Anyone else not proud of their adult child?

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Anonymous wrote:You're lucky she's not a deadbeat.

If she's responsible, ask her to take on more chores to help her prepare for solo living.

Did she like the college and fail out? Or was she unhappy and left?

I don't think today's society does a great job at helping people figure out what is meaningful in life.

Remember that for most of human history, your daughter's role would have been wife, mother, homemaker. However you feel about that, those roles are more intuitive than a modern career path.

What a bunch of sexist bs. Shoo dinosaur. Nothing is intuitive about any of that. You learn those skills the same way you do everything else.

Lol. I'm the dino. I just think wife, mother, and homemaker are easier to intuitively figure out than the modern economy. I am a working MBA mom and it has been much easier for me to run a household and parent than to figure out college, choosing a major, finding and keeping jobs, work politics, applying to grad school, etc.

I think it's equally hard for young men to plot a career path. Men traditionally had a wider variety of careers. That's why I didn't mention them as examples.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't think the OP worries are ridiculous. Overwhelmed at a good college and then average at community college and not social is cause for concern.
She is demonstrating lack of ambition and work ethic.

Agree

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Anonymous wrote:Ugh your mentality is garbage. Her job in life is not to make you proud. Just love her, support, and encourage her the best you can.

No. You are wrong. Whether or not we admit it publicly, that is our kids’ jobs. My immigrant family would agree with that.

I know this gets said on here a lot, but I feel sorry for your kids.

+1

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Anonymous wrote: Overwhelmed in college and inattention to daily tasks?

That stinks to high heaven of untreated inattentive ADHD…

You should get her evaluated. ADHD is the mental health disorder that’s easiest to medicate. She could go back to school, potentially. It would greatly improve her financial outlook.

This OP. If you want to get her back on track, have her evaluated.

[Anonymous]

Please give her the defining decade book. Also, she’s doing better than you think she is. You just feel that is capable of more.

Some people are late bloomers.