Kids not allowed to socialize in real life

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My kid is “allowed” to social during the week, but I have no idea how he would have time… he does a year round sport 5-6 days a week, plus homework.
People also seem to forget that going to school, sports, & activities for hours a day with peers is also a form of socializing.

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Anonymous wrote:Is it common for high school kids who live in DC or other big city suburbs that aren't walkable to not be allowed to socialize with friends outside of school and clubs (including weekends)? I have a hard time seeing how this would work since if I'd tried that with my child he would have been sneaking out all the time. Is this a post-COVID thing? Mine had a taste of freedom before COVID began, so there was no way to put that horse back in the barn. Maybe today's kids are just different?

I would say yes. My kids are busy doing homework during the week. They wouldn’t be allowed to socialize during the week. Weekends - it would depend on our family plans but usually yes at some point depending on with whom.

WTF? Your kids can't go to dinner after practice with some of their teammates on a Thursday night? We aren't talking going out until 2am on a weeknight here.

Are your kids not allowed to attend a weeknight basketball game or other sporting event?

DP, and not unless said activity does not interfere with her ECs and wraps up early. She has to be up at 5:45 for school. Generally speaking, she goes out with friends on Fridays/Saturdays, occasionally Sundays.

Why does she have to be up at 5:45?

Still…she can’t attend a sporting event?

FCPS middle school starts at 7:30 am.

Middle schools is different…but why do you have to be up at 5:45 for 7:30 school? Do people in FCPS live that far from school?

Bus pickup is at 6:10! I drive DD so she doesn’t have to wake up even earlier. Kids going to TJ have to get to their bus depots super early too. So between ECs, homework, long rides, etc. some kids can’t hang out later in the day, Sunday -Thursday. I’m not sure why you’re so appalled by it.

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Anonymous wrote:Is it common for high school kids who live in DC or other big city suburbs that aren't walkable to not be allowed to socialize with friends outside of school and clubs (including weekends)? I have a hard time seeing how this would work since if I'd tried that with my child he would have been sneaking out all the time. Is this a post-COVID thing? Mine had a taste of freedom before COVID began, so there was no way to put that horse back in the barn. Maybe today's kids are just different?

I would say yes. My kids are busy doing homework during the week. They wouldn’t be allowed to socialize during the week. Weekends - it would depend on our family plans but usually yes at some point depending on with whom.

WTF? Your kids can't go to dinner after practice with some of their teammates on a Thursday night? We aren't talking going out until 2am on a weeknight here.

Are your kids not allowed to attend a weeknight basketball game or other sporting event?

DP, and not unless said activity does not interfere with her ECs and wraps up early. She has to be up at 5:45 for school. Generally speaking, she goes out with friends on Fridays/Saturdays, occasionally Sundays.

Why does she have to be up at 5:45?

Still…she can’t attend a sporting event?

FCPS middle school starts at 7:30 am.

Middle schools is different…but why do you have to be up at 5:45 for 7:30 school? Do people in FCPS live that far from school?

Bus pickup is at 6:10! I drive DD so she doesn’t have to wake up even earlier. Kids going to TJ have to get to their bus depots super early too. So between ECs, homework, long rides, etc. some kids can’t hang out later in the day, Sunday -Thursday. I’m not sure why you’re so appalled by it.

Because that sucks…happy my kid is at school at 9 and leaves the house at 8:50.

However, I would still let me kid go to a HS basketball game if they wanted.

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We spend many hours driving our kid to school and activities. They are loaded up on activities so social time is very limited. We would not allow hanging out durin the week. School comes first.

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Um...sometimes "not allowed" means "I don't want to and my mom said I could blame her so I don't have to tell you that outright."

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Anonymous wrote:Is it common for high school kids who live in DC or other big city suburbs that aren't walkable to not be allowed to socialize with friends outside of school and clubs (including weekends)? I have a hard time seeing how this would work since if I'd tried that with my child he would have been sneaking out all the time. Is this a post-COVID thing? Mine had a taste of freedom before COVID began, so there was no way to put that horse back in the barn. Maybe today's kids are just different?

I would say yes. My kids are busy doing homework during the week. They wouldn’t be allowed to socialize during the week. Weekends - it would depend on our family plans but usually yes at some point depending on with whom.

