Physical attraction at 60yo

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My Dad, a widower, is 74 and he is very fit as he still competes in half iron man type events. He complains that most women age appropriate for him are out of shape with many having "given up". We've discussed him dating younger and since we have a 30 year age gap we jokingly agree that half that gap or 15 years (age 57+) would keep me from rolling my eyes.

This made me lol. Sounds like the two of you have a good relationship!

We do! I can’t imagine there are many dads and grandads who are so special. He lives near me and many of my friends know him and feel the same way about him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My Dad, a widower, is 74 and he is very fit as he still competes in half iron man type events. He complains that most women age appropriate for him are out of shape with many having "given up". We've discussed him dating younger and since we have a 30 year age gap we jokingly agree that half that gap or 15 years (age 57+) would keep me from rolling my eyes.

Honestly I have never met a kind man who speaks of women “giving up.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My Dad, a widower, is 74 and he is very fit as he still competes in half iron man type events. He complains that most women age appropriate for him are out of shape with many having "given up". We've discussed him dating younger and since we have a 30 year age gap we jokingly agree that half that gap or 15 years (age 57+) would keep me from rolling my eyes.

Honestly I have never met a kind man who speaks of women “giving up.”

I wouldn’t say it to their faces but it you can easily observe women and men who have given up on their appearance. Reality is not “kind” but who said it has to be?

[Anonymous]

Our neighbors are 62 (she) and 60 (he) and they both look great and are very energetic.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have a guy on the hook, reel him in. The sea is pretty empty the older you get.

Why? For what?

Because the pool shrinks the older women get. There are fewer men around and those who can engage a younger woman do so. The 60yo rich adonis is dating 45 and below. The nice, decent guys who want to date a woman of his age has many many women to pick from.

This really is true.

We're longtime expats, and have lived in Eastern Europe and now in Asia. In both places, it was super common to see middle aged expat couples divorce because the man (always the man) had an affair with a much younger local girl. By much younger, I mean early 20s to early 30s women with men aged 40, 50, 60, and beyond. Literally any Western man of any age is/was constantly targeted by drop-dead gorgeous young women. The women weren't all "bar girls" or yokels from the village, either: I have a 65 year old male colleague now who is married to a gorgeous 28 year old lawyer.

As a woman, I don't know what to say. I've accepted the reality of the situation and now believe that almost every man will choose a much younger woman if possible, and that includes leaving a wife/family. I've just seen this happen so many times while living in countries where there is an endless supply of young women who would do almost anything to land a pot-bellied 65 year old American man.

I've seen men abandon young families with kids, wives in their 30s, wives in their 40s, wives in middle age. It is super depressing to see this happen with a guy who initially seems like such a loving family man.

[Anonymous]

If you are not physically/sexually attracted to him now, then it is likely you never will.

He is a person - not a tree that can grow on you.
I personally feel that if you are not attracted to someone then it is unfair to you both if you try to pursue a romantic relationship w/them.

On the flip side there will be people who will disagree w/this outlook ➕ claim at this age, physical attraction is something that shouldn’t matter…..that not many people look that good in their late fifties/early-sixties as most people in this age range are past their prime.

I am 56 btw and I stand by my original statement.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You are 100% irrelevant after 60. Be greatful you have a good man. You are not 16

My mom had last BF at 65. He was fit and only 2 years older

They were both irrelevant?

To whom, exactly? Who is this cabal that decides relevance? I don’t give two shits about “relevance.” I’m living my life and loving it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are not physically/sexually attracted to him now, then it is likely you never will.

He is a person - not a tree that can grow on you.
I personally feel that if you are not attracted to someone then it is unfair to you both if you try to pursue a romantic relationship w/them.

On the flip side there will be people who will disagree w/this outlook ➕ claim at this age, physical attraction is something that shouldn’t matter…..that not many people look that good in their late fifties/early-sixties as most people in this age range are past their prime.

I am 56 btw and I stand by my original statement.

I agree that op should let this man go for his sake. Someone else will find him attractive and no point faking it.

As for the second, it’s not that physical attractiveness doesn’t matter but rather what’s attractive naturally expands for most people

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My Dad, a widower, is 74 and he is very fit as he still competes in half iron man type events. He complains that most women age appropriate for him are out of shape with many having "given up". We've discussed him dating younger and since we have a 30 year age gap we jokingly agree that half that gap or 15 years (age 57+) would keep me from rolling my eyes.

