How to respond when kid gets into school and is Legacy

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:To the OP: please note that so many of these responses are clearly from people who do not have legacy status to offer to their kids.

The vast majority of legacies would be there anyway, or worst case it is a tie-breaker. There are a few well-publicized cases of kids who get a big boost from it. These tend to be filthy rich kids so it is very obvious.

If these kids are too dumb to understand it, let them live in their sad little world. Tell your child to hold their head high and know that they fully deserve to be there and not to care what these small people think.

+1 - people without legacy at top schools build it up in their minds into something it’s not. Most of my classmates’ kids are not getting into my college with it’s 4 % admissions rate either

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It helps but it’s still tough.

Not as tough as it is for non-legacies, right? It helps.

Slightly less tough.

It helps but it’s still tough.

[Anonymous]

My kid had legacy status at my elite alma mater but that’s only because my parents worked hard and had the means to pay for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid had legacy status at my elite alma mater but that’s only because my parents worked hard and had the means to pay for it.

What does that have to do with your kid's credentials?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To the OP: please note that so many of these responses are clearly from people who do not have legacy status to offer to their kids.

The vast majority of legacies would be there anyway, or worst case it is a tie-breaker. There are a few well-publicized cases of kids who get a big boost from it. These tend to be filthy rich kids so it is very obvious.

If these kids are too dumb to understand it, let them live in their sad little world. Tell your child to hold their head high and know that they fully deserve to be there and not to care what these small people think.

+1 - people without legacy at top schools build it up in their minds into something it’s not. Most of my classmates’ kids are not getting into my college with it’s 4 % admissions rate either

+1

It helps but it’s still tough.

Not as tough as it is for non-legacies, right? It helps.

Maybe all of you should have strived a little more in high school.

Maybe you should check your own post: being a legacy helps. You said it yourself. You look silly denying it now.

You are confusing posters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To the OP: please note that so many of these responses are clearly from people who do not have legacy status to offer to their kids.

The vast majority of legacies would be there anyway, or worst case it is a tie-breaker. There are a few well-publicized cases of kids who get a big boost from it. These tend to be filthy rich kids so it is very obvious.

If these kids are too dumb to understand it, let them live in their sad little world. Tell your child to hold their head high and know that they fully deserve to be there and not to care what these small people think.

+1 - people without legacy at top schools build it up in their minds into something it’s not. Most of my classmates’ kids are not getting into my college with it’s 4 % admissions rate either

+1

It helps but it’s still tough.

Not as tough as it is for non-legacies, right? It helps.

Slightly less tough.

It helps but it’s still tough.

Depends on school but for most top tier schools legacies have a 20-30% chance whereas unhooked have a 5% chance. . . It's a significant difference

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To the OP: please note that so many of these responses are clearly from people who do not have legacy status to offer to their kids.

The vast majority of legacies would be there anyway, or worst case it is a tie-breaker. There are a few well-publicized cases of kids who get a big boost from it. These tend to be filthy rich kids so it is very obvious.

If these kids are too dumb to understand it, let them live in their sad little world. Tell your child to hold their head high and know that they fully deserve to be there and not to care what these small people think.

+1 - people without legacy at top schools build it up in their minds into something it’s not. Most of my classmates’ kids are not getting into my college with it’s 4 % admissions rate either

+1

It helps but it’s still tough.

Not as tough as it is for non-legacies, right? It helps.

Slightly less tough.

It helps but it’s still tough.

Agree. Legacy matters and can get an applicant in over another equally well-qualified applicant. That what hook means.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid had legacy status at my elite alma mater but that’s only because my parents worked hard and had the means to pay for it.

What does that have to do with your kid's credentials?

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Point is that having legacy status is pure luck. Something over which kids have no control.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid had legacy status at my elite alma mater but that’s only because my parents worked hard and had the means to pay for it.

What does that have to do with your kid's credentials?

m


Point is that having legacy status is pure luck. Something over which kids have no control.

Sure they do, they could proactively not apply ED to the school that they have legacy at, could have taken a ED shot at another equally rejective school or gone RD. That was a strategic choice, one that no doubt their counselor suggested was a smart one, all of which is fine but having used their legacy status and had it pay off it's a bit much to be insulted when others point out that it helped.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To the OP: please note that so many of these responses are clearly from people who do not have legacy status to offer to their kids.

The vast majority of legacies would be there anyway, or worst case it is a tie-breaker. There are a few well-publicized cases of kids who get a big boost from it. These tend to be filthy rich kids so it is very obvious.

If these kids are too dumb to understand it, let them live in their sad little world. Tell your child to hold their head high and know that they fully deserve to be there and not to care what these small people think.

