My boyfriend steals groceries

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get rid of him. He's a liar and a thief.

If you go to the store with him you risk being arrested with him. I am not kidding.

Yes. You will be an accomplice

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd break up with your boyfriend. Tell him that 75-100% of women break up with thieves and criminals.

I would too. I could not trust him in other aspects of life.

+1

In the breakup talk, if I were in OP's shoes, I'd probably end up asking him (before dropping the bomb on him) if there are other things he does like this. Since he's so open with her about stealiing groceries, I think he's likely to take a perverse pride in saying he fiddles his expense account for work or cheats on taxes or other things. I think I'd actually ask that, coolly, with no indication I was judging it, then I'd tell him what a complete jerk he is and kick him to the curb. And I'd be sure to let him know: This isn't about just groceries or your expense account. It's about the fact that if you do that crap, I have to believe eventually you'd decide that "most men cheat, so I'll cheat and it's no big deal."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If this is real, can somebody tell me if you can lose your security clearance for stealing?

Are you serious? A real person? You can lose your federal career entirely by stealing. My ex did just this deplorable behavior.

Your ex stole at the checkout, or some other theft? Tell us more.

OP, run. He’s stealing, he’s lying, he’s self-serving, he’s taking stupid risks, and he’s putting you at risk if you’re ever there when he does it.

[Anonymous]

A government lawyer is stealing groceries at self checkout? Is he out of his mind?

Drop him like a leaking bottle of bleach, OP!

[Anonymous]

This is OP. I got caught up in the evening routine, so apologies for the delay. To answer questions:

1. We shop at Aldi. They have one of those scanner gun things so you can just scan all the items in your cart, pay, and then go over to the counters to bag your groceries. So you don’t unload your cart, and there isn’t the bag station/scale thing like at a Safeway.

2. He is 55. I am 47. So we are not having kids together.

3. I do have kids in the house. My kids have met him, but we’re not really “blended”, and I don’t plan to get married until my kids are much older (if at all). So I’m not worried about him teaching them bad things.

4. He’s a fed. I’m not with him for his money. Again, he shops at Aldi.

5. I have only witnessed him doing this once. And I asked once we got to the car, and he admitted to doing it frequently. I told him that was really dishonest and he laughed and to me I was too much of a rule follower. This was over the weekend, and it’s been lurking around in my brain ever since. I started this post as a gut check that I wasn’t being too much of a goody two-shoes.

6. But I think everyone is right, and this is probably indicative of an attitude that enables even more shady behavior. And it’s just weird. Like a teenager stealing nail polish at the dollar store. It’s about risk taking, which a 50-something man should have outgrown long ago.

[Anonymous]

It's okay to be single ladies.

[Anonymous]

Statistically men rarely shoplift, and when they do and are caught, they receive much more severe sentences than women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. I got caught up in the evening routine, so apologies for the delay. To answer questions:

1. We shop at Aldi. They have one of those scanner gun things so you can just scan all the items in your cart, pay, and then go over to the counters to bag your groceries. So you don’t unload your cart, and there isn’t the bag station/scale thing like at a Safeway.

2. He is 55. I am 47. So we are not having kids together.

3. I do have kids in the house. My kids have met him, but we’re not really “blended”, and I don’t plan to get married until my kids are much older (if at all). So I’m not worried about him teaching them bad things.

4. He’s a fed. I’m not with him for his money. Again, he shops at Aldi.

5. I have only witnessed him doing this once. And I asked once we got to the car, and he admitted to doing it frequently. I told him that was really dishonest and he laughed and to me I was too much of a rule follower. This was over the weekend, and it’s been lurking around in my brain ever since. I started this post as a gut check that I wasn’t being too much of a goody two-shoes.

6. But I think everyone is right, and this is probably indicative of an attitude that enables even more shady behavior. And it’s just weird. Like a teenager stealing nail polish at the dollar store. It’s about risk taking, which a 50-something man should have outgrown long ago.

Good to hear!

[Anonymous]

Huge red flag. And the rest of us pay for this type of behavior

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's okay to be single ladies.

Hahahah

[Anonymous]

OMG, he has you convinced that half of all people are thieves.

Get out if this relationship immediately.

He is a dishonest person, who can convince you of his way of seeing things far too easily.

He will drag you down, perhaps even into legal jeopardy (through joint tax returns, for example). Do not tie your future and your finances to him, I beg you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Whenever he goes to the self check out, he only rings up about 75% of his cart. He says that the store assumes people are stealing and already bake that into the price. He says most men do this.

I am a rule follower and am horrified by this behavior, and terrified he’s going to get arrested.

Do men really steal from the self check out?

And no, he’s not that poor. This isn’t an Aladdin situation.

[Anonymous]

My dear, you are dating a sociopath.

They walk and shop among us.

[Anonymous]

Please explain why you would continue to date this loser.

[Anonymous]

Hey now, I shop at Aldi for a lot of basic stuff, and I don’t steal.

I hated it before self checkout. One cashier and a line of people with full shopping carts…