Starting private parochial school - feel weird telling friends/neighbors

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We are in an area where most of our friends and neighbors go to our local public school, at least for elementary school. We have had mixed feelings about the school since COVID (started kindergarten during covid) and have decided to move our two older children to our local parochial school. I feel weird telling our neighbors/friends because I don't want them to think we have bad feelings toward our public school, it just isn't a good fit for our kids right now. Also DH and I are big proponents of public school, both of us going to public school before college, and are having mixed feelings about having to send our kids to private school. Any thoughts on how to reconcile these feelings?

Grow up.
No one cares where your kid goes to school.
If you want to waste your money that is your business. You want your kid going to a religious private where Science and math are of lower quality than public, especially in upper grades, and teaches a religion that supports a church that protects child abusers. Again your choice. And you give money to a place that has Billions in the bank. Again all free choices your free choices currently in the United States of America.

DP. Oh, the irony in this post.

Clearly YOU care where others send their children. If you didn’t care, then you wouldn’t feel the need to spout off your rude opinions.

OP, Be grateful you have this opportunity and don’t worry about the opinions of others. Opinions are so often born out of ignorance, kind of like PP’s statement about lower-quality math and science.

LOL check the other thread about Catholic schools SAT scores and how the parents defend indoctrination over a strong education.

If religion is taught at a school the way Catholic schools teach it, ie anything that has to do with abortion then Science is lacking.
That is a fact. We all know how the church feels about women's bodies.

Religion doesn’t play a part in AP Physics, AP Chem, AP Bio, AP Stats, AP Calc BC, etc. I’m fairly confident my 12th grader is learning math and science. These classes got her accepted into 100% of the colleges she applied to and I know she’s prepared.

As for religion, she has been taking World Religions this year and learning about Islam, Judaism, Hinduism, and Buddhism. She just wrote a massive paper about one of them, which incorporated a field trip to a mosque.

So you can keep spouting off anti-Catholic rhetoric. Those of us with actual experience aren’t going to believe it. And posters here who may be considering Catholic schools will be reading about our real experiences versus your perceived judgments.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are in an area where most of our friends and neighbors go to our local public school, at least for elementary school. We have had mixed feelings about the school since COVID (started kindergarten during covid) and have decided to move our two older children to our local parochial school. I feel weird telling our neighbors/friends because I don't want them to think we have bad feelings toward our public school, it just isn't a good fit for our kids right now. Also DH and I are big proponents of public school, both of us going to public school before college, and are having mixed feelings about having to send our kids to private school. Any thoughts on how to reconcile these feelings?

Grow up.
No one cares where your kid goes to school.
If you want to waste your money that is your business. You want your kid going to a religious private where Science and math are of lower quality than public, especially in upper grades, and teaches a religion that supports a church that protects child abusers. Again your choice. And you give money to a place that has Billions in the bank. Again all free choices your free choices currently in the United States of America.

OP this is the exact reason you don't engage with your neighbors about switching schools. The vitriol is real and I hate to say it, but I really think a lot of it is jealousy. Not that they want to attend the school you chose, but that you have options that they don't. I posted earlier that we switched many years ago, and we simply told neighbors it was for the religious education. We're Catholic. My youngest ended up doing 8 years of parochial school and is now at a highly sought after top Catholic all girls school. My son attended pubic through middle school and switch to a top Catholic all boys school for HS. He is now at a top 15 university -- admitted with no hooks. All I can say is that we feel the move we made to Catholic schools has made all the difference in our kids' futures. I can't imagine what it would have been like if we kept them in our very strong "W" school district. It has really gone downhill since covid, so I feel we made the right move at the right time.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are in an area where most of our friends and neighbors go to our local public school, at least for elementary school. We have had mixed feelings about the school since COVID (started kindergarten during covid) and have decided to move our two older children to our local parochial school. I feel weird telling our neighbors/friends because I don't want them to think we have bad feelings toward our public school, it just isn't a good fit for our kids right now. Also DH and I are big proponents of public school, both of us going to public school before college, and are having mixed feelings about having to send our kids to private school. Any thoughts on how to reconcile these feelings?