+1 - people without legacy at top schools build it up in their minds into something it’s not. Most of my classmates’ kids are not getting into my college with it’s 4 % admissions rate either

+1

It helps but it’s still tough.

Not as tough as it is for non-legacies, right? It helps.

Slightly less tough.

It helps but it’s still tough.

Depends on school but for most top tier schools legacies have a 20-30% chance whereas unhooked have a 5% chance. . . It's a significant difference

Which school goes from 5% to 30%?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To the OP: please note that so many of these responses are clearly from people who do not have legacy status to offer to their kids.

The vast majority of legacies would be there anyway, or worst case it is a tie-breaker. There are a few well-publicized cases of kids who get a big boost from it. These tend to be filthy rich kids so it is very obvious.

If these kids are too dumb to understand it, let them live in their sad little world. Tell your child to hold their head high and know that they fully deserve to be there and not to care what these small people think.

+1 - people without legacy at top schools build it up in their minds into something it’s not. Most of my classmates’ kids are not getting into my college with it’s 4 % admissions rate either

+1

It helps but it’s still tough.

Not as tough as it is for non-legacies, right? It helps.

Slightly less tough.

It helps but it’s still tough.

Agree. Legacy matters and can get an applicant in over another equally well-qualified applicant. That what hook means.

But far from a “shoo-in” as claimed by an earlier poster.

[Anonymous]

He just takes it. A lot of people had nasty things to say to me when I got into HYPSM. It was eye-opening. Taught me that people I felt were friends were, in fact, not friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To the OP: please note that so many of these responses are clearly from people who do not have legacy status to offer to their kids.

The vast majority of legacies would be there anyway, or worst case it is a tie-breaker. There are a few well-publicized cases of kids who get a big boost from it. These tend to be filthy rich kids so it is very obvious.

If these kids are too dumb to understand it, let them live in their sad little world. Tell your child to hold their head high and know that they fully deserve to be there and not to care what these small people think.

+1 - people without legacy at top schools build it up in their minds into something it’s not. Most of my classmates’ kids are not getting into my college with it’s 4 % admissions rate either

+1

It helps but it’s still tough.

Not as tough as it is for non-legacies, right? It helps.

Slightly less tough.

It helps but it’s still tough.

Depends on school but for most top tier schools legacies have a 20-30% chance whereas unhooked have a 5% chance. . . It's a significant difference

Which school goes from 5% to 30%?

That was the data from the lawsuit against Harvard . . .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To the OP: please note that so many of these responses are clearly from people who do not have legacy status to offer to their kids.

The vast majority of legacies would be there anyway, or worst case it is a tie-breaker. There are a few well-publicized cases of kids who get a big boost from it. These tend to be filthy rich kids so it is very obvious.

If these kids are too dumb to understand it, let them live in their sad little world. Tell your child to hold their head high and know that they fully deserve to be there and not to care what these small people think.

+1 - people without legacy at top schools build it up in their minds into something it’s not. Most of my classmates’ kids are not getting into my college with it’s 4 % admissions rate either

+1

It helps but it’s still tough.

Not as tough as it is for non-legacies, right? It helps.

Slightly less tough.

It helps but it’s still tough.

Depends on school but for most top tier schools legacies have a 20-30% chance whereas unhooked have a 5% chance. . . It's a significant difference

Which school goes from 5% to 30%?

DP. Not sure what school is being referred to, but here is some interesting data.

https://www.nytimes.com/2023/07/27/upshot/ivy-league-legacy-admissions.html

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid had legacy status at my elite alma mater but that’s only because my parents worked hard and had the means to pay for it.

What does that have to do with your kid's credentials?

m


Point is that having legacy status is pure luck. Something over which kids have no control.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To the OP: please note that so many of these responses are clearly from people who do not have legacy status to offer to their kids.

The vast majority of legacies would be there anyway, or worst case it is a tie-breaker. There are a few well-publicized cases of kids who get a big boost from it. These tend to be filthy rich kids so it is very obvious.

If these kids are too dumb to understand it, let them live in their sad little world. Tell your child to hold their head high and know that they fully deserve to be there and not to care what these small people think.

+1 - people without legacy at top schools build it up in their minds into something it’s not. Most of my classmates’ kids are not getting into my college with it’s 4 % admissions rate either

+1

It helps but it’s still tough.

Not as tough as it is for non-legacies, right? It helps.

Slightly less tough.

It helps but it’s still tough.

Depends on school but for most top tier schools legacies have a 20-30% chance whereas unhooked have a 5% chance. . . It's a significant difference

Which school goes from 5% to 30%?

That was the data from the lawsuit against Harvard . . .

Citation on 5% to 30%?