Kids not allowed to socialize in real life

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Anonymous wrote:Is it common for high school kids who live in DC or other big city suburbs that aren't walkable to not be allowed to socialize with friends outside of school and clubs (including weekends)? I have a hard time seeing how this would work since if I'd tried that with my child he would have been sneaking out all the time. Is this a post-COVID thing? Mine had a taste of freedom before COVID began, so there was no way to put that horse back in the barn. Maybe today's kids are just different?

I would say yes. My kids are busy doing homework during the week. They wouldn’t be allowed to socialize during the week. Weekends - it would depend on our family plans but usually yes at some point depending on with whom.

WTF? Your kids can't go to dinner after practice with some of their teammates on a Thursday night? We aren't talking going out until 2am on a weeknight here.

Are your kids not allowed to attend a weeknight basketball game or other sporting event?

Wow, why are you so angry? No, my kids generally wouldn’t be able to go out to dinner with a friend on a school night or attend a weeknight basketball game. We prioritize education and that means making sure homework is done nightly and getting enough sleep to focus the next day. Plus one of my kids has to be up at 5:50 am on school days. My kids’ friends parents also share the same values. We are happy and it works for our family. Plus, my kid is a straight A student and teachers love them.

So…my kid is a straight A student and another is at a top 5 college and somehow they can attend a weeknight basketball game.

What values are you talking about? I am not aware of any “values” that prohibit weekday socializing.

What’s with all these people having to get up at 5:45?

High school starts early. Were you kids in activities? Mine only go to games for band. They simply have 1-2 or more things already a night and the rare night they don’t I don’t think it would even occur to them as they’d rather rest or on the rare occasion play video games with friends.

Yes, lots of activities. Again…not talking about partying for hours. Just maybe going out to dinner after debate club.

How about activities outside school? There would be no time to go out to dinner after something.

I am talking HS here…maybe that is the disconnect.

I am talking hs too. Mine do multiple activities at school and outside school. I cannot see where they’d have the time during the week. Socializing can be activities.

What activities are they doing outside of school? Again…regardless…it’s one thing if they don’t want to socialize, but I trust my kids know how to manage their schedules.

[Anonymous]

Not socializing on week days, normal. Teens should be doing homework and activities on weeknights.

Not allowing socializing on weekends is weird and unhealthy absent a good reason like someone is sick etc.

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Anonymous wrote:I used to teach in a rough neighborhood. For better or worse, some of the strictest parents did not let their kids do almost anything because they were scared of gangs, drugs etc. I don’t know if it worked as a long term strategy but it was not unheard of.

I went to Wesleyan after a private school and I 100 percent knew minority kids from NYC who grew up poor or middle class in dangerous areas whose parents were like this. This was during the crack wars.

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Anonymous wrote:Not socializing on week days, normal. Teens should be doing homework and activities on weeknights.

Not allowing socializing on weekends is weird and unhealthy absent a good reason like someone is sick etc.

Are your teens so incapable that they can’t manage homework, some ECs and occasionally go to a midweek event? That’s what I am hearing.

Guess what…the highest performing teens are able to do all of this…so I guess your teens aren’t that.

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Anonymous wrote:Not socializing on week days, normal. Teens should be doing homework and activities on weeknights.

Not allowing socializing on weekends is weird and unhealthy absent a good reason like someone is sick etc.

Are your teens so incapable that they can’t manage homework, some ECs and occasionally go to a midweek event? That’s what I am hearing.

Guess what…the highest performing teens are able to do all of this…so I guess your teens aren’t that.

When they are in the amount of activities mine are in, yes. One activity at school vs multiple at school and multiple outside school are different. Should I say no to an activity so they can hang out with your kid because you refuse more than easy school activities.

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Anonymous wrote:I used to teach in a rough neighborhood. For better or worse, some of the strictest parents did not let their kids do almost anything because they were scared of gangs, drugs etc. I don’t know if it worked as a long term strategy but it was not unheard of.

I went to Wesleyan after a private school and I 100 percent knew minority kids from NYC who grew up poor or middle class in dangerous areas whose parents were like this. This was during the crack wars.

They also could not afford for the kids to eat out.

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Anonymous wrote:Not socializing on week days, normal. Teens should be doing homework and activities on weeknights.

Not allowing socializing on weekends is weird and unhealthy absent a good reason like someone is sick etc.

Are your teens so incapable that they can’t manage homework, some ECs and occasionally go to a midweek event? That’s what I am hearing.

Guess what…the highest performing teens are able to do all of this…so I guess your teens aren’t that.

When they are in the amount of activities mine are in, yes. One activity at school vs multiple at school and multiple outside school are different. Should I say no to an activity so they can hang out with your kid because you refuse more than easy school activities.

Sorry…my kid has been accepted to a top 5 college that I am sure you will be dying for your kid to attend. My kid runs circles around yours including winning several national prizes, running multiple clubs at school and getting paid to work at a tech company.