Grow up.
No one cares where your kid goes to school.
If you want to waste your money that is your business. You want your kid going to a religious private where Science and math are of lower quality than public, especially in upper grades, and teaches a religion that supports a church that protects child abusers. Again your choice. And you give money to a place that has Billions in the bank. Again all free choices your free choices currently in the United States of America.

DP. Oh, the irony in this post.

Clearly YOU care where others send their children. If you didn’t care, then you wouldn’t feel the need to spout off your rude opinions.

OP, Be grateful you have this opportunity and don’t worry about the opinions of others. Opinions are so often born out of ignorance, kind of like PP’s statement about lower-quality math and science.

LOL check the other thread about Catholic schools SAT scores and how the parents defend indoctrination over a strong education.

If religion is taught at a school the way Catholic schools teach it, ie anything that has to do with abortion then Science is lacking.
That is a fact. We all know how the church feels about women's bodies.

Character and happiness can’t be measured by an SAT score. As long as nearly all of a private school’s 11th graders hit college ready benchmarks it’s all gravy. The kids are equipped to handle the rigors of university. It’s not like you need to be a 1560 SAT scoring grind to become a fed, teacher, RN, PA, dentist, lobbyist, corporate drone, lawyer, engineer or even surgeon.

Character can’t really be assured to be successfully taught by going to Catholic school either. It’s a huge leap to assume so.

Better odds than your Godless ethos.

Boy that whole “love thy neighbor” and “judge not lest ye be judged” goes out the window fast when challenged even a little bit, doesn’t it? So much for the whole Catholic values, character, integrity spiel.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are in an area where most of our friends and neighbors go to our local public school, at least for elementary school. We have had mixed feelings about the school since COVID (started kindergarten during covid) and have decided to move our two older children to our local parochial school. I feel weird telling our neighbors/friends because I don't want them to think we have bad feelings toward our public school, it just isn't a good fit for our kids right now. Also DH and I are big proponents of public school, both of us going to public school before college, and are having mixed feelings about having to send our kids to private school. Any thoughts on how to reconcile these feelings?

Grow up.
No one cares where your kid goes to school.
If you want to waste your money that is your business. You want your kid going to a religious private where Science and math are of lower quality than public, especially in upper grades, and teaches a religion that supports a church that protects child abusers. Again your choice. And you give money to a place that has Billions in the bank. Again all free choices your free choices currently in the United States of America.

DP. Oh, the irony in this post.

Clearly YOU care where others send their children. If you didn’t care, then you wouldn’t feel the need to spout off your rude opinions.

OP, Be grateful you have this opportunity and don’t worry about the opinions of others. Opinions are so often born out of ignorance, kind of like PP’s statement about lower-quality math and science.

LOL check the other thread about Catholic schools SAT scores and how the parents defend indoctrination over a strong education.

If religion is taught at a school the way Catholic schools teach it, ie anything that has to do with abortion then Science is lacking.
That is a fact. We all know how the church feels about women's bodies.

Character and happiness can’t be measured by an SAT score. As long as nearly all of a private school’s 11th graders hit college ready benchmarks it’s all gravy. The kids are equipped to handle the rigors of university. It’s not like you need to be a 1560 SAT scoring grind to become a fed, teacher, RN, PA, dentist, lobbyist, corporate drone, lawyer, engineer or even surgeon.

Character can’t really be assured to be successfully taught by going to Catholic school either. It’s a huge leap to assume so.

Better odds than your Godless ethos.

Boy that whole “love thy neighbor” and “judge not lest ye be judged” goes out the window fast when challenged even a little bit, doesn’t it? So much for the whole Catholic values, character, integrity spiel.