Honestly I have never met a kind man who speaks of women “giving up.”

I wouldn’t say it to their faces but it you can easily observe women and men who have given up on their appearance. Reality is not “kind” but who said it has to be?

At 74, I think you can get a little more room on appearance. I feel sorry for those of you who disagree. Aging is going to be rough on your spirit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have a guy on the hook, reel him in. The sea is pretty empty the older you get.

Why? For what?

Because the pool shrinks the older women get. There are fewer men around and those who can engage a younger woman do so. The 60yo rich adonis is dating 45 and below. The nice, decent guys who want to date a woman of his age has many many women to pick from.

This really is true.

We're longtime expats, and have lived in Eastern Europe and now in Asia. In both places, it was super common to see middle aged expat couples divorce because the man (always the man) had an affair with a much younger local girl. By much younger, I mean early 20s to early 30s women with men aged 40, 50, 60, and beyond. Literally any Western man of any age is/was constantly targeted by drop-dead gorgeous young women. The women weren't all "bar girls" or yokels from the village, either: I have a 65 year old male colleague now who is married to a gorgeous 28 year old lawyer.

As a woman, I don't know what to say. I've accepted the reality of the situation and now believe that almost every man will choose a much younger woman if possible, and that includes leaving a wife/family. I've just seen this happen so many times while living in countries where there is an endless supply of young women who would do almost anything to land a pot-bellied 65 year old American man.

I've seen men abandon young families with kids, wives in their 30s, wives in their 40s, wives in middle age. It is super depressing to see this happen with a guy who initially seems like such a loving family man.

These large gap marriages and relationships are often not stable. I have several examples of how much younger wives left, live their own life, don’t sleep with husbands, left when husband went sick, ask me to introduce them to young men to cheat etc.
My best friend is married to a 30 years older man. He’s 80 and she’s 50. Their marriage is companionship and business arrangement. She is very low L and never needed much sex. She’s not the happiest wife out there and often regrets her choices but they have a child together so divorce is out of question. She screams at him sometimes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have a guy on the hook, reel him in. The sea is pretty empty the older you get.

Why? For what?

Because the pool shrinks the older women get. There are fewer men around and those who can engage a younger woman do so. The 60yo rich adonis is dating 45 and below. The nice, decent guys who want to date a woman of his age has many many women to pick from.

This really is true.

We're longtime expats, and have lived in Eastern Europe and now in Asia. In both places, it was super common to see middle aged expat couples divorce because the man (always the man) had an affair with a much younger local girl. By much younger, I mean early 20s to early 30s women with men aged 40, 50, 60, and beyond. Literally any Western man of any age is/was constantly targeted by drop-dead gorgeous young women. The women weren't all "bar girls" or yokels from the village, either: I have a 65 year old male colleague now who is married to a gorgeous 28 year old lawyer.

As a woman, I don't know what to say. I've accepted the reality of the situation and now believe that almost every man will choose a much younger woman if possible, and that includes leaving a wife/family. I've just seen this happen so many times while living in countries where there is an endless supply of young women who would do almost anything to land a pot-bellied 65 year old American man.

I've seen men abandon young families with kids, wives in their 30s, wives in their 40s, wives in middle age. It is super depressing to see this happen with a guy who initially seems like such a loving family man.

My best friend is married to a 30 years older man. He’s 80 and she’s 50. Their marriage is companionship and business arrangement. She is very low L and never needed much sex. She’s not the happiest wife out there and often regrets her choices but they have a child together so divorce is out of question. She screams at him sometimes.

That’s not unique to an age-gap marriage. It’s every marriage on this forum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have a guy on the hook, reel him in. The sea is pretty empty the older you get.

Why? For what?

Because the pool shrinks the older women get. There are fewer men around and those who can engage a younger woman do so. The 60yo rich adonis is dating 45 and below. The nice, decent guys who want to date a woman of his age has many many women to pick from.

This really is true.

We're longtime expats, and have lived in Eastern Europe and now in Asia. In both places, it was super common to see middle aged expat couples divorce because the man (always the man) had an affair with a much younger local girl. By much younger, I mean early 20s to early 30s women with men aged 40, 50, 60, and beyond. Literally any Western man of any age is/was constantly targeted by drop-dead gorgeous young women. The women weren't all "bar girls" or yokels from the village, either: I have a 65 year old male colleague now who is married to a gorgeous 28 year old lawyer.

