Who Is Most Out Of Bounds Here?

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Anonymous wrote:I’m team DH and I love this. I wish my DH would bring that kind of big D energy when it comes to standing up for his kids.

I consider myself to be a pretty polite and chill person but a woman once made a rude comment to me about my child who had just had a seizure in public and she interpreted his behavior as a tantrum. I’m a large woman, and was inches from her face screaming within about 2 seconds. She was terrified and immediately apologized and cried. I’m not proud of what I did exactly, but there’s something primal that gets triggered in us when our kids are attacked.

I love your DH for going all Papa Bear for your DD.

Do you think you would have been justified in hitting that woman? Screaming at someone is still pretty disgusting behavior, and you should be ashamed of yourself, not patting yourself on the back and saying you're a mama bear. Gross.

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Anonymous wrote:Who covered up what when isn't the trump card some seen to think it is. "Outing" likely hurt the cheater's family and caused public humiliation for them. That wasn't a precision strike, OP and Daddy Bear. The innocent family were your collateral damage.
You will now have that reputation among anyone who saw your "righteous anger" post and anyone they told.

You blew up the family 's private life.

No.

The cheater blew up his families life. The cheater hurt his family and caused humiliation. If one person knew about his romp it's likely that other people knew. That is absolutely humiliating for his wife and children. Why do you chose to shoot the messenger instead of the f##ked up cheater himself?

Dave chose to cheat, Dave blew up his own family.

Dave's wife and children deserve to deal with Dave's shitty behavior in private and not online as dictated by OP's DH. That's the part you don't get. No one is saying Dave is the good guy. But there are people here who presumably did nothing wrong having to deal with DAve's f-up's in the most public way. There are no good guys in this story.

At least his wife and family KNOW now, and can START to deal with it.

How do you know the wife didn't already know and chose to keep things private and work it out with her husband? WHo is OP's husband to decide the terms on how they deal with it?

How is he deciding how they deal with it? They can deal with it however they want. If the wife knows, why is she calling OP 300x? Do you not have any empathy for someone who's been cheated on and lied to? Why so many cheater apologists on here?

By making them/her deal with it in such a public way. She didn't deserve to be cheated on, she didn't deserve to be humiliated in front of all of their friends. Their children especially don't deserve any of it. Who the F is making apologies for a cheater? You are very small minded and borderline evil.

If you cheat, you can expect your wife and children find out and for them to know that everybody in their orbit knows whether they find out on Facebook or they find out on the sidelines of a soccer game or they find out through an anonymous email. the reality is everybody knows. And the wife is humiliated by the cheater

Yeah and his children now deserve to be asked about it at school and at church or wherever else they go. You are despicable.

You really have an issue with this. Did it happen to you? You know, maybe Dave shouldn’t be on social media. Maybe he shouldn’t have cheated. Maybe the kids learn resilience and the fact that they are not their Father’s mistakes at a young age.

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Anonymous wrote:Who covered up what when isn't the trump card some seen to think it is. "Outing" likely hurt the cheater's family and caused public humiliation for them. That wasn't a precision strike, OP and Daddy Bear. The innocent family were your collateral damage.
You will now have that reputation among anyone who saw your "righteous anger" post and anyone they told.

You blew up the family 's private life.

No.

The cheater blew up his families life. The cheater hurt his family and caused humiliation. If one person knew about his romp it's likely that other people knew. That is absolutely humiliating for his wife and children. Why do you chose to shoot the messenger instead of the f##ked up cheater himself?

Dave chose to cheat, Dave blew up his own family.

Dave's wife and children deserve to deal with Dave's shitty behavior in private and not online as dictated by OP's DH. That's the part you don't get. No one is saying Dave is the good guy. But there are people here who presumably did nothing wrong having to deal with DAve's f-up's in the most public way. There are no good guys in this story.

At least his wife and family KNOW now, and can START to deal with it.

How do you know the wife didn't already know and chose to keep things private and work it out with her husband? WHo is OP's husband to decide the terms on how they deal with it?

How is he deciding how they deal with it? They can deal with it however they want. If the wife knows, why is she calling OP 300x? Do you not have any empathy for someone who's been cheated on and lied to? Why so many cheater apologists on here?

By making them/her deal with it in such a public way. She didn't deserve to be cheated on, she didn't deserve to be humiliated in front of all of their friends. Their children especially don't deserve any of it. Who the F is making apologies for a cheater? You are very small minded and borderline evil.

