Boyfriend and I have been arguing and I asked for a break; he's immediately out dating other women

[Anonymous]

FWIW, I think you're both wrong.

OP, you clearly wanted the "break" to mean that you aren't dating...but he doesn't date anyone else. You get all the benefit of the time to figure things out or whatever, and he's supposed to wait for you. That wasn't very smart of you when you knew that this guy had lots of women waiting in line to get at him.

OTOH, he didn't have to hook up with one of those women right away. It's a little understandable, since you just called a "break," but it doesn't say good things about his commitment to you.

You're each better off without the other. Move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
And what were you expecting, exactly?

Not for him to be banging some other woman and rubbing it in my face less than a day later.

Is he trying to make you jealous ? You are both immature, enjoy your space then move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Imagine if OP had been the one to immediately date?

- you all would be like, “you GO girl!” and “Yeah!” and “get some!!”

Lol. true

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Im sorry OP.
I think i would break up with him, his behaviour sucks you are right.

re-read the original post by OP...she did ask for a break up (with him) and he accepted her request. Now she's hurt that he's enjoying himself ever since she broke up with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Im sorry OP.
I think i would break up with him, his behaviour sucks you are right.

re-read the original post by OP...she did ask for a break up (with him) and he accepted her request. Now she's hurt that he's enjoying himself ever since she broke up with him.

She probably wanted to be the one to date first and make him jealous. Instead he’s obviously hot and has a lot of options and he was rebounding the next day and now she’s jealous and upset. I would be upset if someone moved on so quickly too but I agree that she should have expected this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd break up with him. This would not be the man for me.

She already did

[Anonymous]

OP you have to move on, this is silly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A break is a break

And 10/10 he’s just trying to get back at you

Don’t feed into it, asking for a break is the first steps of an official break up.

If that’s not what you wanted then I wouldn’t of threatened it.

I view a break as a time to pause and think about things. I didnt even want an official "break" just for my own space back so he wouldnt be in my tiny apartment for a few nights.

If you can’t ask him to spend two nights at his own place without him running to date other women, he is not a good man. And he was clearly using his alleged popularity/attractiveness to “so many girls” to make you feel lucky to have him - ICK!

+1 Even having to elevate not spending a couple nights together as a "break" seems weird. If you can't say to your boyfriend "I just need some time to myself for the next couple nights" without it being seen as a wholesale "break from the relationship" then this was not a solid, mature relationship. And, something is wrong with him that a couple nights alone have to be spent with other women. Move on.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry that you cannot see this blessing in disguise even though you are hurting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A break is a break

And 10/10 he’s just trying to get back at you

Don’t feed into it, asking for a break is the first steps of an official break up.

If that’s not what you wanted then I wouldn’t of threatened it.

I view a break as a time to pause and think about things. I didnt even want an official "break" just for my own space back so he wouldnt be in my tiny apartment for a few nights.

You broke up with him. He is rubbing it in your face. Either suck it up and ask him back or move on. He has shown his colors.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Im sorry OP.
I think i would break up with him, his behaviour sucks you are right.

re-read the original post by OP...she did ask for a break up (with him) and he accepted her request. Now she's hurt that he's enjoying himself ever since she broke up with him.

Within a day and making it public? Yes, he had the "right" but doesn't make him any less of a hurtful dickhead for doing so. And if it were reversed, I'd feel the same way about her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A break is a break

And 10/10 he’s just trying to get back at you

Don’t feed into it, asking for a break is the first steps of an official break up.

If that’s not what you wanted then I wouldn’t of threatened it.

I view a break as a time to pause and think about things. I didnt even want an official "break" just for my own space back so he wouldnt be in my tiny apartment for a few nights.

You broke up with him. He is rubbing it in your face. Either suck it up and ask him back or move on. He has shown his colors.

Don't ask him to come back.

[Anonymous]

Op are you the same poster whose boyfriend called her fat? If so , move on. He’s not worth any of this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A break is a break

And 10/10 he’s just trying to get back at you

Don’t feed into it, asking for a break is the first steps of an official break up.

If that’s not what you wanted then I wouldn’t of threatened it.

I view a break as a time to pause and think about things. I didnt even want an official "break" just for my own space back so he wouldnt be in my tiny apartment for a few nights.

You broke up with him. He is rubbing it in your face. Either suck it up and ask him back or move on. He has shown his colors.

She’s learned her lesson and now needs to go crawling back to him.

OP: next time don’t argue with him so much and don’t pull stupid dramatic stunts like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
And what were you expecting, exactly?

Not for him to be banging some other woman and rubbing it in my face less than a day later.

In other words, exactly what women do?