Yet…yet…yet my kid still is able to participate in midweek activities from time-to-time.

So…what is the excuse for yours?

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Anonymous wrote:Not socializing on week days, normal. Teens should be doing homework and activities on weeknights.

Not allowing socializing on weekends is weird and unhealthy absent a good reason like someone is sick etc.

Are your teens so incapable that they can’t manage homework, some ECs and occasionally go to a midweek event? That’s what I am hearing.

Guess what…the highest performing teens are able to do all of this…so I guess your teens aren’t that.

When they are in the amount of activities mine are in, yes. One activity at school vs multiple at school and multiple outside school are different. Should I say no to an activity so they can hang out with your kid because you refuse more than easy school activities.

Sorry…my kid has been accepted to a top 5 college that I am sure you will be dying for your kid to attend. My kid runs circles around yours including winning several national prizes, running multiple clubs at school and getting paid to work at a tech company.

Yet…yet…yet my kid still is able to participate in midweek activities from time-to-time.

So…what is the excuse for yours?

Lots of people work in big tech companies. It’s not as big of a deal as you make it sound and you need skill not a top five school. No, your kids don’t run circles around mine and running clubs is a joke as most don’t do much of anything. Let’s be real. Those things are for resumes. When your kids are in the top orchestras, club sports and school stuff that’s more impressive. And, given mine started algebra in 6th they aren’t exactly dumb. The kids at the school clubs do very little. Very little.

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During the week my DC and their friends are allllllllll doing homework. Sometimes until late if there are big projects or tests to study for.

Weekends, sure in between all of their EC’s.

Kids are over scheduled to the hilt but we all know this, they know it but yet here we are.

I drive my teen anywhere they want to go BTW. They currently have learners permit so can’t drive themselves. I don’t mind at all in terms of driving and/or picking up.

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Anonymous wrote:Not socializing on week days, normal. Teens should be doing homework and activities on weeknights.

Not allowing socializing on weekends is weird and unhealthy absent a good reason like someone is sick etc.

Are your teens so incapable that they can’t manage homework, some ECs and occasionally go to a midweek event? That’s what I am hearing.

Guess what…the highest performing teens are able to do all of this…so I guess your teens aren’t that.

When they are in the amount of activities mine are in, yes. One activity at school vs multiple at school and multiple outside school are different. Should I say no to an activity so they can hang out with your kid because you refuse more than easy school activities.

Sorry…my kid has been accepted to a top 5 college that I am sure you will be dying for your kid to attend. My kid runs circles around yours including winning several national prizes, running multiple clubs at school and getting paid to work at a tech company.

Yet…yet…yet my kid still is able to participate in midweek activities from time-to-time.

So…what is the excuse for yours?

Lots of people work in big tech companies. It’s not as big of a deal as you make it sound and you need skill not a top five school. No, your kids don’t run circles around mine and running clubs is a joke as most don’t do much of anything. Let’s be real. Those things are for resumes. When your kids are in the top orchestras, club sports and school stuff that’s more impressive. And, given mine started algebra in 6th they aren’t exactly dumb. The kids at the school clubs do very little. Very little.

So then why is your kid not capable of managing a random mid week social outing?

Sounds like your kid isn’t capable.

Everything you list above is to try to get your kid into the college that my kid is attending.

My kid does run the top clubs…and no, not many HS kids are getting flown to client sites (yep mine too) to work on projects during breaks.

The fact you brought up an orchestra is a huge tell that about your background. You are a complete and utter cliche.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is it common for high school kids who live in DC or other big city suburbs that aren't walkable to not be allowed to socialize with friends outside of school and clubs (including weekends)? I have a hard time seeing how this would work since if I'd tried that with my child he would have been sneaking out all the time. Is this a post-COVID thing? Mine had a taste of freedom before COVID began, so there was no way to put that horse back in the barn. Maybe today's kids are just different?

I would say yes. My kids are busy doing homework during the week. They wouldn’t be allowed to socialize during the week. Weekends - it would depend on our family plans but usually yes at some point depending on with whom.

You are a horrible parent.

Why don't they socialize with their peers?
Mine straight A students did. Clearly time mangement not a skill you teach your kids?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not socializing on week days, normal. Teens should be doing homework and activities on weeknights.

Not allowing socializing on weekends is weird and unhealthy absent a good reason like someone is sick etc.

Are your teens so incapable that they can’t manage homework, some ECs and occasionally go to a midweek event? That’s what I am hearing.

Guess what…the highest performing teens are able to do all of this…so I guess your teens aren’t that.

When they are in the amount of activities mine are in, yes. One activity at school vs multiple at school and multiple outside school are different. Should I say no to an activity so they can hang out with your kid because you refuse more than easy school activities.

