I’m really surprised at the number of people who bring siblings to parties

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are trying to do what’s best for the kids and give them a real home and family, despite some difficult opposition from my boyfriend’s ex, so we request that our 10 year old boys do things as a team so that they are known as a family (ex insists on keeping them separate). I think the least other families can do is help our kids have some stability after a rough childhood.

Hopefully next year the boys will go to the same school so this isn’t a problem.

Whose bad idea is this?

Are you trying to bring your 10yo son to your boyfriend’s son’s friend’s party and the ex doesn’t want your son to come?

Team ex on this.

And if you aren’t married, I would not consider you a family. Sorry.

It’s not his ex’s party. It’s another kid’s party, but his ex told the mom not to allow my kid—his brother—to attend. So neither of the boys went. I hope his ex is satisfied. It just helps us with custody.

Wow you are so effing gross! You refused to let a kid go to his friend's party because your brat, who the birthday boy doesn't even know, couldn't go? I doubt the dad will ever marry you now. These boys aren't siblings, this kid doesn't even know your son, and you crossed a line. You are ruining this boy's life no wonder his mom has issues with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have not read the whole thread but I have a related specific question I can hopefully get insight on

DD has her 10th birthday party coming up. One of her best friends, Larla has a 7 year old brother, Larlo, that is one of my DS's best friends. DD is adamant that she doesn't want Larlo at the party but his parents have indicated they're bringing both kids (we often do things as families). I was trying to figure out how to communicate to the family that Larlo is not invited. But now that I've typed it out, I'm not sure if I should.

Thoughts on how to proceed?

You say "sorry, it's girls only this year!" And ask if she will take your son during the party while you have the girls.

[Anonymous]

Nothing surprises me anymore with parents. I feel so sorry for kids who can't do a damn thing without their siblings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nothing surprises me anymore with parents. I feel so sorry for kids who can't do a damn thing without their siblings.

Now it isn’t just siblings. 10 year olds have to bring the son of the dad’s girlfriend to a drop off party.

[Anonymous]

I had to explain this concept to my husband. Siblings do not come unless they are included on the invite list or I receive explicit direction from the host that sibling is welcome to attend. I was considered the bad guy because I wasn't bringing my 13 year old stepson to a 5 year old's party. And only time I'd "bring" a sibling is if said sibling is an infant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are trying to do what’s best for the kids and give them a real home and family, despite some difficult opposition from my boyfriend’s ex, so we request that our 10 year old boys do things as a team so that they are known as a family (ex insists on keeping them separate). I think the least other families can do is help our kids have some stability after a rough childhood.

Hopefully next year the boys will go to the same school so this isn’t a problem.

Whose bad idea is this?

Are you trying to bring your 10yo son to your boyfriend’s son’s friend’s party and the ex doesn’t want your son to come?

Team ex on this.

And if you aren’t married, I would not consider you a family. Sorry.

It’s not his ex’s party. It’s another kid’s party, but his ex told the mom not to allow my kid—his brother—to attend. So neither of the boys went. I hope his ex is satisfied. It just helps us with custody.

This makes it sound like your boyfriend got you and his ex pregnant around the same time. So don't call them brothers. People will make assumptions.

But think about this. Even if you were married, the step brothers would not be joined at the hip. Twins are even allowed to have separate friends. There's absolutely no reason to force these boys to have the same friends. You're creating really awkward situations for everyone including the kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had to explain this concept to my husband. Siblings do not come unless they are included on the invite list or I receive explicit direction from the host that sibling is welcome to attend. I was considered the bad guy because I wasn't bringing my 13 year old stepson to a 5 year old's party. And only time I'd "bring" a sibling is if said sibling is an infant.

You don’t bring a teen to a younger siblibg’s friend’s party. Of course if you are family friends, the whole family can attend.

I had a classmate party where I didn’t want siblings. There are already 25 kids in her class. I’m having another family and friend party where our friends are all coming over to hang out. These are very different types of parties. Family friend party is in our home and we will have lots of food and alcohol. Classmate party was at a party venue where we had pizza and cake.