If you cheat, you can expect your wife and children find out and for them to know that everybody in their orbit knows whether they find out on Facebook or they find out on the sidelines of a soccer game or they find out through an anonymous email. the reality is everybody knows. And the wife is humiliated by the cheater

Yeah and his children now deserve to be asked about it at school and at church or wherever else they go. You are despicable.

You really have an issue with this. Did it happen to you? You know, maybe Dave shouldn’t be on social media. Maybe he shouldn’t have cheated. Maybe the kids learn resilience and the fact that they are not their Father’s mistakes at a young age.

You are disgusting.

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Anonymous wrote:Who covered up what when isn't the trump card some seen to think it is. "Outing" likely hurt the cheater's family and caused public humiliation for them. That wasn't a precision strike, OP and Daddy Bear. The innocent family were your collateral damage.
You will now have that reputation among anyone who saw your "righteous anger" post and anyone they told.

You blew up the family 's private life.

No.

The cheater blew up his families life. The cheater hurt his family and caused humiliation. If one person knew about his romp it's likely that other people knew. That is absolutely humiliating for his wife and children. Why do you chose to shoot the messenger instead of the f##ked up cheater himself?

Dave chose to cheat, Dave blew up his own family.

Dave's wife and children deserve to deal with Dave's shitty behavior in private and not online as dictated by OP's DH. That's the part you don't get. No one is saying Dave is the good guy. But there are people here who presumably did nothing wrong having to deal with DAve's f-up's in the most public way. There are no good guys in this story.

At least his wife and family KNOW now, and can START to deal with it.

How do you know the wife didn't already know and chose to keep things private and work it out with her husband? WHo is OP's husband to decide the terms on how they deal with it?

How is he deciding how they deal with it? They can deal with it however they want. If the wife knows, why is she calling OP 300x? Do you not have any empathy for someone who's been cheated on and lied to? Why so many cheater apologists on here?

By making them/her deal with it in such a public way. She didn't deserve to be cheated on, she didn't deserve to be humiliated in front of all of their friends. Their children especially don't deserve any of it. Who the F is making apologies for a cheater? You are very small minded and borderline evil.

Uh you apparently. You'd rather shoot the messenger than the cheater.

You are just too dumb to keep talking to. I hope your husband's affair is exposed the exact same way. It's what you deserve after all.

Wow, calling other people evil and wishing for husbands to cheat on them? You are a spectacularly disgusting person. Go cheat on someone, clearly you have no issues with it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dave is a horrible person, no doubt about it.

BUT I also despise friends who are ok with covering for their friends when things are good (DH knew about the affair and was ok with not saying a word) but when things go south then all of a sudden they grow a conscience and publically air dirty laundry.

I had an ex who would always bring up stuff I confided in him about when we were fighting. He acted so understanding when we were sharing and being intimate but always used it against me later during an argument.

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I'd be so embarrassed if my husband acted like that. He's not the upstanding man you think he is.

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Anonymous wrote:Who covered up what when isn't the trump card some seen to think it is. "Outing" likely hurt the cheater's family and caused public humiliation for them. That wasn't a precision strike, OP and Daddy Bear. The innocent family were your collateral damage.
You will now have that reputation among anyone who saw your "righteous anger" post and anyone they told.

You blew up the family 's private life.

No.

The cheater blew up his families life. The cheater hurt his family and caused humiliation. If one person knew about his romp it's likely that other people knew. That is absolutely humiliating for his wife and children. Why do you chose to shoot the messenger instead of the f##ked up cheater himself?

Dave chose to cheat, Dave blew up his own family.

Dave's wife and children deserve to deal with Dave's shitty behavior in private and not online as dictated by OP's DH. That's the part you don't get. No one is saying Dave is the good guy. But there are people here who presumably did nothing wrong having to deal with DAve's f-up's in the most public way. There are no good guys in this story.

At least his wife and family KNOW now, and can START to deal with it.

How do you know the wife didn't already know and chose to keep things private and work it out with her husband? WHo is OP's husband to decide the terms on how they deal with it?

How is he deciding how they deal with it? They can deal with it however they want. If the wife knows, why is she calling OP 300x? Do you not have any empathy for someone who's been cheated on and lied to? Why so many cheater apologists on here?

