I’m really surprised at the number of people who bring siblings to parties

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I appreciate that this can be a real problem but the suggestion that siblings need to be completely banned from public settings is unhinged.

Can you quote who said siblings should be banned? Pretty much universally this is people taking a "siblings only" invite then RSVPing for 4 people. Weird that people are so incredulous that this has ever happened and arguing that the host must have forgotten to say "no siblings".

It's because the people who are mad have taken 8 pages to answer whether they wrote "no siblings" and torpedoed every suggestion for self-help along the way. It sounds like you can either talk to the parents who are doing this, or stop inviting their kids to the parties. Or you can plan a party that can accommodate people who just show up without extra expense. Or you can keep doing the same thing and venting on DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I appreciate that this can be a real problem but the suggestion that siblings need to be completely banned from public settings is unhinged.

Can you quote who said siblings should be banned? Pretty much universally this is people taking a "siblings only" invite then RSVPing for 4 people. Weird that people are so incredulous that this has ever happened and arguing that the host must have forgotten to say "no siblings".

It's because the people who are mad have taken 8 pages to answer whether they wrote "no siblings" and torpedoed every suggestion for self-help along the way. It sounds like you can either talk to the parents who are doing this, or stop inviting their kids to the parties. Or you can plan a party that can accommodate people who just show up without extra expense. Or you can keep doing the same thing and venting on DCUM.

Or you can make it known that this is not cool on places like here. I don't know why you ASSumed people don't write no siblings. And even if they didn't, it doesn't make it ok to just bring 7 random people. I know you think you have all the answers and want the thread to end with your advice, but that's not how things work. Besides, OP wasn't asking for advice on this, she was pointing out that she is surprised people do this. A discussion ensued which really bothers you. Why are you so invested in this? Your participation isn't mandatory and feel free to keep scrolling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I appreciate that this can be a real problem but the suggestion that siblings need to be completely banned from public settings is unhinged.

Can you quote who said siblings should be banned? Pretty much universally this is people taking a "siblings only" invite then RSVPing for 4 people. Weird that people are so incredulous that this has ever happened and arguing that the host must have forgotten to say "no siblings".

It's because the people who are mad have taken 8 pages to answer whether they wrote "no siblings" and torpedoed every suggestion for self-help along the way. It sounds like you can either talk to the parents who are doing this, or stop inviting their kids to the parties. Or you can plan a party that can accommodate people who just show up without extra expense. Or you can keep doing the same thing and venting on DCUM.

Ok so the thing is, nobody feels the need to tell you whether they wrote "no siblings" because it's irrelevant. The party is only for those who are invited.

[Anonymous]

I like the suggestion of:
Larla is invited to Larlo's 8th birthday on X date.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a party for one of my DC at a venue where you're allotted a certain number of kids for a set price (I did 15). I wrote the invitations to the names of the invited children only, and still three families dropped off younger siblings.

I would not have hesitated to tell them they could not leave that kid and to take him/her with them. These people have no manners and count on other parents not wanting to make a scene. Stop letting them get away with this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had a party for one of my DC at a venue where you're allotted a certain number of kids for a set price (I did 15). I wrote the invitations to the names of the invited children only, and still three families dropped off younger siblings.

I would not have hesitated to tell them they could not leave that kid and to take him/her with them. These people have no manners and count on other parents not wanting to make a scene. Stop letting them get away with this.

On the invitations, the name of child is clearly listed. I can’t believe the number of people who say you have to write no siblings to be clear.

[Anonymous]

If your kid is old enough to do drop-off, it’s fine to not invite siblings. If your kid is not and parents need to be there, it’s a family affair so plan your party accordingly. If you can’t afford it you can’t afford it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I appreciate that this can be a real problem but the suggestion that siblings need to be completely banned from public settings is unhinged.

Can you quote who said siblings should be banned? Pretty much universally this is people taking a "siblings only" invite then RSVPing for 4 people. Weird that people are so incredulous that this has ever happened and arguing that the host must have forgotten to say "no siblings".

It's because the people who are mad have taken 8 pages to answer whether they wrote "no siblings" and torpedoed every suggestion for self-help along the way. It sounds like you can either talk to the parents who are doing this, or stop inviting their kids to the parties. Or you can plan a party that can accommodate people who just show up without extra expense. Or you can keep doing the same thing and venting on DCUM.

Or you can make it known that this is not cool on places like here. I don't know why you ASSumed people don't write no siblings. And even if they didn't, it doesn't make it ok to just bring 7 random people. I know you think you have all the answers and want the thread to end with your advice, but that's not how things work. Besides, OP wasn't asking for advice on this, she was pointing out that she is surprised people do this. A discussion ensued which really bothers you. Why are you so invested in this? Your participation isn't mandatory and feel free to keep scrolling.

Which is weird, because OP does this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had a party for one of my DC at a venue where you're allotted a certain number of kids for a set price (I did 15). I wrote the invitations to the names of the invited children only, and still three families dropped off younger siblings.

I would not have hesitated to tell them they could not leave that kid and to take him/her with them. These people have no manners and count on other parents not wanting to make a scene. Stop letting them get away with this.

On the invitations, the name of child is clearly listed. I can’t believe the number of people who say you have to write no siblings to be clear.

Your response has absolutely no connection to the post you responded to…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because we dont have babysitters!

One parent stays home with sibs, the other parent takes kid to party. Anything else is super rude and presumptuous.

Single mom here on a tight schedule…now what?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because we dont have babysitters!

Do you have a spouse?

Sweetie not everyone has a spouse. Get out of your little bubble hun.

[Anonymous]

My kids come as a set. They are close enough in age to go to same parties. Parents need to get over themselves and let kids be kids and play together. Im over all of these extra party rules. My kid / sibling has never been turned away FWIW.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I appreciate that this can be a real problem but the suggestion that siblings need to be completely banned from public settings is unhinged.

Can you quote who said siblings should be banned? Pretty much universally this is people taking a "siblings only" invite then RSVPing for 4 people. Weird that people are so incredulous that this has ever happened and arguing that the host must have forgotten to say "no siblings".

It's because the people who are mad have taken 8 pages to answer whether they wrote "no siblings" and torpedoed every suggestion for self-help along the way. It sounds like you can either talk to the parents who are doing this, or stop inviting their kids to the parties. Or you can plan a party that can accommodate people who just show up without extra expense. Or you can keep doing the same thing and venting on DCUM.

Or you can make it known that this is not cool on places like here. I don't know why you ASSumed people don't write no siblings. And even if they didn't, it doesn't make it ok to just bring 7 random people. I know you think you have all the answers and want the thread to end with your advice, but that's not how things work. Besides, OP wasn't asking for advice on this, she was pointing out that she is surprised people do this. A discussion ensued which really bothers you. Why are you so invested in this? Your participation isn't mandatory and feel free to keep scrolling.

Which is weird, because OP does this.

I do not do this. I do not bring siblings to parties. Once when my middle kid was in kindergarten, I took my 7yo and PAID for him. We did not join the kindergarten party. This was 7-8 years ago.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kids come as a set. They are close enough in age to go to same parties. Parents need to get over themselves and let kids be kids and play together. Im over all of these extra party rules. My kid / sibling has never been turned away FWIW.

So even if the party invitation says no siblings, you still… bring a sibling? You have to be a troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because we dont have babysitters!

It was a drop off party close to school.