Kids not allowed to socialize in real life

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are people talking about high schoolers? As long as my kids have their homework done, studied for their tests, they can go out during the week. They often do: quick meal after a game with friends, Target to run an errand...Not until late, but I feel like they should learn to manage their time and I don't want to limit their social activities.

That’s how trouble starts. Hanging out mid week all the time can easily lead to delinquency.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Growing up in the early 2000s with a far less hectic schedule than the kids nowadays, I still never went out on weekdays. Weekdays were for homework, sports, activities. Weekends were for socializing.

For private school kids like the ones in our school with busy schedules and large workloads, I doubt they have any free time on weekdays. My kids are still young but I don’t plan to restrict their weekend socialization other than curfew. I want them to have fun.

I have gone to midweek basketball games where STA and Sidwell play and there are lots of students.

Not sure why there is this weird misperception. We aren’t talking midweek parties here.

I also don’t get why parents are fine with their kids missing out on pretty normal HS experiences.

+1. Why are people against their kids attending school functions like a basketball game or the school play.

It would depend what’s due the next day or what activities we have. Generally we stick to non school nights for those kinds of activities.

I wonder where folks are weighing in geographically. Seems like Upper NW parents / kids, even those attending Big3 schools have much more flexibility. Could be literally just geography and logistics. Many Sidwell kids live within 5-10 minutes of Sidwell, so much easier to pop down to an event for 60-90 minutes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are people talking about high schoolers? As long as my kids have their homework done, studied for their tests, they can go out during the week. They often do: quick meal after a game with friends, Target to run an errand...Not until late, but I feel like they should learn to manage their time and I don't want to limit their social activities.

That’s how trouble starts. Hanging out mid week all the time can easily lead to delinquency.

It's a slippery slope from a late-night run to the store and delinquency...I think there are many studies showing the direct link.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Are people talking about high schoolers? As long as my kids have their homework done, studied for their tests, they can go out during the week. They often do: quick meal after a game with friends, Target to run an errand...Not until late, but I feel like they should learn to manage their time and I don't want to limit their social activities.

That’s how trouble starts. Hanging out mid week all the time can easily lead to delinquency.

It's a slippery slope from a late-night run to the store and delinquency...I think there are many studies showing the direct link.

Those mid-week Chipotle burritos are a gateway to drugs.

[Anonymous]

If kids are unsupervised and hanging out in public mid week, there could be vaping or drinking involved. Not to mention the idiotic behavior teens seem to display when out in groups unsupervised. No, my kid won’t be part of that crew.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If kids are unsupervised and hanging out in public mid week, there could be vaping or drinking involved. Not to mention the idiotic behavior teens seem to display when out in groups unsupervised. No, my kid won’t be part of that crew.

They can do that on the weekend as well. Nobody is supervising HS kids.

If that is the crowd in which your teen runs, then you can't avoid it. However, if your kid runs with a good crowd, you don't have to worry much.

[Anonymous]

Wow the level of aggression on this thread is bonkers. "My kid runs circles around yours! Sucks that your kid isn't CAPABLE of having friends!" Just wow.

Some kids like to relax. Some kids are probably lying and saying they're not allowed because they just don't want to hang out with your kid. Let it go.

[Anonymous]

What a bunch of nut jobs some of you are! I'm OP and this is the first time I've written since my original post. You can stop accusing other posters of being me now. SMH.

"OP is insecure as hell - first she asks if it’s normal and then when a bunch of people reply yes it’s normal, she realizes her parenting sucks. She lets her kid socialize during the week or her kid would “sneak out” (her words). Yet her kid goes to a top 5 college, gets paid to be flown to client sites while in HS, rubs clubs, gets straight As, and can run circles around anyone else. And OP is combative as hell. Something isn’t adding up. I smell troll.

OP, do everyone a favor and put down the alcohol."

[Anonymous]

We have to stop assuming that all teens are going to get into trouble. People complain when they're holed up in their rooms, on devices and not socializing in person. But, the second they try to socialize in person p complain when they see teens out and about. They can't win.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What a bunch of nut jobs some of you are! I'm OP and this is the first time I've written since my original post. You can stop accusing other posters of being me now. SMH.

