Sister Incorporating My Son into Her Wedding

[Anonymous]

Walking her down the aisle is very sweet, but the rest is ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

He is YOUR son and you have every right to do whatever feels right to you for your minor child. You can tell her that you feel this is inappropriate and while standing in for his late relative can be an honor for an adult, it can be a emotional burden for a tween. She can't decide it for him because you are alive and his mom/legal guardian.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is a First Look?

This? What is it?

[Anonymous]

The first look seems a bit specialized for anyone besides the husband

The first dance would be with her husband no? And then the second with her dad traditional (your son)?

I personally find it weird the mother is alive and the 12 year old and not mother would give her away - seems super patriarchal but I guess those are weddings

[Anonymous]

A bit sexualised

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A bit sexualised

how?

[Anonymous]

Yeah - the first look is supposed to be with the groom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A bit sexualised

how?

Because the first look is a romantic moment between bride and groom. It’s disturbing to have an aunt do it with her pre teen nephew.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The first look seems a bit specialized for anyone besides the husband

The first dance would be with her husband no? And then the second with her dad traditional (your son)?

I personally find it weird the mother is alive and the 12 year old and not mother would give her away - seems super patriarchal but I guess those are weddings

+1. A 12 year old is still a child. I'd make him a groomsman, jr. groomsman and let mom walk her down the aisle. I've never heard of a "First Look" so I won't even comment on that nonsense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You guys, OP did not have a baby at age 16 and is now a big law associate at age 28. It’s a troll post.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. My son is 12 years old. First look is supposed to be a moment between the bride and someone or a few people (e.g., groom, dad, bridesmaids) where there is essentially a reveal of the bride to that individual. They get a first look at the bride before she walks down the aisle. I always thought of it being a special and private moment. She is wanting to do it with just my son.

I was trying to keep an open mind until I saw that he was 12.

First look, absolutely not. That is for her husband.

I guess walking her down the aisle is fine, although the whole thing seems like a lot of emotional pressure for a tween. *Sigh.* Off to read the comments!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Im 28 and I work in big law

No you don't. Good troll though.

Come on, don’t all teen moms graduate college and law school and land in big law by age 28?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Im 28 and I work in big law

No you don't. Good troll though.

Come on, don’t all teen moms graduate college and law school and land in big law by age 28?

OP never said she was a lawyer, just that she worked in big law. So do I and I'm not a lawyer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Im 28 and I work in big law

No you don't. Good troll though.

Come on, don’t all teen moms graduate college and law school and land in big law by age 28?

OP never said she was a lawyer, just that she worked in big law. So do I and I'm not a lawyer.

She said she went to law school and passed the bar. Did you do that also?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Im 28 and I work in big law

No you don't. Good troll though.

Come on, don’t all teen moms graduate college and law school and land in big law by age 28?

OP never said she was a lawyer, just that she worked in big law. So do I and I'm not a lawyer.

She said she went to law school and passed the bar. Did you do that also?

No but I still don't understand what is so unbelievable about that. She said she lived with her parents and sister when she had the baby so with enough help, she could have gone to law school and passed the bar. I know people who went to law school while having a child (and working). I don't see why its so unbelievable that she could work as an associate at 28.