Who Is Most Out Of Bounds Here?

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Chances are DH was ok with keeping Dave's secret for so long because he also has a few secrets himself. The next post will be "Dave's wife sent me a letter, they were together on that trip and my DH cheated too."

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Anonymous wrote:Yes of course. Dave is responsible for his own actions. And so is the op's DH. He publicly put something out there in a way that was unnecessary.

I can't believe all you people narrowing in on the defense and Dave's actions and not thinking about what they did to Dave's wife and family.

Because those actions were already taken. Dave had already cheated. THAT was the issue that blew up the marriage, not the announcement. Dave shouldn’t brag about cheating to his friends and expect his cronies to be complicit in his infidelity.

You can't be this dumb. Yes, he cheated but the family was intact before they learned about the cheating. And if DH wanted to communicate that he could have done in private like an adult to minimize the damage to the innocent people in the situation.

If Dave would’ve been private, then DH would’ve been private.

WHO THE F CARES ABOUT DAVE!!!!!!!???? I keep repeating that his children and his wife didn't deserve this from OP's DH. I don't give a rat's ass about Dave.

You should care about Dave because this is who hurt his family Dave and only Dave it happened Because of Dave. Dave, Dave Dave, Dave, Dave, Dave

as I suspected you're just a toddler throwing your own shit around and screaming. Bye.

I’m sorry you got caught cheating. You’re the one who cheated I don’t care who told your family about it. You’re the one who did it you suck stop being a piece of s**t.

No kidding, what the f^ck is wrong with these people who want to put the blame on anyone but the cheater? I do believe they are cheaters or APs as well. No moral compass.

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Anonymous wrote:Who covered up what when isn't the trump card some seen to think it is. "Outing" likely hurt the cheater's family and caused public humiliation for them. That wasn't a precision strike, OP and Daddy Bear. The innocent family were your collateral damage.
You will now have that reputation among anyone who saw your "righteous anger" post and anyone they told.

You blew up the family 's private life.

No.

The cheater blew up his families life. The cheater hurt his family and caused humiliation. If one person knew about his romp it's likely that other people knew. That is absolutely humiliating for his wife and children. Why do you chose to shoot the messenger instead of the f##ked up cheater himself?

Dave chose to cheat, Dave blew up his own family.

Dave's wife and children deserve to deal with Dave's shitty behavior in private and not online as dictated by OP's DH. That's the part you don't get. No one is saying Dave is the good guy. But there are people here who presumably did nothing wrong having to deal with DAve's f-up's in the most public way. There are no good guys in this story.

At least his wife and family KNOW now, and can START to deal with it.

How do you know the wife didn't already know and chose to keep things private and work it out with her husband? WHo is OP's husband to decide the terms on how they deal with it?

How is he deciding how they deal with it? They can deal with it however they want. If the wife knows, why is she calling OP 300x? Do you not have any empathy for someone who's been cheated on and lied to? Why so many cheater apologists on here?

By making them/her deal with it in such a public way. She didn't deserve to be cheated on, she didn't deserve to be humiliated in front of all of their friends. Their children especially don't deserve any of it. Who the F is making apologies for a cheater? You are very small minded and borderline evil.

If you cheat, you can expect your wife and children find out and for them to know that everybody in their orbit knows whether they find out on Facebook or they find out on the sidelines of a soccer game or they find out through an anonymous email. the reality is everybody knows. And the wife is humiliated by the cheater

Yeah and his children now deserve to be asked about it at school and at church or wherever else they go. You are despicable.

You really have an issue with this. Did it happen to you? You know, maybe Dave shouldn’t be on social media. Maybe he shouldn’t have cheated. Maybe the kids learn resilience and the fact that they are not their Father’s mistakes at a young age.

You are disgusting.

You’re a cheater apologist. Do you want to protect all cheaters because you’re either an affair partner or you’re a cheater?

You’re the one hurting your family not the one who narcs on you

OH the narc poster!!! Now it all makes sense. You went apeshit in another thread today that had to be locked because of you. Please go seek mental help. You are having a mental breakdown. You are not well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Chances are DH was ok with keeping Dave's secret for so long because he also has a few secrets himself. The next post will be "Dave's wife sent me a letter, they were together on that trip and my DH cheated too."