WTF? Your kids can't go to dinner after practice with some of their teammates on a Thursday night? We aren't talking going out until 2am on a weeknight here.

Are your kids not allowed to attend a weeknight basketball game or other sporting event?

Wow, why are you so angry? No, my kids generally wouldn’t be able to go out to dinner with a friend on a school night or attend a weeknight basketball game. We prioritize education and that means making sure homework is done nightly and getting enough sleep to focus the next day. Plus one of my kids has to be up at 5:50 am on school days. My kids’ friends parents also share the same values. We are happy and it works for our family. Plus, my kid is a straight A student and teachers love them.

So…my kid is a straight A student and another is at a top 5 college and somehow they can attend a weeknight basketball game.

What values are you talking about? I am not aware of any “values” that prohibit weekday socializing.

What’s with all these people having to get up at 5:45?

High school starts early. Were you kids in activities? Mine only go to games for band. They simply have 1-2 or more things already a night and the rare night they don’t I don’t think it would even occur to them as they’d rather rest or on the rare occasion play video games with friends.

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OP sounds like a checked out parent.

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Anonymous wrote:Is it common for high school kids who live in DC or other big city suburbs that aren't walkable to not be allowed to socialize with friends outside of school and clubs (including weekends)? I have a hard time seeing how this would work since if I'd tried that with my child he would have been sneaking out all the time. Is this a post-COVID thing? Mine had a taste of freedom before COVID began, so there was no way to put that horse back in the barn. Maybe today's kids are just different?

I would say yes. My kids are busy doing homework during the week. They wouldn’t be allowed to socialize during the week. Weekends - it would depend on our family plans but usually yes at some point depending on with whom.

WTF? Your kids can't go to dinner after practice with some of their teammates on a Thursday night? We aren't talking going out until 2am on a weeknight here.

Are your kids not allowed to attend a weeknight basketball game or other sporting event?

Wow, why are you so angry? No, my kids generally wouldn’t be able to go out to dinner with a friend on a school night or attend a weeknight basketball game. We prioritize education and that means making sure homework is done nightly and getting enough sleep to focus the next day. Plus one of my kids has to be up at 5:50 am on school days. My kids’ friends parents also share the same values. We are happy and it works for our family. Plus, my kid is a straight A student and teachers love them.

So…my kid is a straight A student and another is at a top 5 college and somehow they can attend a weeknight basketball game.

What values are you talking about? I am not aware of any “values” that prohibit weekday socializing.

What’s with all these people having to get up at 5:45?

High school starts early. Were you kids in activities? Mine only go to games for band. They simply have 1-2 or more things already a night and the rare night they don’t I don’t think it would even occur to them as they’d rather rest or on the rare occasion play video games with friends.

Yes, lots of activities. Again…not talking about partying for hours. Just maybe going out to dinner after debate club.

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Anonymous wrote:We spend many hours driving our kid to school and activities. They are loaded up on activities so social time is very limited. We would not allow hanging out durin the week. School comes first.

Enough with the school comes first nonsense. Are your kids not capable of managing attending a social event during the week every now and then and still getting high grades?

[Anonymous]

Socialization since the pandemic has moved online in a major way. We are in downtown Bethesda, and my teens rarely go out with their friends, even though I would be perfectly fine with it. They have a heavy load of work, and what they do is chat online with friends in between work and extracurriculars. Their friends are all in the same boat.

When they actually have the time to get together and walk about, it's a holiday!

I know other teens are out all the time, and spend significant time texting/chatting. There is a wide range of normal.

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Anonymous wrote:Is it common for high school kids who live in DC or other big city suburbs that aren't walkable to not be allowed to socialize with friends outside of school and clubs (including weekends)? I have a hard time seeing how this would work since if I'd tried that with my child he would have been sneaking out all the time. Is this a post-COVID thing? Mine had a taste of freedom before COVID began, so there was no way to put that horse back in the barn. Maybe today's kids are just different?

I would say yes. My kids are busy doing homework during the week. They wouldn’t be allowed to socialize during the week. Weekends - it would depend on our family plans but usually yes at some point depending on with whom.

WTF? Your kids can't go to dinner after practice with some of their teammates on a Thursday night? We aren't talking going out until 2am on a weeknight here.

Are your kids not allowed to attend a weeknight basketball game or other sporting event?

