Does anyone else believe in Mel Robbins's Let Them theory

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Has anyone read the book?

I understand the premise and it’s probably helpful for chronic people pleasers, like myself. But if we just let people do as they please, how is anyone held accountable?

If I let my rude, negative family member continue their ways because that’s how they’ve always been…what comes of that? Or is it my own reaction that I am supposed to control?

I didn’t read the book but learned from experience and therapy that letting the negative family member do their thing means they will do it to others. Eventually, the word will get out and others will see this person for who they are.

When this works best is when I don’t take the bait from the negative family member. They try to draw me in to get a dopamine hit. By not reacting or by shrugging it off, it’s not fun for them anymore.

Two of my family members do this, so I have had a lot of practice!

I’m with you (and Oprah) on this. Mel Robbin’s theories have really improved my life.

At its simplest, just let them.

[Anonymous]

I like the underlying concept- don’t seek to control what is outside of your control.

As other PP’s have noted, the roots of this goes back thousands of years and is still actively helpful.

Living your values through your actions is also a core component (also dates back thousands of years) so if you see a wrong and you have agency, do something.

[Anonymous]

You mean when you don’t get your own way you’re NOT supposed to pout like a little girl & screech into a bullhorn?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You mean when you don’t get your own way you’re NOT supposed to pout like a little girl & screech into a bullhorn?

are you referring to this young lady on the street in D.C. one recent evening?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You mean when you don’t get your own way you’re NOT supposed to pout like a little girl & screech into a bullhorn?

Or scream "HOAX!" and send your supporters to riot at the Capital, continue to perpetrate lies about nonsense like "stolen elections", and otherwise be MAGA.