My boyfriend steals groceries

[Anonymous]

I would be concerned about one thing: it seems like the trend nowadays is to prosecute normal taxpaying citizens and let all sorts of fringe populations get away with the same things or worse. Since he isn’t a homeless guy or some such, the store might virtue signal by prosecuting him.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How is he consistently getting away with this? There are cameras and sometimes attendants.

Also deal breaker, you should go with him and turn him in next time he does this.

I’ve heard that some retailers watch thieves over time and wait for them to get over a certain threshold so they get them for grand theft larceny. His time may be coming…

That would be some delicious karma for the klepto lawyer.

Klepto lawyer 😆

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would be concerned about one thing: it seems like the trend nowadays is to prosecute normal taxpaying citizens and let all sorts of fringe populations get away with the same things or worse. Since he isn’t a homeless guy or some such, the store might virtue signal by prosecuting him.

Way to make this all about the store "virtue signaling" instead of about the guy being a common dirty thief.

Your post basically condones theft, as long as it's done by the right people of the right hue, who aren't part of (gasp!) "fringe populations."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is OP. I got caught up in the evening routine, so apologies for the delay. To answer questions:

1. We shop at Aldi. They have one of those scanner gun things so you can just scan all the items in your cart, pay, and then go over to the counters to bag your groceries. So you don’t unload your cart, and there isn’t the bag station/scale thing like at a Safeway.

2. He is 55. I am 47. So we are not having kids together.

3. I do have kids in the house. My kids have met him, but we’re not really “blended”, and I don’t plan to get married until my kids are much older (if at all). So I’m not worried about him teaching them bad things.

4. He’s a fed. I’m not with him for his money. Again, he shops at Aldi.

5. I have only witnessed him doing this once. And I asked once we got to the car, and he admitted to doing it frequently. I told him that was really dishonest and he laughed and to me I was too much of a rule follower. This was over the weekend, and it’s been lurking around in my brain ever since. I started this post as a gut check that I wasn’t being too much of a goody two-shoes.

6. But I think everyone is right, and this is probably indicative of an attitude that enables even more shady behavior. And it’s just weird. Like a teenager stealing nail polish at the dollar store. It’s about risk taking, which a 50-something man should have outgrown long ago.

What in the hell are you doing justifying that no kids are involved? Do you think this makes it okay? Not something anyone outgrows. Normal people (normal to me) don't routinely shoplift groceries. Period.

[Anonymous]

Real men don't steal. They get a high powered job and earn a living.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would be concerned about one thing: it seems like the trend nowadays is to prosecute normal taxpaying citizens and let all sorts of fringe populations get away with the same things or worse. Since he isn’t a homeless guy or some such, the store might virtue signal by prosecuting him.

Your post is freaking rude and ridiculous. You are in la la land. No fringe (code word Black and brown I assume) people are getting away with anything. Me and my family are as innocent as can be and are followed around the store like we are hoodlums.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Real men don't steal. They get a high powered job and earn a living.

Or a low powered job, but they earn a living with their own power.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hey now, I shop at Aldi for a lot of basic stuff, and I don’t steal.

I hated it before self checkout. One cashier and a line of people with full shopping carts…

And the sales clerks at the register work at record speed. I am always impressed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are with him and he gets caught you are both getting arrested.

No, most men don't do this. I would never be with someone who is this off morally but also this stupid. Getting arrested over $50?

Or over a head of lettuce 🥬??!
Some people steal not because they are poor or lack funds but from the sheer adrenaline rush getting away w/it creates.

Your boyfriend is selfish, immature + lacks morals.

I could not date anyone who thinks breaking the law like this is acceptable.
He lacks integrity which does not bode well for your relationship w/him trust me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be concerned about one thing: it seems like the trend nowadays is to prosecute normal taxpaying citizens and let all sorts of fringe populations get away with the same things or worse. Since he isn’t a homeless guy or some such, the store might virtue signal by prosecuting him.

Way to make this all about the store "virtue signaling" instead of about the guy being a common dirty thief.

Your post basically condones theft, as long as it's done by the right people of the right hue, who aren't part of (gasp!) "fringe populations."

Yeah, you know good, honest thieving young men with a whole life ahead of him at... 55

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Whenever he goes to the self check out, he only rings up about 75% of his cart. He says that the store assumes people are stealing and already bake that into the price. He says most men do this.

I am a rule follower and am horrified by this behavior, and terrified he’s going to get arrested.

Do men really steal from the self check out?

And no, he’s not that poor. This isn’t an Aladdin situation.

I know of a middle aged white woman (not me) who would fill her cart at Whole Foods and walk out the front door with a basket full of groceries. Not just limited to me.

This would be intolerable to me. A real deal breaker.

*men
And this is in Bethesda and Kentland—not some poor area of town. This person shared about it in a meeting.

So a real psycho kleptomaniac?

Steals $200 of groceries and then gets off by telling people. But don’t tell their SO or the police because they also make sure to threaten suicide or an explosion if reported.

Trust me this person has no significant other; is a loser; can't keep work; alcoholic (maybe in recovery, maybe not). I was appalled and steered clear of her when she shared this crap. And, she would claim she was mentally ill and get away with it with her opaque tears.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t be surprised if your boyfriend is a narcissistic sociopath. My BIL is a narcissistic sociopath and all his lies started to unravel when he was caught shoplifting. We knew he was anti social and self centered before but we had no idea how extensive the network of lies and his skills at manipulating were until he was arrested for stealing some clothes.

[Anonymous]

The OPs boyfriend:

I've been caught stealing;
once when I was 5...
I enjoy stealing.
It's just as simple as that.
Well, it's just a simple fact.
When I want something,
I don't want to pay for it.

I walk right through the door.
Walk right through the door.
Hey all right! If I get by, it's mine.
Mine all mine!

(But is the next verse about the OP?)

My girl, she's one too.
She'll go and get her a skirt.
Stick it under her shirt.
She grabbed a razor for me.
And she did it just like that.
When she wants something,
She don't want to pay for it.

She walk right through the door.
Walk right through the door.
Hey all right! If I get by, it's mine.
Mine all mine!

[Anonymous]

You should be more terrified at your willingness to stay with someone like this than you are at the prospect of him getting arrested.

[Anonymous]

He’s a loser. Run