By making them/her deal with it in such a public way. She didn't deserve to be cheated on, she didn't deserve to be humiliated in front of all of their friends. Their children especially don't deserve any of it. Who the F is making apologies for a cheater? You are very small minded and borderline evil.

If you cheat, you can expect your wife and children find out and for them to know that everybody in their orbit knows whether they find out on Facebook or they find out on the sidelines of a soccer game or they find out through an anonymous email. the reality is everybody knows. And the wife is humiliated by the cheater

Yeah and his children now deserve to be asked about it at school and at church or wherever else they go. You are despicable.

You really think their children are on FB? C'mon use your brain, if you have one.

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Anonymous wrote:Who covered up what when isn't the trump card some seen to think it is. "Outing" likely hurt the cheater's family and caused public humiliation for them. That wasn't a precision strike, OP and Daddy Bear. The innocent family were your collateral damage.
You will now have that reputation among anyone who saw your "righteous anger" post and anyone they told.

You blew up the family 's private life.

No.

The cheater blew up his families life. The cheater hurt his family and caused humiliation. If one person knew about his romp it's likely that other people knew. That is absolutely humiliating for his wife and children. Why do you chose to shoot the messenger instead of the f##ked up cheater himself?

Dave chose to cheat, Dave blew up his own family.

Dave's wife and children deserve to deal with Dave's shitty behavior in private and not online as dictated by OP's DH. That's the part you don't get. No one is saying Dave is the good guy. But there are people here who presumably did nothing wrong having to deal with DAve's f-up's in the most public way. There are no good guys in this story.

At least his wife and family KNOW now, and can START to deal with it.

How do you know the wife didn't already know and chose to keep things private and work it out with her husband? WHo is OP's husband to decide the terms on how they deal with it?

How is he deciding how they deal with it? They can deal with it however they want. If the wife knows, why is she calling OP 300x? Do you not have any empathy for someone who's been cheated on and lied to? Why so many cheater apologists on here?

By making them/her deal with it in such a public way. She didn't deserve to be cheated on, she didn't deserve to be humiliated in front of all of their friends. Their children especially don't deserve any of it. Who the F is making apologies for a cheater? You are very small minded and borderline evil.

If you cheat, you can expect your wife and children find out and for them to know that everybody in their orbit knows whether they find out on Facebook or they find out on the sidelines of a soccer game or they find out through an anonymous email. the reality is everybody knows. And the wife is humiliated by the cheater

Yeah and his children now deserve to be asked about it at school and at church or wherever else they go. You are despicable.

You really think their children are on FB? C'mon use your brain, if you have one.

Sounds like they are late teens or heading off to college. They are absolutely on social media. Come on use your brain, if you have one.

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Anonymous wrote:Dave’s remark was outrageous, but your DH was even more out of bounds. He should have called Dave out for being an inappropriate pig, ideally offline, not blown up his marriage. Serious over escalation.

Dave said something rude and untrue.

DH said the truth.

Dh didn’t care to tell the truth until Dave hinted at his daughter being overweight. So cheating on your wife is fine until he feels insulted. Something is seriously wrong with that man, sorry.

He cared but he did say anything. Dave changed the rules when he said the inside thought publicly and DH thought oh okay we are just laying everything on the table. Let’s go.

Do you people really never take the high road?

[Anonymous]

Wow. Both were wrong, but your husband went nuclear.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes of course. Dave is responsible for his own actions. And so is the op's DH. He publicly put something out there in a way that was unnecessary.

I can't believe all you people narrowing in on the defense and Dave's actions and not thinking about what they did to Dave's wife and family.

Because those actions were already taken. Dave had already cheated. THAT was the issue that blew up the marriage, not the announcement. Dave shouldn’t brag about cheating to his friends and expect his cronies to be complicit in his infidelity.

You can't be this dumb. Yes, he cheated but the family was intact before they learned about the cheating. And if DH wanted to communicate that he could have done in private like an adult to minimize the damage to the innocent people in the situation.

If Dave would’ve been private, then DH would’ve been private.

WHO THE F CARES ABOUT DAVE!!!!!!!???? I keep repeating that his children and his wife didn't deserve this from OP's DH. I don't give a rat's ass about Dave.

