I’m really surprised at the number of people who bring siblings to parties

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Anonymous wrote:We are trying to do what’s best for the kids and give them a real home and family, despite some difficult opposition from my boyfriend’s ex, so we request that our 10 year old boys do things as a team so that they are known as a family (ex insists on keeping them separate). I think the least other families can do is help our kids have some stability after a rough childhood.

Hopefully next year the boys will go to the same school so this isn’t a problem.

Whose bad idea is this?

Are you trying to bring your 10yo son to your boyfriend’s son’s friend’s party and the ex doesn’t want your son to come?

Team ex on this.

And if you aren’t married, I would not consider you a family. Sorry.

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Pp again. I have 2 boys. In other hangout situations, it is appropriate for your 10yo to tag along. Or you can initiate an outing with your two boys and invite the boy’s friends.

You can’t just add your kid to a 10yo party. That is beyond rude. The kid doesn’t attend the same school, probably doesn’t know the birthday child.

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Anonymous wrote:We are trying to do what’s best for the kids and give them a real home and family, despite some difficult opposition from my boyfriend’s ex, so we request that our 10 year old boys do things as a team so that they are known as a family (ex insists on keeping them separate). I think the least other families can do is help our kids have some stability after a rough childhood.

Hopefully next year the boys will go to the same school so this isn’t a problem.

Are you saying that you bring a non related 10 year old boy to a friend’s birthday party?

Please don’t do this. This may be even worse than a younger sibling. It is an unrelated “friend”. I have 3 kids and have attended hundreds of parties and this would be a new level of party crashing. It doesn’t even sound like they are stepbrothers.

They are stepbrothers for all intense and purposes.

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Anonymous wrote:We are trying to do what’s best for the kids and give them a real home and family, despite some difficult opposition from my boyfriend’s ex, so we request that our 10 year old boys do things as a team so that they are known as a family (ex insists on keeping them separate). I think the least other families can do is help our kids have some stability after a rough childhood.

Hopefully next year the boys will go to the same school so this isn’t a problem.

Whose bad idea is this?

Are you trying to bring your 10yo son to your boyfriend’s son’s friend’s party and the ex doesn’t want your son to come?

Team ex on this.

And if you aren’t married, I would not consider you a family. Sorry.

It’s not his ex’s party. It’s another kid’s party, but his ex told the mom not to allow my kid—his brother—to attend. So neither of the boys went. I hope his ex is satisfied. It just helps us with custody.

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Anonymous wrote:We are trying to do what’s best for the kids and give them a real home and family, despite some difficult opposition from my boyfriend’s ex, so we request that our 10 year old boys do things as a team so that they are known as a family (ex insists on keeping them separate). I think the least other families can do is help our kids have some stability after a rough childhood.

Hopefully next year the boys will go to the same school so this isn’t a problem.

Whose bad idea is this?

Are you trying to bring your 10yo son to your boyfriend’s son’s friend’s party and the ex doesn’t want your son to come?

Team ex on this.

And if you aren’t married, I would not consider you a family. Sorry.

It’s not his ex’s party. It’s another kid’s party, but his ex told the mom not to allow my kid—his brother—to attend. So neither of the boys went. I hope his ex is satisfied. It just helps us with custody.

I would be livid if I were the ex. 10 is drop off age. There is no reason why the invited 10yo could not have gone to the party without his stepbrother. If I were the boy, I would be equally pissed. You are probably not helping the boys by making the invited kid not attend a party.

I guess if it wasn’t a good friend, it would not matter.

Even if they were stepbrothers, which they aren’t, it is inappropriate to bring an uninvited sibling to a birthday party.

I had a birthday party for my 7 year old. I would be annoyed but would have been fine with a step sibling or sibling coming. This is absolutely not ok at age 10.

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Anonymous wrote:We are trying to do what’s best for the kids and give them a real home and family, despite some difficult opposition from my boyfriend’s ex, so we request that our 10 year old boys do things as a team so that they are known as a family (ex insists on keeping them separate). I think the least other families can do is help our kids have some stability after a rough childhood.

Hopefully next year the boys will go to the same school so this isn’t a problem.

Are you saying that you bring a non related 10 year old boy to a friend’s birthday party?

Please don’t do this. This may be even worse than a younger sibling. It is an unrelated “friend”. I have 3 kids and have attended hundreds of parties and this would be a new level of party crashing. It doesn’t even sound like they are stepbrothers.

They are stepbrothers for all intense and purposes.

Dude.

