, doesn't mean you're still a cook!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The senior mothers have rank. All come to them with gifts and flowers in hand.

The senior mothers are called grandmothers. They have Grandparents Day. Stop trying to get attention on the day the attention should go to young mothers.

When and where did it become young Mother’s Day?

Look up the definition of mothering. Mothering is the process of caring for children as their mother. This is what is done when the children are young. Once your children are adults, you're no longer mothering.

I can only hope that the children of these people advocating only celebrating young mothers have the same level of disdain toward them as these mothers have for anyone not currently parenting a toddler.

My kids are young but I appreciate my mom now more than ever. I am truly starting to understand everything she did for me and my siblings.

It's not about disdain. What an immature take. It's about supporting young mothers who are in the process of mothering. Once you're old, you don't need to take attention away from young mothers, your mothering days are over. Instead, you should support the young mothers as a matriarch. Maybe your mother hasn't grown into the position of matriarch when it's not about you, but your legacy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The senior mothers have rank. All come to them with gifts and flowers in hand.

No, old bat. We sent you flowers and a card. We will call you after I have my special breakfast and before my nap and special dinner.

[Anonymous]

I haven't read through this whole thread, only the first couple of pages, but OP, please think about how you will feel in 25 years when your kids do not want to visit you on Mother's Day. Have a little empathy. Or do you want to instill in your kids once they have their own family that they should not visit you on MD? And the fact that they are your in-laws should not matter. If you have sons, just think this one out. You reap what you sow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I haven't read through this whole thread, only the first couple of pages, but OP, please think about how you will feel in 25 years when your kids do not want to visit you on Mother's Day. Have a little empathy. Or do you want to instill in your kids once they have their own family that they should not visit you on MD? And the fact that they are your in-laws should not matter. If you have sons, just think this one out. You reap what you sow.

NP and I actively hope my kids will be spending the day with their spouses and kids.

Sending me a card or flowers or calling me will be more than enough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I haven't read through this whole thread, only the first couple of pages, but OP, please think about how you will feel in 25 years when your kids do not want to visit you on Mother's Day. Have a little empathy. Or do you want to instill in your kids once they have their own family that they should not visit you on MD? And the fact that they are your in-laws should not matter. If you have sons, just think this one out. You reap what you sow.

If you have sons, the best you can do is teach them how to celebrate the mother of HIS children on Mother's Day. No, they should not visit you. They can visit you another day. You should not be so self-centered, needy and immature. It seems you lack empathy as you only care about yourself. You should do everything you can to make a memorable day possible for your DIL and DD instead. Obviously with women like you, demanding Mother's Day visits is just one example, and I'm sure there are many others where you make young family's life complicated, instead of offering support and understanding.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I haven't read through this whole thread, only the first couple of pages, but OP, please think about how you will feel in 25 years when your kids do not want to visit you on Mother's Day. Have a little empathy. Or do you want to instill in your kids once they have their own family that they should not visit you on MD? And the fact that they are your in-laws should not matter. If you have sons, just think this one out. You reap what you sow.

If you have sons, the best you can do is teach them how to celebrate the mother of HIS children on Mother's Day. No, they should not visit you. They can visit you another day. You should not be so self-centered, needy and immature. It seems you lack empathy as you only care about yourself. You should do everything you can to make a memorable day possible for your DIL and DD instead. Obviously with women like you, demanding Mother's Day visits is just one example, and I'm sure there are many others where you make young family's life complicated, instead of offering support and understanding.

All of this!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I haven't read through this whole thread, only the first couple of pages, but OP, please think about how you will feel in 25 years when your kids do not want to visit you on Mother's Day. Have a little empathy. Or do you want to instill in your kids once they have their own family that they should not visit you on MD? And the fact that they are your in-laws should not matter. If you have sons, just think this one out. You reap what you sow.

NP I hope my kids are spending it with their own children. Actually having grandchildren is such a blessing. There are so many older women now who will never be grandmas as the birth rates decline.

I do have a son and I hope he's spending it with his wife and being a good DH.