"OP is insecure as hell - first she asks if it’s normal and then when a bunch of people reply yes it’s normal, she realizes her parenting sucks. She lets her kid socialize during the week or her kid would “sneak out” (her words). Yet her kid goes to a top 5 college, gets paid to be flown to client sites while in HS, rubs clubs, gets straight As, and can run circles around anyone else. And OP is combative as hell. Something isn’t adding up. I smell troll.

OP, do everyone a favor and put down the alcohol."

Sure, OP, this is your first time back posting.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is it common for high school kids who live in DC or other big city suburbs that aren't walkable to not be allowed to socialize with friends outside of school and clubs (including weekends)? I have a hard time seeing how this would work since if I'd tried that with my child he would have been sneaking out all the time. Is this a post-COVID thing? Mine had a taste of freedom before COVID began, so there was no way to put that horse back in the barn. Maybe today's kids are just different?

I would say yes. My kids are busy doing homework during the week. They wouldn’t be allowed to socialize during the week. Weekends - it would depend on our family plans but usually yes at some point depending on with whom.

WTF? Your kids can't go to dinner after practice with some of their teammates on a Thursday night? We aren't talking going out until 2am on a weeknight here.

Are your kids not allowed to attend a weeknight basketball game or other sporting event?

All they do is homework? Yikes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If kids are unsupervised and hanging out in public mid week, there could be vaping or drinking involved. Not to mention the idiotic behavior teens seem to display when out in groups unsupervised. No, my kid won’t be part of that crew.

Omg. Not all kids are vaping and/or drinking. I have a nerdy high schooler who gets good grades and sees friends during the week- imagine?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If kids are unsupervised and hanging out in public mid week, there could be vaping or drinking involved. Not to mention the idiotic behavior teens seem to display when out in groups unsupervised. No, my kid won’t be part of that crew.

Omg. Not all kids are vaping and/or drinking. I have a nerdy high schooler who gets good grades and sees friends during the week- imagine?

Good for you!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is it common for high school kids who live in DC or other big city suburbs that aren't walkable to not be allowed to socialize with friends outside of school and clubs (including weekends)? I have a hard time seeing how this would work since if I'd tried that with my child he would have been sneaking out all the time. Is this a post-COVID thing? Mine had a taste of freedom before COVID began, so there was no way to put that horse back in the barn. Maybe today's kids are just different?

I would say yes. My kids are busy doing homework during the week. They wouldn’t be allowed to socialize during the week. Weekends - it would depend on our family plans but usually yes at some point depending on with whom.

WTF? Your kids can't go to dinner after practice with some of their teammates on a Thursday night? We aren't talking going out until 2am on a weeknight here.

Are your kids not allowed to attend a weeknight basketball game or other sporting event?

This is a weirdly hostile response. My kid is “allowed” to do these types of things if he wants. Typically he has too much going on to do mid week hangouts and it isn’t something that they seem to do in his friend group. Consider that different kids have different needs for social interaction and that there may be hyper local norms of how kids meet their social needs.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is it common for high school kids who live in DC or other big city suburbs that aren't walkable to not be allowed to socialize with friends outside of school and clubs (including weekends)? I have a hard time seeing how this would work since if I'd tried that with my child he would have been sneaking out all the time. Is this a post-COVID thing? Mine had a taste of freedom before COVID began, so there was no way to put that horse back in the barn. Maybe today's kids are just different?

I would say yes. My kids are busy doing homework during the week. They wouldn’t be allowed to socialize during the week. Weekends - it would depend on our family plans but usually yes at some point depending on with whom.

WTF? Your kids can't go to dinner after practice with some of their teammates on a Thursday night? We aren't talking going out until 2am on a weeknight here.

Are your kids not allowed to attend a weeknight basketball game or other sporting event?

This is a weirdly hostile response. My kid is “allowed” to do these types of things if he wants. Typically he has too much going on to do mid week hangouts and it isn’t something that they seem to do in his friend group. Consider that different kids have different needs for social interaction and that there may be hyper local norms of how kids meet their social needs.

OP has been weirdly hostile in this entire thread.