Wow, why are you so angry? No, my kids generally wouldn’t be able to go out to dinner with a friend on a school night or attend a weeknight basketball game. We prioritize education and that means making sure homework is done nightly and getting enough sleep to focus the next day. Plus one of my kids has to be up at 5:50 am on school days. My kids’ friends parents also share the same values. We are happy and it works for our family. Plus, my kid is a straight A student and teachers love them.

So…my kid is a straight A student and another is at a top 5 college and somehow they can attend a weeknight basketball game.

What values are you talking about? I am not aware of any “values” that prohibit weekday socializing.

What’s with all these people having to get up at 5:45?

High school starts early. Were you kids in activities? Mine only go to games for band. They simply have 1-2 or more things already a night and the rare night they don’t I don’t think it would even occur to them as they’d rather rest or on the rare occasion play video games with friends.

Yes, lots of activities. Again…not talking about partying for hours. Just maybe going out to dinner after debate club.

How about activities outside school? There would be no time to go out to dinner after something.

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Anonymous wrote:Is it common for high school kids who live in DC or other big city suburbs that aren't walkable to not be allowed to socialize with friends outside of school and clubs (including weekends)? I have a hard time seeing how this would work since if I'd tried that with my child he would have been sneaking out all the time. Is this a post-COVID thing? Mine had a taste of freedom before COVID began, so there was no way to put that horse back in the barn. Maybe today's kids are just different?

I would say yes. My kids are busy doing homework during the week. They wouldn’t be allowed to socialize during the week. Weekends - it would depend on our family plans but usually yes at some point depending on with whom.

WTF? Your kids can't go to dinner after practice with some of their teammates on a Thursday night? We aren't talking going out until 2am on a weeknight here.

Are your kids not allowed to attend a weeknight basketball game or other sporting event?

Wow, why are you so angry? No, my kids generally wouldn’t be able to go out to dinner with a friend on a school night or attend a weeknight basketball game. We prioritize education and that means making sure homework is done nightly and getting enough sleep to focus the next day. Plus one of my kids has to be up at 5:50 am on school days. My kids’ friends parents also share the same values. We are happy and it works for our family. Plus, my kid is a straight A student and teachers love them.

So…my kid is a straight A student and another is at a top 5 college and somehow they can attend a weeknight basketball game.

What values are you talking about? I am not aware of any “values” that prohibit weekday socializing.

What’s with all these people having to get up at 5:45?

High school starts early. Were you kids in activities? Mine only go to games for band. They simply have 1-2 or more things already a night and the rare night they don’t I don’t think it would even occur to them as they’d rather rest or on the rare occasion play video games with friends.

Yes, lots of activities. Again…not talking about partying for hours. Just maybe going out to dinner after debate club.

How about activities outside school? There would be no time to go out to dinner after something.

I am talking HS here…maybe that is the disconnect.

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Anonymous wrote:Is it common for high school kids who live in DC or other big city suburbs that aren't walkable to not be allowed to socialize with friends outside of school and clubs (including weekends)? I have a hard time seeing how this would work since if I'd tried that with my child he would have been sneaking out all the time. Is this a post-COVID thing? Mine had a taste of freedom before COVID began, so there was no way to put that horse back in the barn. Maybe today's kids are just different?

I would say yes. My kids are busy doing homework during the week. They wouldn’t be allowed to socialize during the week. Weekends - it would depend on our family plans but usually yes at some point depending on with whom.

WTF? Your kids can't go to dinner after practice with some of their teammates on a Thursday night? We aren't talking going out until 2am on a weeknight here.

Are your kids not allowed to attend a weeknight basketball game or other sporting event?

DP, and not unless said activity does not interfere with her ECs and wraps up early. She has to be up at 5:45 for school. Generally speaking, she goes out with friends on Fridays/Saturdays, occasionally Sundays.

Why does she have to be up at 5:45?

Still…she can’t attend a sporting event?

FCPS middle school starts at 7:30 am.

Middle schools is different…but why do you have to be up at 5:45 for 7:30 school? Do people in FCPS live that far from school?

Bus pickup is at 6:10! I drive DD so she doesn’t have to wake up even earlier. Kids going to TJ have to get to their bus depots super early too. So between ECs, homework, long rides, etc. some kids can’t hang out later in the day, Sunday -Thursday. I’m not sure why you’re so appalled by it.