He'd have to be a f##king idiot to out someone if he cheated on the same trip. C'mon now.

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Anonymous wrote:Who covered up what when isn't the trump card some seen to think it is. "Outing" likely hurt the cheater's family and caused public humiliation for them. That wasn't a precision strike, OP and Daddy Bear. The innocent family were your collateral damage.
You will now have that reputation among anyone who saw your "righteous anger" post and anyone they told.

You blew up the family 's private life.

No.

The cheater blew up his families life. The cheater hurt his family and caused humiliation. If one person knew about his romp it's likely that other people knew. That is absolutely humiliating for his wife and children. Why do you chose to shoot the messenger instead of the f##ked up cheater himself?

Dave chose to cheat, Dave blew up his own family.

Dave's wife and children deserve to deal with Dave's shitty behavior in private and not online as dictated by OP's DH. That's the part you don't get. No one is saying Dave is the good guy. But there are people here who presumably did nothing wrong having to deal with DAve's f-up's in the most public way. There are no good guys in this story.

At least his wife and family KNOW now, and can START to deal with it.

How do you know the wife didn't already know and chose to keep things private and work it out with her husband? WHo is OP's husband to decide the terms on how they deal with it?

How is he deciding how they deal with it? They can deal with it however they want. If the wife knows, why is she calling OP 300x? Do you not have any empathy for someone who's been cheated on and lied to? Why so many cheater apologists on here?

By making them/her deal with it in such a public way. She didn't deserve to be cheated on, she didn't deserve to be humiliated in front of all of their friends. Their children especially don't deserve any of it. Who the F is making apologies for a cheater? You are very small minded and borderline evil.

If you cheat, you can expect your wife and children find out and for them to know that everybody in their orbit knows whether they find out on Facebook or they find out on the sidelines of a soccer game or they find out through an anonymous email. the reality is everybody knows. And the wife is humiliated by the cheater

Yeah and his children now deserve to be asked about it at school and at church or wherever else they go. You are despicable.

You really think their children are on FB? C'mon use your brain, if you have one.

Sounds like they are late teens or heading off to college. They are absolutely on social media. Come on use your brain, if you have one.

OPs daughter is HS grad, as thats who the post was about. OP doesnt mention if daughter is on FB, as she never mentions her seeing the nasty post. OP never even discusses Daves kids. Maybe try reading?

Maybe go F yourself if you think his children deserve 1) to have a father like him but also 2) to have some assh7ole humiliate them like this.

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Anonymous wrote:Dave’s remark was outrageous, but your DH was even more out of bounds. He should have called Dave out for being an inappropriate pig, ideally offline, not blown up his marriage. Serious over escalation.

Dave said something rude and untrue.

DH said the truth.

Just because something is true doesn't mean it needs to be publicly broadcast.

Both said the truth. The DD probably will enjoy the food. But that should never be said out loud, even if true.

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Anonymous wrote:Chances are DH was ok with keeping Dave's secret for so long because he also has a few secrets himself. The next post will be "Dave's wife sent me a letter, they were together on that trip and my DH cheated too."

He'd have to be a f##king idiot to out someone if he cheated on the same trip. C'mon now.

There was a reason he didn't say anything until now. Either he was totally ok with or cheated himself. Maybe not on that trip, but he has skeletons.

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Anonymous wrote:Who covered up what when isn't the trump card some seen to think it is. "Outing" likely hurt the cheater's family and caused public humiliation for them. That wasn't a precision strike, OP and Daddy Bear. The innocent family were your collateral damage.
You will now have that reputation among anyone who saw your "righteous anger" post and anyone they told.

You blew up the family 's private life.

No.

The cheater blew up his families life. The cheater hurt his family and caused humiliation. If one person knew about his romp it's likely that other people knew. That is absolutely humiliating for his wife and children. Why do you chose to shoot the messenger instead of the f##ked up cheater himself?

Dave chose to cheat, Dave blew up his own family.