You should care about Dave because this is who hurt his family Dave and only Dave it happened Because of Dave. Dave, Dave Dave, Dave, Dave, Dave

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Anonymous wrote:Who covered up what when isn't the trump card some seen to think it is. "Outing" likely hurt the cheater's family and caused public humiliation for them. That wasn't a precision strike, OP and Daddy Bear. The innocent family were your collateral damage.
You will now have that reputation among anyone who saw your "righteous anger" post and anyone they told.

You blew up the family 's private life.

No.

The cheater blew up his families life. The cheater hurt his family and caused humiliation. If one person knew about his romp it's likely that other people knew. That is absolutely humiliating for his wife and children. Why do you chose to shoot the messenger instead of the f##ked up cheater himself?

Dave chose to cheat, Dave blew up his own family.

Dave's wife and children deserve to deal with Dave's shitty behavior in private and not online as dictated by OP's DH. That's the part you don't get. No one is saying Dave is the good guy. But there are people here who presumably did nothing wrong having to deal with DAve's f-up's in the most public way. There are no good guys in this story.

At least his wife and family KNOW now, and can START to deal with it.

How do you know the wife didn't already know and chose to keep things private and work it out with her husband? WHo is OP's husband to decide the terms on how they deal with it?

How is he deciding how they deal with it? They can deal with it however they want. If the wife knows, why is she calling OP 300x? Do you not have any empathy for someone who's been cheated on and lied to? Why so many cheater apologists on here?

By making them/her deal with it in such a public way. She didn't deserve to be cheated on, she didn't deserve to be humiliated in front of all of their friends. Their children especially don't deserve any of it. Who the F is making apologies for a cheater? You are very small minded and borderline evil.

If you cheat, you can expect your wife and children find out and for them to know that everybody in their orbit knows whether they find out on Facebook or they find out on the sidelines of a soccer game or they find out through an anonymous email. the reality is everybody knows. And the wife is humiliated by the cheater

Yeah and his children now deserve to be asked about it at school and at church or wherever else they go. You are despicable.

You know the wife is the last to find out so school in church already knew.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes of course. Dave is responsible for his own actions. And so is the op's DH. He publicly put something out there in a way that was unnecessary.

I can't believe all you people narrowing in on the defense and Dave's actions and not thinking about what they did to Dave's wife and family.

Because those actions were already taken. Dave had already cheated. THAT was the issue that blew up the marriage, not the announcement. Dave shouldn’t brag about cheating to his friends and expect his cronies to be complicit in his infidelity.

You can't be this dumb. Yes, he cheated but the family was intact before they learned about the cheating. And if DH wanted to communicate that he could have done in private like an adult to minimize the damage to the innocent people in the situation.

If Dave would’ve been private, then DH would’ve been private.

WHO THE F CARES ABOUT DAVE!!!!!!!???? I keep repeating that his children and his wife didn't deserve this from OP's DH. I don't give a rat's ass about Dave.

You should care about Dave because this is who hurt his family Dave and only Dave it happened Because of Dave. Dave, Dave Dave, Dave, Dave, Dave

as I suspected you're just a toddler throwing your own shit around and screaming. Bye.

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Anonymous wrote:Who covered up what when isn't the trump card some seen to think it is. "Outing" likely hurt the cheater's family and caused public humiliation for them. That wasn't a precision strike, OP and Daddy Bear. The innocent family were your collateral damage.
You will now have that reputation among anyone who saw your "righteous anger" post and anyone they told.

You blew up the family 's private life.

No.

The cheater blew up his families life. The cheater hurt his family and caused humiliation. If one person knew about his romp it's likely that other people knew. That is absolutely humiliating for his wife and children. Why do you chose to shoot the messenger instead of the f##ked up cheater himself?

Dave chose to cheat, Dave blew up his own family.

Dave's wife and children deserve to deal with Dave's shitty behavior in private and not online as dictated by OP's DH. That's the part you don't get. No one is saying Dave is the good guy. But there are people here who presumably did nothing wrong having to deal with DAve's f-up's in the most public way. There are no good guys in this story.

At least his wife and family KNOW now, and can START to deal with it.

How do you know the wife didn't already know and chose to keep things private and work it out with her husband? WHo is OP's husband to decide the terms on how they deal with it?

How is he deciding how they deal with it? They can deal with it however they want. If the wife knows, why is she calling OP 300x? Do you not have any empathy for someone who's been cheated on and lied to? Why so many cheater apologists on here?