Because that sucks…happy my kid is at school at 9 and leaves the house at 8:50.

However, I would still let me kid go to a HS basketball game if they wanted.

Well that sucks you’d let your kid go to a basketball game other kids play in but not pursue their own passions. Do you have elementary kids? Or private?

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Anonymous wrote:Is it common for high school kids who live in DC or other big city suburbs that aren't walkable to not be allowed to socialize with friends outside of school and clubs (including weekends)? I have a hard time seeing how this would work since if I'd tried that with my child he would have been sneaking out all the time. Is this a post-COVID thing? Mine had a taste of freedom before COVID began, so there was no way to put that horse back in the barn. Maybe today's kids are just different?

I would say yes. My kids are busy doing homework during the week. They wouldn’t be allowed to socialize during the week. Weekends - it would depend on our family plans but usually yes at some point depending on with whom.

WTF? Your kids can't go to dinner after practice with some of their teammates on a Thursday night? We aren't talking going out until 2am on a weeknight here.

Are your kids not allowed to attend a weeknight basketball game or other sporting event?

Wow, why are you so angry? No, my kids generally wouldn’t be able to go out to dinner with a friend on a school night or attend a weeknight basketball game. We prioritize education and that means making sure homework is done nightly and getting enough sleep to focus the next day. Plus one of my kids has to be up at 5:50 am on school days. My kids’ friends parents also share the same values. We are happy and it works for our family. Plus, my kid is a straight A student and teachers love them.

So…my kid is a straight A student and another is at a top 5 college and somehow they can attend a weeknight basketball game.

What values are you talking about? I am not aware of any “values” that prohibit weekday socializing.

What’s with all these people having to get up at 5:45?

High school starts early. Were you kids in activities? Mine only go to games for band. They simply have 1-2 or more things already a night and the rare night they don’t I don’t think it would even occur to them as they’d rather rest or on the rare occasion play video games with friends.

Yes, lots of activities. Again…not talking about partying for hours. Just maybe going out to dinner after debate club.

How about activities outside school? There would be no time to go out to dinner after something.

I am talking HS here…maybe that is the disconnect.

I am talking hs too. Mine do multiple activities at school and outside school. I cannot see where they’d have the time during the week. Socializing can be activities.

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Anonymous wrote:Is it common for high school kids who live in DC or other big city suburbs that aren't walkable to not be allowed to socialize with friends outside of school and clubs (including weekends)? I have a hard time seeing how this would work since if I'd tried that with my child he would have been sneaking out all the time. Is this a post-COVID thing? Mine had a taste of freedom before COVID began, so there was no way to put that horse back in the barn. Maybe today's kids are just different?

I would say yes. My kids are busy doing homework during the week. They wouldn’t be allowed to socialize during the week. Weekends - it would depend on our family plans but usually yes at some point depending on with whom.

WTF? Your kids can't go to dinner after practice with some of their teammates on a Thursday night? We aren't talking going out until 2am on a weeknight here.

Are your kids not allowed to attend a weeknight basketball game or other sporting event?

DP, and not unless said activity does not interfere with her ECs and wraps up early. She has to be up at 5:45 for school. Generally speaking, she goes out with friends on Fridays/Saturdays, occasionally Sundays.

Why does she have to be up at 5:45?

Still…she can’t attend a sporting event?

FCPS middle school starts at 7:30 am.

Middle schools is different…but why do you have to be up at 5:45 for 7:30 school? Do people in FCPS live that far from school?

Bus pickup is at 6:10! I drive DD so she doesn’t have to wake up even earlier. Kids going to TJ have to get to their bus depots super early too. So between ECs, homework, long rides, etc. some kids can’t hang out later in the day, Sunday -Thursday. I’m not sure why you’re so appalled by it.

Because that sucks…happy my kid is at school at 9 and leaves the house at 8:50.

However, I would still let me kid go to a HS basketball game if they wanted.

Well that sucks you’d let your kid go to a basketball game other kids play in but not pursue their own passions. Do you have elementary kids? Or private?

What are you talking about? I have HS kids…they pursue their own interests and they support their friends and enjoy school sporting events.

Where did you jump to they “don’t pursue their own passions”?