Dave's wife and children deserve to deal with Dave's shitty behavior in private and not online as dictated by OP's DH. That's the part you don't get. No one is saying Dave is the good guy. But there are people here who presumably did nothing wrong having to deal with DAve's f-up's in the most public way. There are no good guys in this story.

At least his wife and family KNOW now, and can START to deal with it.

How do you know the wife didn't already know and chose to keep things private and work it out with her husband? WHo is OP's husband to decide the terms on how they deal with it?

How is he deciding how they deal with it? They can deal with it however they want. If the wife knows, why is she calling OP 300x? Do you not have any empathy for someone who's been cheated on and lied to? Why so many cheater apologists on here?

By making them/her deal with it in such a public way. She didn't deserve to be cheated on, she didn't deserve to be humiliated in front of all of their friends. Their children especially don't deserve any of it. Who the F is making apologies for a cheater? You are very small minded and borderline evil.

If you cheat, you can expect your wife and children find out and for them to know that everybody in their orbit knows whether they find out on Facebook or they find out on the sidelines of a soccer game or they find out through an anonymous email. the reality is everybody knows. And the wife is humiliated by the cheater

Yeah and his children now deserve to be asked about it at school and at church or wherever else they go. You are despicable.

You really have an issue with this. Did it happen to you? You know, maybe Dave shouldn’t be on social media. Maybe he shouldn’t have cheated. Maybe the kids learn resilience and the fact that they are not their Father’s mistakes at a young age.

You are disgusting.

You’re a cheater apologist. Do you want to protect all cheaters because you’re either an affair partner or you’re a cheater?

You’re the one hurting your family not the one who narcs on you

OH the narc poster!!! Now it all makes sense. You went apeshit in another thread today that had to be locked because of you. Please go seek mental help. You are having a mental breakdown. You are not well.

Actually, pp is using narc in a completely different variation here. They are not referring to narcissists, but someone outing the wrong. Good lord, keep up please.

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Anonymous wrote:Who covered up what when isn't the trump card some seen to think it is. "Outing" likely hurt the cheater's family and caused public humiliation for them. That wasn't a precision strike, OP and Daddy Bear. The innocent family were your collateral damage.
You will now have that reputation among anyone who saw your "righteous anger" post and anyone they told.

You blew up the family 's private life.

No.

The cheater blew up his families life. The cheater hurt his family and caused humiliation. If one person knew about his romp it's likely that other people knew. That is absolutely humiliating for his wife and children. Why do you chose to shoot the messenger instead of the f##ked up cheater himself?

Dave chose to cheat, Dave blew up his own family.

Dave's wife and children deserve to deal with Dave's shitty behavior in private and not online as dictated by OP's DH. That's the part you don't get. No one is saying Dave is the good guy. But there are people here who presumably did nothing wrong having to deal with DAve's f-up's in the most public way. There are no good guys in this story.

At least his wife and family KNOW now, and can START to deal with it.

How do you know the wife didn't already know and chose to keep things private and work it out with her husband? WHo is OP's husband to decide the terms on how they deal with it?

How is he deciding how they deal with it? They can deal with it however they want. If the wife knows, why is she calling OP 300x? Do you not have any empathy for someone who's been cheated on and lied to? Why so many cheater apologists on here?

By making them/her deal with it in such a public way. She didn't deserve to be cheated on, she didn't deserve to be humiliated in front of all of their friends. Their children especially don't deserve any of it. Who the F is making apologies for a cheater? You are very small minded and borderline evil.

If you cheat, you can expect your wife and children find out and for them to know that everybody in their orbit knows whether they find out on Facebook or they find out on the sidelines of a soccer game or they find out through an anonymous email. the reality is everybody knows. And the wife is humiliated by the cheater

Yeah and his children now deserve to be asked about it at school and at church or wherever else they go. You are despicable.

You really have an issue with this. Did it happen to you? You know, maybe Dave shouldn’t be on social media. Maybe he shouldn’t have cheated. Maybe the kids learn resilience and the fact that they are not their Father’s mistakes at a young age.