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Anonymous wrote:We are trying to do what’s best for the kids and give them a real home and family, despite some difficult opposition from my boyfriend’s ex, so we request that our 10 year old boys do things as a team so that they are known as a family (ex insists on keeping them separate). I think the least other families can do is help our kids have some stability after a rough childhood.

Hopefully next year the boys will go to the same school so this isn’t a problem.

Whose bad idea is this?

Are you trying to bring your 10yo son to your boyfriend’s son’s friend’s party and the ex doesn’t want your son to come?

Team ex on this.

And if you aren’t married, I would not consider you a family. Sorry.

It’s not his ex’s party. It’s another kid’s party, but his ex told the mom not to allow my kid—his brother—to attend. So neither of the boys went. I hope his ex is satisfied. It just helps us with custody.

This is some low class baby mama drama here.

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Anonymous wrote:My kids come as a set. They are close enough in age to go to same parties. Parents need to get over themselves and let kids be kids and play together. Im over all of these extra party rules. My kid / sibling has never been turned away FWIW.

I have 3 kids. I don’t know anyone who thinks kids come as a set, not even twin moms.

When kids are young and in preschool, hanging out with multiple kids is ok. When kids attend elementary and kids are drop off ages, it is not ok to send big siblings as a set.

Twin mom here. My girls are definitely a set. We should at least be exceptions to the rule. If both my girls cant go, im declining the invite. But it has never been a problem.

Yeah, no. Stop treating your children like a matched set and see them as individuals.

Are they allowed to be in different classes? Have different interests?

If you are not a twin mom, you are clueless and should not speak on twin mom decisions. We have it hard enough. You basically sound like a childfree person telling you how to parent. Clueless! Those that get it- get it.

Hahaha- delusional twin mom. I knew it. You guys think NO ONE has it harder than you.

We DO have it harder at certain stages sweetheart! Its twice the work. YOU are delusional to think otherwise. In addition to my twins, they have an older sibling so I know how it is to parent one age at a time. Again, unless you are twin mom, you have no clue. My SET of twins go to the party together.

I look forward to when your SET of twins begin dating the same person. Because they come as a SET. Not weird at all.

Oh please! They are 4 almost 5. What preschool mom doesn’t make things inclusive for preschoolers. Get over yourself and your Singleton child. Until you have managed a SET, have several seats!

Actually, I have 12 year old twin girls, in addition to a 15 year old boy. They are all individuals and I have always treated them as such. In fact I don't see any other twin mom on here agreeing with you. Why don't you and your matched set take the several seats?

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Anonymous wrote:My kids come as a set. They are close enough in age to go to same parties. Parents need to get over themselves and let kids be kids and play together. Im over all of these extra party rules. My kid / sibling has never been turned away FWIW.

I have 3 kids. I don’t know anyone who thinks kids come as a set, not even twin moms.

When kids are young and in preschool, hanging out with multiple kids is ok. When kids attend elementary and kids are drop off ages, it is not ok to send big siblings as a set.

Twin mom here. My girls are definitely a set. We should at least be exceptions to the rule. If both my girls cant go, im declining the invite. But it has never been a problem.

Yeah, no. Stop treating your children like a matched set and see them as individuals.

Are they allowed to be in different classes? Have different interests?

If you are not a twin mom, you are clueless and should not speak on twin mom decisions. We have it hard enough. You basically sound like a childfree person telling you how to parent. Clueless! Those that get it- get it.

Hahaha- delusional twin mom. I knew it. You guys think NO ONE has it harder than you.

We DO have it harder at certain stages sweetheart! Its twice the work. YOU are delusional to think otherwise. In addition to my twins, they have an older sibling so I know how it is to parent one age at a time. Again, unless you are twin mom, you have no clue. My SET of twins go to the party together.

I look forward to when your SET of twins begin dating the same person. Because they come as a SET. Not weird at all.

Oh please! They are 4 almost 5. What preschool mom doesn’t make things inclusive for preschoolers. Get over yourself and your Singleton child. Until you have managed a SET, have several seats!

Actually, I have 12 year old twin girls, in addition to a 15 year old boy. They are all individuals and I have always treated them as such. In fact I don't see any other twin mom on here agreeing with you. Why don't you and your matched set take the several seats?

I’m not a twin mom but there are a lot of twins at our school. Most parents seem to want and default is for twins to be in different classes. There was one twin family in a different grade who always requested the identical girls be placed in the same class. They were definitely a set and I don’t think anyone saw them as individual people.

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Anonymous wrote:We are trying to do what’s best for the kids and give them a real home and family, despite some difficult opposition from my boyfriend’s ex, so we request that our 10 year old boys do things as a team so that they are known as a family (ex insists on keeping them separate). I think the least other families can do is help our kids have some stability after a rough childhood.