Oh come on. That comment clearly got their point across to the doubter. Clearly anti-Catholic in tone and, yes, Godless. NP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are in an area where most of our friends and neighbors go to our local public school, at least for elementary school. We have had mixed feelings about the school since COVID (started kindergarten during covid) and have decided to move our two older children to our local parochial school. I feel weird telling our neighbors/friends because I don't want them to think we have bad feelings toward our public school, it just isn't a good fit for our kids right now. Also DH and I are big proponents of public school, both of us going to public school before college, and are having mixed feelings about having to send our kids to private school. Any thoughts on how to reconcile these feelings?

Grow up.
No one cares where your kid goes to school.
If you want to waste your money that is your business. You want your kid going to a religious private where Science and math are of lower quality than public, especially in upper grades, and teaches a religion that supports a church that protects child abusers. Again your choice. And you give money to a place that has Billions in the bank. Again all free choices your free choices currently in the United States of America.

DP. Oh, the irony in this post.

Clearly YOU care where others send their children. If you didn’t care, then you wouldn’t feel the need to spout off your rude opinions.

OP, Be grateful you have this opportunity and don’t worry about the opinions of others. Opinions are so often born out of ignorance, kind of like PP’s statement about lower-quality math and science.

LOL check the other thread about Catholic schools SAT scores and how the parents defend indoctrination over a strong education.

If religion is taught at a school the way Catholic schools teach it, ie anything that has to do with abortion then Science is lacking.
That is a fact. We all know how the church feels about women's bodies.

Character and happiness can’t be measured by an SAT score. As long as nearly all of a private school’s 11th graders hit college ready benchmarks it’s all gravy. The kids are equipped to handle the rigors of university. It’s not like you need to be a 1560 SAT scoring grind to become a fed, teacher, RN, PA, dentist, lobbyist, corporate drone, lawyer, engineer or even surgeon.

Character can’t really be assured to be successfully taught by going to Catholic school either. It’s a huge leap to assume so.

Better odds than your Godless ethos.

Boy that whole “love thy neighbor” and “judge not lest ye be judged” goes out the window fast when challenged even a little bit, doesn’t it? So much for the whole Catholic values, character, integrity spiel.

Oh come on. That comment clearly got their point across to the doubter. Clearly anti-Catholic in tone and, yes, Godless. NP

There’s that “turn the other cheek” attitude! I’m learning so much about Catholic values and how they play out in real life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are in an area where most of our friends and neighbors go to our local public school, at least for elementary school. We have had mixed feelings about the school since COVID (started kindergarten during covid) and have decided to move our two older children to our local parochial school. I feel weird telling our neighbors/friends because I don't want them to think we have bad feelings toward our public school, it just isn't a good fit for our kids right now. Also DH and I are big proponents of public school, both of us going to public school before college, and are having mixed feelings about having to send our kids to private school. Any thoughts on how to reconcile these feelings?

Grow up.
No one cares where your kid goes to school.
If you want to waste your money that is your business. You want your kid going to a religious private where Science and math are of lower quality than public, especially in upper grades, and teaches a religion that supports a church that protects child abusers. Again your choice. And you give money to a place that has Billions in the bank. Again all free choices your free choices currently in the United States of America.

DP. Oh, the irony in this post.

Clearly YOU care where others send their children. If you didn’t care, then you wouldn’t feel the need to spout off your rude opinions.

OP, Be grateful you have this opportunity and don’t worry about the opinions of others. Opinions are so often born out of ignorance, kind of like PP’s statement about lower-quality math and science.

LOL check the other thread about Catholic schools SAT scores and how the parents defend indoctrination over a strong education.

If religion is taught at a school the way Catholic schools teach it, ie anything that has to do with abortion then Science is lacking.
That is a fact. We all know how the church feels about women's bodies.

Character and happiness can’t be measured by an SAT score. As long as nearly all of a private school’s 11th graders hit college ready benchmarks it’s all gravy. The kids are equipped to handle the rigors of university. It’s not like you need to be a 1560 SAT scoring grind to become a fed, teacher, RN, PA, dentist, lobbyist, corporate drone, lawyer, engineer or even surgeon.