How is this argument any different than an affair apologist deflecting from their own behavior? The slander had no relation to the comment or daughter and didn't need to be said. Full stop.

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You people are crazy. So calling someone fat means any retaliation is ok? Yes Dave is a POS who cheated, but his wife doesn’t deserve for that information to be publicly shared that way just because he called a girl fat. Dave is a jerk but OP’s husband responded in a way that embarrassing to himself and his family.

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Anonymous wrote:Who covered up what when isn't the trump card some seen to think it is. "Outing" likely hurt the cheater's family and caused public humiliation for them. That wasn't a precision strike, OP and Daddy Bear. The innocent family were your collateral damage.
You will now have that reputation among anyone who saw your "righteous anger" post and anyone they told.

You blew up the family 's private life.

No.

The cheater blew up his families life. The cheater hurt his family and caused humiliation. If one person knew about his romp it's likely that other people knew. That is absolutely humiliating for his wife and children. Why do you chose to shoot the messenger instead of the f##ked up cheater himself?

Dave chose to cheat, Dave blew up his own family.

Dave's wife and children deserve to deal with Dave's shitty behavior in private and not online as dictated by OP's DH. That's the part you don't get. No one is saying Dave is the good guy. But there are people here who presumably did nothing wrong having to deal with DAve's f-up's in the most public way. There are no good guys in this story.

At least his wife and family KNOW now, and can START to deal with it.

How do you know the wife didn't already know and chose to keep things private and work it out with her husband? WHo is OP's husband to decide the terms on how they deal with it?

How is he deciding how they deal with it? They can deal with it however they want. If the wife knows, why is she calling OP 300x? Do you not have any empathy for someone who's been cheated on and lied to? Why so many cheater apologists on here?

By making them/her deal with it in such a public way. She didn't deserve to be cheated on, she didn't deserve to be humiliated in front of all of their friends. Their children especially don't deserve any of it. Who the F is making apologies for a cheater? You are very small minded and borderline evil.

If you cheat, you can expect your wife and children find out and for them to know that everybody in their orbit knows whether they find out on Facebook or they find out on the sidelines of a soccer game or they find out through an anonymous email. the reality is everybody knows. And the wife is humiliated by the cheater

Yeah and his children now deserve to be asked about it at school and at church or wherever else they go. You are despicable.

You really think their children are on FB? C'mon use your brain, if you have one.

Sounds like they are late teens or heading off to college. They are absolutely on social media. Come on use your brain, if you have one.

OPs daughter is HS grad, as thats who the post was about. OP doesnt mention if daughter is on FB, as she never mentions her seeing the nasty post. OP never even discusses Daves kids. Maybe try reading?

Maybe go F yourself if you think his children deserve 1) to have a father like him but also 2) to have some assh7ole humiliate them like this.

You mean their Dad? Dave? Yeah, you're right, they do deserve better than Dave. Since he is the one who caused all of this.

But feel free to F yourself too, guess you really didn't like that reading comment Do try it sometime though!

[Anonymous]

What a way for two dad's to totally spoil an event for their children. Pathetic

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Anonymous wrote:Who covered up what when isn't the trump card some seen to think it is. "Outing" likely hurt the cheater's family and caused public humiliation for them. That wasn't a precision strike, OP and Daddy Bear. The innocent family were your collateral damage.
You will now have that reputation among anyone who saw your "righteous anger" post and anyone they told.

You blew up the family 's private life.

No.

The cheater blew up his families life. The cheater hurt his family and caused humiliation. If one person knew about his romp it's likely that other people knew. That is absolutely humiliating for his wife and children. Why do you chose to shoot the messenger instead of the f##ked up cheater himself?

Dave chose to cheat, Dave blew up his own family.

Dave's wife and children deserve to deal with Dave's shitty behavior in private and not online as dictated by OP's DH. That's the part you don't get. No one is saying Dave is the good guy. But there are people here who presumably did nothing wrong having to deal with DAve's f-up's in the most public way. There are no good guys in this story.

At least his wife and family KNOW now, and can START to deal with it.

How do you know the wife didn't already know and chose to keep things private and work it out with her husband? WHo is OP's husband to decide the terms on how they deal with it?