By making them/her deal with it in such a public way. She didn't deserve to be cheated on, she didn't deserve to be humiliated in front of all of their friends. Their children especially don't deserve any of it. Who the F is making apologies for a cheater? You are very small minded and borderline evil.

If you cheat, you can expect your wife and children find out and for them to know that everybody in their orbit knows whether they find out on Facebook or they find out on the sidelines of a soccer game or they find out through an anonymous email. the reality is everybody knows. And the wife is humiliated by the cheater

Yeah and his children now deserve to be asked about it at school and at church or wherever else they go. You are despicable.

You really have an issue with this. Did it happen to you? You know, maybe Dave shouldn’t be on social media. Maybe he shouldn’t have cheated. Maybe the kids learn resilience and the fact that they are not their Father’s mistakes at a young age.

You are disgusting.

You’re a cheater apologist. Do you want to protect all cheaters because you’re either an affair partner or you’re a cheater?

You’re the one hurting your family not the one who narcs on you

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes of course. Dave is responsible for his own actions. And so is the op's DH. He publicly put something out there in a way that was unnecessary.

I can't believe all you people narrowing in on the defense and Dave's actions and not thinking about what they did to Dave's wife and family.

Because those actions were already taken. Dave had already cheated. THAT was the issue that blew up the marriage, not the announcement. Dave shouldn’t brag about cheating to his friends and expect his cronies to be complicit in his infidelity.

You can't be this dumb. Yes, he cheated but the family was intact before they learned about the cheating. And if DH wanted to communicate that he could have done in private like an adult to minimize the damage to the innocent people in the situation.

If Dave would’ve been private, then DH would’ve been private.

WHO THE F CARES ABOUT DAVE!!!!!!!???? I keep repeating that his children and his wife didn't deserve this from OP's DH. I don't give a rat's ass about Dave.

You should care about Dave because this is who hurt his family Dave and only Dave it happened Because of Dave. Dave, Dave Dave, Dave, Dave, Dave

as I suspected you're just a toddler throwing your own shit around and screaming. Bye.

I’m sorry you got caught cheating. You’re the one who cheated I don’t care who told your family about it. You’re the one who did it you suck stop being a piece of s**t.

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Anonymous wrote:Who covered up what when isn't the trump card some seen to think it is. "Outing" likely hurt the cheater's family and caused public humiliation for them. That wasn't a precision strike, OP and Daddy Bear. The innocent family were your collateral damage.
You will now have that reputation among anyone who saw your "righteous anger" post and anyone they told.

You blew up the family 's private life.

No.

The cheater blew up his families life. The cheater hurt his family and caused humiliation. If one person knew about his romp it's likely that other people knew. That is absolutely humiliating for his wife and children. Why do you chose to shoot the messenger instead of the f##ked up cheater himself?

Dave chose to cheat, Dave blew up his own family.

Dave's wife and children deserve to deal with Dave's shitty behavior in private and not online as dictated by OP's DH. That's the part you don't get. No one is saying Dave is the good guy. But there are people here who presumably did nothing wrong having to deal with DAve's f-up's in the most public way. There are no good guys in this story.

At least his wife and family KNOW now, and can START to deal with it.

How do you know the wife didn't already know and chose to keep things private and work it out with her husband? WHo is OP's husband to decide the terms on how they deal with it?

How is he deciding how they deal with it? They can deal with it however they want. If the wife knows, why is she calling OP 300x? Do you not have any empathy for someone who's been cheated on and lied to? Why so many cheater apologists on here?

By making them/her deal with it in such a public way. She didn't deserve to be cheated on, she didn't deserve to be humiliated in front of all of their friends. Their children especially don't deserve any of it. Who the F is making apologies for a cheater? You are very small minded and borderline evil.

If you cheat, you can expect your wife and children find out and for them to know that everybody in their orbit knows whether they find out on Facebook or they find out on the sidelines of a soccer game or they find out through an anonymous email. the reality is everybody knows. And the wife is humiliated by the cheater

Yeah and his children now deserve to be asked about it at school and at church or wherever else they go. You are despicable.

You really think their children are on FB? C'mon use your brain, if you have one.

Sounds like they are late teens or heading off to college. They are absolutely on social media. Come on use your brain, if you have one.

OPs daughter is HS grad, as thats who the post was about. OP doesnt mention if daughter is on FB, as she never mentions her seeing the nasty post. OP never even discusses Daves kids. Maybe try reading?