As a woman, I don't know what to say. I've accepted the reality of the situation and now believe that almost every man will choose a much younger woman if possible, and that includes leaving a wife/family. I've just seen this happen so many times while living in countries where there is an endless supply of young women who would do almost anything to land a pot-bellied 65 year old American man.

I've seen men abandon young families with kids, wives in their 30s, wives in their 40s, wives in middle age. It is super depressing to see this happen with a guy who initially seems like such a loving family man.

My best friend is married to a 30 years older man. He’s 80 and she’s 50. Their marriage is companionship and business arrangement. She is very low L and never needed much sex. She’s not the happiest wife out there and often regrets her choices but they have a child together so divorce is out of question. She screams at him sometimes.

That’s not unique to an age-gap marriage. It’s every marriage on this forum.

The inter personal conflicts in large gap relationships are much worse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have a guy on the hook, reel him in. The sea is pretty empty the older you get.

Why? For what?

Because the pool shrinks the older women get. There are fewer men around and those who can engage a younger woman do so. The 60yo rich adonis is dating 45 and below. The nice, decent guys who want to date a woman of his age has many many women to pick from.

This really is true.

We're longtime expats, and have lived in Eastern Europe and now in Asia. In both places, it was super common to see middle aged expat couples divorce because the man (always the man) had an affair with a much younger local girl. By much younger, I mean early 20s to early 30s women with men aged 40, 50, 60, and beyond. Literally any Western man of any age is/was constantly targeted by drop-dead gorgeous young women. The women weren't all "bar girls" or yokels from the village, either: I have a 65 year old male colleague now who is married to a gorgeous 28 year old lawyer.

As a woman, I don't know what to say. I've accepted the reality of the situation and now believe that almost every man will choose a much younger woman if possible, and that includes leaving a wife/family. I've just seen this happen so many times while living in countries where there is an endless supply of young women who would do almost anything to land a pot-bellied 65 year old American man.

I've seen men abandon young families with kids, wives in their 30s, wives in their 40s, wives in middle age. It is super depressing to see this happen with a guy who initially seems like such a loving family man.

Those kinds of guys are losers though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have a guy on the hook, reel him in. The sea is pretty empty the older you get.

Why? For what?

Because the pool shrinks the older women get. There are fewer men around and those who can engage a younger woman do so. The 60yo rich adonis is dating 45 and below. The nice, decent guys who want to date a woman of his age has many many women to pick from.

This really is true.

We're longtime expats, and have lived in Eastern Europe and now in Asia. In both places, it was super common to see middle aged expat couples divorce because the man (always the man) had an affair with a much younger local girl. By much younger, I mean early 20s to early 30s women with men aged 40, 50, 60, and beyond. Literally any Western man of any age is/was constantly targeted by drop-dead gorgeous young women. The women weren't all "bar girls" or yokels from the village, either: I have a 65 year old male colleague now who is married to a gorgeous 28 year old lawyer.

As a woman, I don't know what to say. I've accepted the reality of the situation and now believe that almost every man will choose a much younger woman if possible, and that includes leaving a wife/family. I've just seen this happen so many times while living in countries where there is an endless supply of young women who would do almost anything to land a pot-bellied 65 year old American man.

I've seen men abandon young families with kids, wives in their 30s, wives in their 40s, wives in middle age. It is super depressing to see this happen with a guy who initially seems like such a loving family man.

Those kinds of guys are losers though.

This. I’m happy for them to take themselves out of the dating pool !

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My Dad, a widower, is 74 and he is very fit as he still competes in half iron man type events. He complains that most women age appropriate for him are out of shape with many having "given up". We've discussed him dating younger and since we have a 30 year age gap we jokingly agree that half that gap or 15 years (age 57+) would keep me from rolling my eyes.

Honestly I have never met a kind man who speaks of women “giving up.”

I wouldn’t say it to their faces but it you can easily observe women and men who have given up on their appearance. Reality is not “kind” but who said it has to be?

At 74, I think you can get a little more room on appearance. I feel sorry for those of you who disagree. Aging is going to be rough on your spirit.

You can still tell the difference between those who have given up and those who are still trying. I feel sorry for those of you who are too stupid to appreciate this.