How is he deciding how they deal with it? They can deal with it however they want. If the wife knows, why is she calling OP 300x? Do you not have any empathy for someone who's been cheated on and lied to? Why so many cheater apologists on here?

By making them/her deal with it in such a public way. She didn't deserve to be cheated on, she didn't deserve to be humiliated in front of all of their friends. Their children especially don't deserve any of it. Who the F is making apologies for a cheater? You are very small minded and borderline evil.

If you cheat, you can expect your wife and children find out and for them to know that everybody in their orbit knows whether they find out on Facebook or they find out on the sidelines of a soccer game or they find out through an anonymous email. the reality is everybody knows. And the wife is humiliated by the cheater

Yeah and his children now deserve to be asked about it at school and at church or wherever else they go. You are despicable.

You really have an issue with this. Did it happen to you? You know, maybe Dave shouldn’t be on social media. Maybe he shouldn’t have cheated. Maybe the kids learn resilience and the fact that they are not their Father’s mistakes at a young age.

You are disgusting.

You’re a cheater apologist. Do you want to protect all cheaters because you’re either an affair partner or you’re a cheater?

You’re the one hurting your family not the one who narcs on you

OH the narc poster!!! Now it all makes sense. You went apeshit in another thread today that had to be locked because of you. Please go seek mental help. You are having a mental breakdown. You are not well.

Actually, pp is using narc in a completely different variation here. They are not referring to narcissists, but someone outing the wrong. Good lord, keep up please.

Nope, she is just unhinged in this thread as she was in the previous one. https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/195/1209149.page

Same writing and everything. She is not well.

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Anonymous wrote:Who covered up what when isn't the trump card some seen to think it is. "Outing" likely hurt the cheater's family and caused public humiliation for them. That wasn't a precision strike, OP and Daddy Bear. The innocent family were your collateral damage.
You will now have that reputation among anyone who saw your "righteous anger" post and anyone they told.

You blew up the family 's private life.

No.

The cheater blew up his families life. The cheater hurt his family and caused humiliation. If one person knew about his romp it's likely that other people knew. That is absolutely humiliating for his wife and children. Why do you chose to shoot the messenger instead of the f##ked up cheater himself?

Dave chose to cheat, Dave blew up his own family.

Dave's wife and children deserve to deal with Dave's shitty behavior in private and not online as dictated by OP's DH. That's the part you don't get. No one is saying Dave is the good guy. But there are people here who presumably did nothing wrong having to deal with DAve's f-up's in the most public way. There are no good guys in this story.

At least his wife and family KNOW now, and can START to deal with it.

How do you know the wife didn't already know and chose to keep things private and work it out with her husband? WHo is OP's husband to decide the terms on how they deal with it?

How is he deciding how they deal with it? They can deal with it however they want. If the wife knows, why is she calling OP 300x? Do you not have any empathy for someone who's been cheated on and lied to? Why so many cheater apologists on here?

By making them/her deal with it in such a public way. She didn't deserve to be cheated on, she didn't deserve to be humiliated in front of all of their friends. Their children especially don't deserve any of it. Who the F is making apologies for a cheater? You are very small minded and borderline evil.

If you cheat, you can expect your wife and children find out and for them to know that everybody in their orbit knows whether they find out on Facebook or they find out on the sidelines of a soccer game or they find out through an anonymous email. the reality is everybody knows. And the wife is humiliated by the cheater

Yeah and his children now deserve to be asked about it at school and at church or wherever else they go. You are despicable.

You really have an issue with this. Did it happen to you? You know, maybe Dave shouldn’t be on social media. Maybe he shouldn’t have cheated. Maybe the kids learn resilience and the fact that they are not their Father’s mistakes at a young age.

How is this argument any different than an affair apologist deflecting from their own behavior? The slander had no relation to the comment or daughter and didn't need to be said. Full stop.

You shouldn't use words you don't understand the meaning of.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What a way for two dad's to totally spoil an event for their children. Pathetic

EXACTLY!!!!!

He humiliated his own daughter too. I would be mortified if my father did something like this in my "defense."