Hopefully next year the boys will go to the same school so this isn’t a problem.

Whose bad idea is this?

Are you trying to bring your 10yo son to your boyfriend’s son’s friend’s party and the ex doesn’t want your son to come?

Team ex on this.

And if you aren’t married, I would not consider you a family. Sorry.

It’s not his ex’s party. It’s another kid’s party, but his ex told the mom not to allow my kid—his brother—to attend. So neither of the boys went. I hope his ex is satisfied. It just helps us with custody.

I would be livid if I were the ex. 10 is drop off age. There is no reason why the invited 10yo could not have gone to the party without his stepbrother. If I were the boy, I would be equally pissed. You are probably not helping the boys by making the invited kid not attend a party.

I guess if it wasn’t a good friend, it would not matter.

Even if they were stepbrothers, which they aren’t, it is inappropriate to bring an uninvited sibling to a birthday party.

I had a birthday party for my 7 year old. I would be annoyed but would have been fine with a step sibling or sibling coming. This is absolutely not ok at age 10.

He's not even the stepbrother. He is the kid of the chick his dad is sleeping with and that chick refused to let the kid who isn't hers to go to a birthday party without her rando child. GF crossed WAAAAAAAAY over the line. Good luck on trying to mend that fence with the Biomom. You're an ass and had no right to intervene. And it's likely the Party mom didn't invite your kid and that's why she said no. You so desperately want to blame Biomom but you are trying to insert yourself into a situation YOU don't belong and are justifiably being shut out. Stay in your lane.

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Anonymous wrote:We are trying to do what’s best for the kids and give them a real home and family, despite some difficult opposition from my boyfriend’s ex, so we request that our 10 year old boys do things as a team so that they are known as a family (ex insists on keeping them separate). I think the least other families can do is help our kids have some stability after a rough childhood.

Hopefully next year the boys will go to the same school so this isn’t a problem.

Are you saying that you bring a non related 10 year old boy to a friend’s birthday party?

Please don’t do this. This may be even worse than a younger sibling. It is an unrelated “friend”. I have 3 kids and have attended hundreds of parties and this would be a new level of party crashing. It doesn’t even sound like they are stepbrothers.

They are stepbrothers for all intense and purposes.

No, actually for no *intents* and purposes are they stepbrothers.

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Anonymous wrote:We are trying to do what’s best for the kids and give them a real home and family, despite some difficult opposition from my boyfriend’s ex, so we request that our 10 year old boys do things as a team so that they are known as a family (ex insists on keeping them separate). I think the least other families can do is help our kids have some stability after a rough childhood.

Hopefully next year the boys will go to the same school so this isn’t a problem.

Whose bad idea is this?

Are you trying to bring your 10yo son to your boyfriend’s son’s friend’s party and the ex doesn’t want your son to come?

Team ex on this.

And if you aren’t married, I would not consider you a family. Sorry.

It’s not his ex’s party. It’s another kid’s party, but his ex told the mom not to allow my kid—his brother—to attend. So neither of the boys went. I hope his ex is satisfied. It just helps us with custody.

I would be livid if I were the ex. 10 is drop off age. There is no reason why the invited 10yo could not have gone to the party without his stepbrother. If I were the boy, I would be equally pissed. You are probably not helping the boys by making the invited kid not attend a party.

I guess if it wasn’t a good friend, it would not matter.

Even if they were stepbrothers, which they aren’t, it is inappropriate to bring an uninvited sibling to a birthday party.

I had a birthday party for my 7 year old. I would be annoyed but would have been fine with a step sibling or sibling coming. This is absolutely not ok at age 10.

He's not even the stepbrother. He is the kid of the chick his dad is sleeping with and that chick refused to let the kid who isn't hers to go to a birthday party without her rando child. GF crossed WAAAAAAAAY over the line. Good luck on trying to mend that fence with the Biomom. You're an ass and had no right to intervene. And it's likely the Party mom didn't invite your kid and that's why she said no. You so desperately want to blame Biomom but you are trying to insert yourself into a situation YOU don't belong and are justifiably being shut out. Stay in your lane.

This seems kind of like a cousin visiting type situation even though a girlfriend’s son is not a cousin. And it isn’t like the cousin is visiting from out of town so probably not even the same.

My boys have friends whose cousins visit. One boy has a cousin who isn’t cool and doesn’t want to hang out with him at all and annoyed his mom makes him bring his cousin to a friend hangout. This is not a party but kids going to watch a movie or playing basketball. Cousin is visiting and if he wants to go, he has to take cousin and boy is not happy about it.