Sorry…my kid has been accepted to a top 5 college that I am sure you will be dying for your kid to attend. My kid runs circles around yours including winning several national prizes, running multiple clubs at school and getting paid to work at a tech company.

Yet…yet…yet my kid still is able to participate in midweek activities from time-to-time.

So…what is the excuse for yours?

Lots of people work in big tech companies. It’s not as big of a deal as you make it sound and you need skill not a top five school. No, your kids don’t run circles around mine and running clubs is a joke as most don’t do much of anything. Let’s be real. Those things are for resumes. When your kids are in the top orchestras, club sports and school stuff that’s more impressive. And, given mine started algebra in 6th they aren’t exactly dumb. The kids at the school clubs do very little. Very little.

You didn’t tell us your kids are losers with few friends…now we understand.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not socializing on week days, normal. Teens should be doing homework and activities on weeknights.

Not allowing socializing on weekends is weird and unhealthy absent a good reason like someone is sick etc.

Are your teens so incapable that they can’t manage homework, some ECs and occasionally go to a midweek event? That’s what I am hearing.

Guess what…the highest performing teens are able to do all of this…so I guess your teens aren’t that.

When they are in the amount of activities mine are in, yes. One activity at school vs multiple at school and multiple outside school are different. Should I say no to an activity so they can hang out with your kid because you refuse more than easy school activities.

Sorry…my kid has been accepted to a top 5 college that I am sure you will be dying for your kid to attend. My kid runs circles around yours including winning several national prizes, running multiple clubs at school and getting paid to work at a tech company.

Yet…yet…yet my kid still is able to participate in midweek activities from time-to-time.

So…what is the excuse for yours?

Lots of people work in big tech companies. It’s not as big of a deal as you make it sound and you need skill not a top five school. No, your kids don’t run circles around mine and running clubs is a joke as most don’t do much of anything. Let’s be real. Those things are for resumes. When your kids are in the top orchestras, club sports and school stuff that’s more impressive. And, given mine started algebra in 6th they aren’t exactly dumb. The kids at the school clubs do very little. Very little.

So then why is your kid not capable of managing a random mid week social outing?

Sounds like your kid isn’t capable.

Everything you list above is to try to get your kid into the college that my kid is attending.

My kid does run the top clubs…and no, not many HS kids are getting flown to client sites (yep mine too) to work on projects during breaks.

The fact you brought up an orchestra is a huge tell that about your background. You are a complete and utter cliche.

NP. You seem really invested in this. You have posted literally the same thing on this thread 5x - that kids who don’t go to weekday social events are giant losers. Yes, they are giant losers who will never amount to anything in life. Are you happy now? Will you STFU now?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not socializing on week days, normal. Teens should be doing homework and activities on weeknights.

Not allowing socializing on weekends is weird and unhealthy absent a good reason like someone is sick etc.

Are your teens so incapable that they can’t manage homework, some ECs and occasionally go to a midweek event? That’s what I am hearing.

Guess what…the highest performing teens are able to do all of this…so I guess your teens aren’t that.

When they are in the amount of activities mine are in, yes. One activity at school vs multiple at school and multiple outside school are different. Should I say no to an activity so they can hang out with your kid because you refuse more than easy school activities.

Sorry…my kid has been accepted to a top 5 college that I am sure you will be dying for your kid to attend. My kid runs circles around yours including winning several national prizes, running multiple clubs at school and getting paid to work at a tech company.

Yet…yet…yet my kid still is able to participate in midweek activities from time-to-time.

So…what is the excuse for yours?

Lots of people work in big tech companies. It’s not as big of a deal as you make it sound and you need skill not a top five school. No, your kids don’t run circles around mine and running clubs is a joke as most don’t do much of anything. Let’s be real. Those things are for resumes. When your kids are in the top orchestras, club sports and school stuff that’s more impressive. And, given mine started algebra in 6th they aren’t exactly dumb. The kids at the school clubs do very little. Very little.

So then why is your kid not capable of managing a random mid week social outing?

Sounds like your kid isn’t capable.

Everything you list above is to try to get your kid into the college that my kid is attending.

My kid does run the top clubs…and no, not many HS kids are getting flown to client sites (yep mine too) to work on projects during breaks.

The fact you brought up an orchestra is a huge tell that about your background. You are a complete and utter cliche.

NP. You seem really invested in this. You have posted literally the same thing on this thread 5x - that kids who don’t go to weekday social events are giant losers. Yes, they are giant losers who will never amount to anything in life. Are you happy now? Will you STFU now?

Hey…the DCUM police are out!

[Anonymous]

Growing up in the early 2000s with a far less hectic schedule than the kids nowadays, I still never went out on weekdays. Weekdays were for homework, sports, activities. Weekends were for socializing.

For private school kids like the ones in our school with busy schedules and large workloads, I doubt they have any free time on weekdays. My kids are still young but I don’t plan to restrict their weekend socialization other than curfew. I want them to have fun.