Kids not allowed to socialize in real life

[Anonymous]

Is it common for high school kids who live in DC or other big city suburbs that aren't walkable to not be allowed to socialize with friends outside of school and clubs (including weekends)? I have a hard time seeing how this would work since if I'd tried that with my child he would have been sneaking out all the time. Is this a post-COVID thing? Mine had a taste of freedom before COVID began, so there was no way to put that horse back in the barn. Maybe today's kids are just different?

[Anonymous]

This question assumes facts not in evidence. Can you start again and say what happened/your concerns?

[Anonymous]

No it is not common. Yes, WTF are you referring here?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it common for high school kids who live in DC or other big city suburbs that aren't walkable to not be allowed to socialize with friends outside of school and clubs (including weekends)? I have a hard time seeing how this would work since if I'd tried that with my child he would have been sneaking out all the time. Is this a post-COVID thing? Mine had a taste of freedom before COVID began, so there was no way to put that horse back in the barn. Maybe today's kids are just different?

I would say yes. My kids are busy doing homework during the week. They wouldn’t be allowed to socialize during the week. Weekends - it would depend on our family plans but usually yes at some point depending on with whom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is it common for high school kids who live in DC or other big city suburbs that aren't walkable to not be allowed to socialize with friends outside of school and clubs (including weekends)? I have a hard time seeing how this would work since if I'd tried that with my child he would have been sneaking out all the time. Is this a post-COVID thing? Mine had a taste of freedom before COVID began, so there was no way to put that horse back in the barn. Maybe today's kids are just different?

I would say yes. My kids are busy doing homework during the week. They wouldn’t be allowed to socialize during the week. Weekends - it would depend on our family plans but usually yes at some point depending on with whom.

WTF? Your kids can't go to dinner after practice with some of their teammates on a Thursday night? We aren't talking going out until 2am on a weeknight here.

Are your kids not allowed to attend a weeknight basketball game or other sporting event?

[Anonymous]

I am stuck on what a big city suburb is. If you live in NYC you take mass transit. If you live on Long Island you drive or your parents drive you.

[Anonymous]

My kids socialize every day but they drive. They often go to the gym after school and sports, or have a couple friends over for a little bit.

[Anonymous]

My kid isn't allowed to do slumber parties or be out past curfew.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No it is not common. Yes, WTF are you referring here?

Yeah, not sure what you’re referencing. Is the kid in question grounded?

My teen is still in 8th grade and generally socializing on any given day is driven by schedules both academic and extracurricular. Test tomorrow? Probably not a good day to hang out if you aren’t prepared.

Nothing else going on? Definitely, make after school plans with your friends and enjoy it.

[Anonymous]

No idea what this is referencing or if you are right in your assumptions, but no, it's not common. It's a horrible way to treat a kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is it common for high school kids who live in DC or other big city suburbs that aren't walkable to not be allowed to socialize with friends outside of school and clubs (including weekends)? I have a hard time seeing how this would work since if I'd tried that with my child he would have been sneaking out all the time. Is this a post-COVID thing? Mine had a taste of freedom before COVID began, so there was no way to put that horse back in the barn. Maybe today's kids are just different?

I would say yes. My kids are busy doing homework during the week. They wouldn’t be allowed to socialize during the week. Weekends - it would depend on our family plans but usually yes at some point depending on with whom.

Wow, what was the name of that YouTube mom who’s now in prison?

[Anonymous]

+1

[Anonymous]

This was my life going to a private school in the 1990s OP.

My parents didn't figure socializing into the picture and were too tired to pick me up after school or drive me back and forth on the weekends.

Would assume that kids with tired or poorer parents may have more problems socializing in the non walkable suburbs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is it common for high school kids who live in DC or other big city suburbs that aren't walkable to not be allowed to socialize with friends outside of school and clubs (including weekends)? I have a hard time seeing how this would work since if I'd tried that with my child he would have been sneaking out all the time. Is this a post-COVID thing? Mine had a taste of freedom before COVID began, so there was no way to put that horse back in the barn. Maybe today's kids are just different?

I would say yes. My kids are busy doing homework during the week. They wouldn’t be allowed to socialize during the week. Weekends - it would depend on our family plans but usually yes at some point depending on with whom.

WTF? Your kids can't go to dinner after practice with some of their teammates on a Thursday night? We aren't talking going out until 2am on a weeknight here.

Are your kids not allowed to attend a weeknight basketball game or other sporting event?

DP, and not unless said activity does not interfere with her ECs and wraps up early. She has to be up at 5:45 for school. Generally speaking, she goes out with friends on Fridays/Saturdays, occasionally Sundays.

[Anonymous]

Not in my experience, we live in DC, and I have two kids.