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Anonymous wrote:OP I truly believe that those saying send her want you and your daughter to fail in order to decrease competition for their own kids. Competition is national these days so this level of nuttiness is still nuts but makes a bit of sense. You’re not getting honest answers. All of us would hold back our own in this scenario.
Yes, millions of kids worth of national competition out there for my kid, so I'm trying to winnow the field one-by-one by posting false opinions on an anonymous message board. It may take me and my kind thousands of hours of effort spread out over year to change just enough minds to make a small dent in our DC's cohorts, but it will be worth it, so so very worth it. You've identified our true motives, PP. This all seems far more plausible than some people just legitimately having different opinions than you.
You’re trying to change the view that redshirting is favorable to create a cultural shift away from it. That’s what I see on these threads. It wouldn’t make people so angry if it weren’t a threat. Of course one person doesn’t make a difference but I feel the goal is to generally make people feel that redshirting is immoral and unfair so fewer will do it.
Yeah but the flip side is that so many people are so worried about some potential disadvantage that may or may happen as a result of following the cut offs and sending on time that people like OP feel “everyone” is doing it so they must also hold their kids back or they will be doing harm. The truth is that not everyone is holding their kids, and those of us who sent our cusp kids on time and had no ill effects are welcome to share that perspective and contribute to the dialogue to dispel the myth that the youngest kids in the grade are likely to struggle. I do feel it is important to share this point of view because I personally think rampant redshirting has impacted how kindergarten looks today and it has the potential to get even more developmentally inappropriate, which would be a shame for our youngest learners.
But OP isn’t actually holding her daughter back. She is in an outlier state. In every other county and state in the nation, there wouldn’t even be a question: her daughter would go a year later. People on this thread are being ridiculous and acting like she has a May birthday or something and is considering true redshirting. No. She would be technically redshirting for her district but a totally normal birthday for everywhere else.
I also find the puberty arguments to be a misogynistic red herring. Girls’ minds matter more than their bodies. They don’t magically emotionally and intellectually mature just because they grow breasts. Tall girls with breasts deserve a childhood, too, even if apparently some parents are still living in the 15th century and feel they do not.
OP here. As of now I think my daughter would be fine either way, but I do prefer to give her an extra year of childhood before entering a very structured academic environment since her birthday is only a few short weeks shy of our January cutoff. Not sure what we’ll do.
I hear your point on the misogyny of the physical aspect. If I had any concern over her academic readiness (too young to read, but at this point I don’t particularly) I would hold her. My concern with the physical element has more to do with mental health and confidence. However misogynistic, it can be alienating to go through puberty before your peers. I got my period at close to 12 but I felt early and it embarrassed me. I think there’s an element of desired control we wish to have over our children’s childhoods to protect them from difficulty as much as possible, but obviously it’s impossible to actually have that.
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