Another boy we know has a cousin he looks up to and adores. The boy is “cool” and the boy’s friends also like him. They are glad that he will be coming to hang out with them. In this situation, other friends become friend with cool cousin and look forward to the cousin visiting every year.

It matters a lot if pp’s son and the pseudo stepbrother get along. Do they like one another? Did the 10yo even WANT to take the stepbrother or kid of the girl his dad is dating? This makes a HUGE difference.

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Anonymous wrote:We are trying to do what’s best for the kids and give them a real home and family, despite some difficult opposition from my boyfriend’s ex, so we request that our 10 year old boys do things as a team so that they are known as a family (ex insists on keeping them separate). I think the least other families can do is help our kids have some stability after a rough childhood.

Hopefully next year the boys will go to the same school so this isn’t a problem.

Are you saying that you bring a non related 10 year old boy to a friend’s birthday party?

Please don’t do this. This may be even worse than a younger sibling. It is an unrelated “friend”. I have 3 kids and have attended hundreds of parties and this would be a new level of party crashing. It doesn’t even sound like they are stepbrothers.

They are stepbrothers for all intense and purposes.

No, actually for no *intents* and purposes are they stepbrothers.

They are not stepbrothers just like you are not the wife. There is a big difference.

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Anonymous wrote:We are trying to do what’s best for the kids and give them a real home and family, despite some difficult opposition from my boyfriend’s ex, so we request that our 10 year old boys do things as a team so that they are known as a family (ex insists on keeping them separate). I think the least other families can do is help our kids have some stability after a rough childhood.

Hopefully next year the boys will go to the same school so this isn’t a problem.

Whose bad idea is this?

Are you trying to bring your 10yo son to your boyfriend’s son’s friend’s party and the ex doesn’t want your son to come?

Team ex on this.

And if you aren’t married, I would not consider you a family. Sorry.

It’s not his ex’s party. It’s another kid’s party, but his ex told the mom not to allow my kid—his brother—to attend. So neither of the boys went. I hope his ex is satisfied. It just helps us with custody.

I don’t think you realize how parties work. The host controls the guest list. The ex probably said host doesn’t have to feel obligated to invite your son.

I hate siblings at parties. I for sure would not want the son of a chick the dad is dating. I wouldn’t want him if you were newly married either. It isn’t personal. I only want friends of my kid at a tween party. This is when the party is about the kid, not parents and your 10yo has no business going to this party that he was not invited to.

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Anonymous wrote:We are trying to do what’s best for the kids and give them a real home and family, despite some difficult opposition from my boyfriend’s ex, so we request that our 10 year old boys do things as a team so that they are known as a family (ex insists on keeping them separate). I think the least other families can do is help our kids have some stability after a rough childhood.

Hopefully next year the boys will go to the same school so this isn’t a problem.

Whose bad idea is this?

Are you trying to bring your 10yo son to your boyfriend’s son’s friend’s party and the ex doesn’t want your son to come?

Team ex on this.

And if you aren’t married, I would not consider you a family. Sorry.

It’s not his ex’s party. It’s another kid’s party, but his ex told the mom not to allow my kid—his brother—to attend. So neither of the boys went. I hope his ex is satisfied. It just helps us with custody.

I would be livid if I were the ex. 10 is drop off age. There is no reason why the invited 10yo could not have gone to the party without his stepbrother. If I were the boy, I would be equally pissed. You are probably not helping the boys by making the invited kid not attend a party.

I guess if it wasn’t a good friend, it would not matter.

Even if they were stepbrothers, which they aren’t, it is inappropriate to bring an uninvited sibling to a birthday party.

I had a birthday party for my 7 year old. I would be annoyed but would have been fine with a step sibling or sibling coming. This is absolutely not ok at age 10.

He's not even the stepbrother. He is the kid of the chick his dad is sleeping with and that chick refused to let the kid who isn't hers to go to a birthday party without her rando child. GF crossed WAAAAAAAAY over the line. Good luck on trying to mend that fence with the Biomom. You're an ass and had no right to intervene. And it's likely the Party mom didn't invite your kid and that's why she said no. You so desperately want to blame Biomom but you are trying to insert yourself into a situation YOU don't belong and are justifiably being shut out. Stay in your lane.

I just reread. Wow. I can’t imagine how I would feel if I were the ex. This lady is nuts interfering with my kid. The lady probably givds her boyfriend a lot of grief. If I were the dad, I would kick this lady to the curb.