Character can’t really be assured to be successfully taught by going to Catholic school either. It’s a huge leap to assume so.

Better odds than your Godless ethos.

Boy that whole “love thy neighbor” and “judge not lest ye be judged” goes out the window fast when challenged even a little bit, doesn’t it? So much for the whole Catholic values, character, integrity spiel.

Oh come on. That comment clearly got their point across to the doubter. Clearly anti-Catholic in tone and, yes, Godless. NP

There’s that “turn the other cheek” attitude! I’m learning so much about Catholic values and how they play out in real life.

PP here. I'm not Catholic FWIW, but I send my kids to Catholic schools. And I don't tolerate bigots either. So your insights are not as accurate as you may think.

[Anonymous]

My neighbor is moving her kid to private next year. The only time it bothers me is when she veers into trashing the public school my son goes to—it’s clear she thinks that leaving her child there means he’ll end up on drugs. Which makes me roll my eyes, because private school *never* do drugs. It’s all minor crap—but if you care how you’re perceived, or about the other people’s feelings, just be cool and leave your feelings about the unsavory-ness of the public school out of it.

[Anonymous]

I'll take Catholic school over the non-binary fad our girls in independent private school are fed nonstop in middle school. Public school isn't much better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My neighbor is moving her kid to private next year. The only time it bothers me is when she veers into trashing the public school my son goes to—it’s clear she thinks that leaving her child there means he’ll end up on drugs. Which makes me roll my eyes, because private school *never* do drugs. It’s all minor crap—but if you care how you’re perceived, or about the other people’s feelings, just be cool and leave your feelings about the unsavory-ness of the public school out of it.

+1 our neighbors are doing this and I really just wish they’d stop taking about it. Their kids keep talking about how much better it is going to be and my DD is upset. It’s also becoming clear they don’t want their kids in with kids with special needs and “lower income problems,” which hurts my feelings because one of my kids is AuHD… they’re basically saying they don’t want to be with kids like him.

[Anonymous]

Just say it in a factual way and don't try to "justify" it with all these things that are unique to your kids (unless it's truly special needs) or worse yet saying negative things about the public school (have been in those conversations, totally unprovoked). Most people don't care and if they judge they will do so silently.

[Anonymous]

No one cares, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My neighbor is moving her kid to private next year. The only time it bothers me is when she veers into trashing the public school my son goes to—it’s clear she thinks that leaving her child there means he’ll end up on drugs. Which makes me roll my eyes, because private school *never* do drugs. It’s all minor crap—but if you care how you’re perceived, or about the other people’s feelings, just be cool and leave your feelings about the unsavory-ness of the public school out of it.

Agree. If you can’t talk about the new school without making comparisons to the school you’re leaving/their kids are still attending, it’s going to be awkward.
+1 our neighbors are doing this and I really just wish they’d stop taking about it. Their kids keep talking about how much better it is going to be and my DD is upset. It’s also becoming clear they don’t want their kids in with kids with special needs and “lower income problems,” which hurts my feelings because one of my kids is AuHD… they’re basically saying they don’t want to be with kids like him.

[Anonymous]

Why would one tell anyone else about school choice?
School choice is a private matter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would one tell anyone else about school choice?
School choice is a private matter.

If the OP’s kids are currently going to public school with all the kids on the block, it’ll definitely be noticed if they are suddenly not at the bus stop in the fall. No reason for it to be either a secret or a dramatic declaration. OP can just say “We decided to move to Catholic next year. It’s a better fit for X.” The end. No one cares that much.

[Anonymous]

I volunteer for lunch duty at our cheapo k-8 parochial school. I see all our 13 and 14 year olds chatting amongst themselves, reading books and drawing in sketch books, not a phone in sight, throwing out their trash and thanking me when I wipe their tables off. I'm paying for my little boys to grow into great teens like that, not for a high SAT score. I just wish I could have attended Catholic school instead of the cesspool I was in at that age.
I only really lost one friend by switching our kids' school. The others still reach out because they genuinely like our family. Good luck OP