No-show at kids' bday party

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just went to a kid birthday party yesterday at a venue. The whole family was invited. I RSVPed for 4, thinking I would go with my 3 kids. At the last minute, DH got off work early and he and my oldest son went mountain biking, so I only showed up with 3 of us.
I didn’t really think to communicate to the host or apologize.

I don’t think I’m used to this super limited venue.

8 kids seems like an odd number too. It’s very possible that you invited all but 2-3 boys from the class. It’s possible that you were the rude one, OP.

So you’re teaching your child that if something comes up that they’d rather do it’s ok to no show to something you RSVP’d yes for? And then you’re fabricating some totally unsupported scenario in which OP’s kid left out just a couple boys from class.

Yep.
And I still think I’m right on all of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just wait until sports schedules impact attendance.

My kids play sports and I RSVP based on if we can attend or not. Games are scheduled weeks in advance. There are no “SURPRISE!” tournaments scheduled the night before.

It’s not hard. My kids get invited to stuff all the time. At least a part of that is that I respond quickly with our availability.

Nobody’s offended if my kid can’t come because of a game. People do get offended if you say you’re going to come and don’t. That’s disrespectful no matter what age you are.

[Anonymous]

OP, did the no show send a gift?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just went to a kid birthday party yesterday at a venue. The whole family was invited. I RSVPed for 4, thinking I would go with my 3 kids. At the last minute, DH got off work early and he and my oldest son went mountain biking, so I only showed up with 3 of us.
I didn’t really think to communicate to the host or apologize.

I don’t think I’m used to this super limited venue.

8 kids seems like an odd number too. It’s very possible that you invited all but 2-3 boys from the class. It’s possible that you were the rude one, OP.

So you’re teaching your child that if something comes up that they’d rather do it’s ok to no show to something you RSVP’d yes for? And then you’re fabricating some totally unsupported scenario in which OP’s kid left out just a couple boys from class.

Yep.
And I still think I’m right on all of it.

What class has about 20 kids in it such that a few boys were left out (2 out if 10)? You have quite the active imagination to concoct this theory and then declare yourself absolutely correct.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Shit happens. I wouldn't be annoyed. Some day it will be me.

I forgot about a birthday party once. The mom is a friend of mine too! She texted me after the party started to see if we were on our way and I was mortified that I had completely forgotten. I was honest about and and we got a laugh. She sent me reminders the next time. Just forgive and move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I booked a not-cheap venue with an 8-kid limit. It was hard for my DS to choose, but he kept it small - and then one kid didn't show up. No word from the parent, nothing. Another kid could have used the spot. This morning, the mom just breezily texted, sorry to miss it. Uhh? Am I wrongly annoyed? I'm kinda annoyed!

No, it's rude and the mom is self centered.

We have missed parties for illness and scheduling mix ups. I always tried to let people know in advance, and I also apologized a lot. Regardless of the expense, there is a child celebrating their birthday who was excited to welcome some guests. It's rude and thoughtless to act like it didn't matter.

I agree. No-showing is rude even for a kid's birthday party.

[Anonymous]

OP, if one kid did not show up, you are doing great! For real, keep it in perspective.

There are some kids who have a hard time having most of the guest list show up, and THAT sucks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just went to a kid birthday party yesterday at a venue. The whole family was invited. I RSVPed for 4, thinking I would go with my 3 kids. At the last minute, DH got off work early and he and my oldest son went mountain biking, so I only showed up with 3 of us.
I didn’t really think to communicate to the host or apologize.

I don’t think I’m used to this super limited venue.

8 kids seems like an odd number too. It’s very possible that you invited all but 2-3 boys from the class. It’s possible that you were the rude one, OP.

So you’re teaching your child that if something comes up that they’d rather do it’s ok to no show to something you RSVP’d yes for? And then you’re fabricating some totally unsupported scenario in which OP’s kid left out just a couple boys from class.

Yep.
And I still think I’m right on all of it.

Wow. You’re awful. Let’s hope your kids marry someone with greater social skills and consideration for others than their parents had.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just wait until sports schedules impact attendance.

My kids play sports and I RSVP based on if we can attend or not. Games are scheduled weeks in advance. There are no “SURPRISE!” tournaments scheduled the night before.

It’s not hard. My kids get invited to stuff all the time. At least a part of that is that I respond quickly with our availability.

Nobody’s offended if my kid can’t come because of a game. People do get offended if you say you’re going to come and don’t. That’s disrespectful no matter what age you are.

If I am not sure and kid is not a super good friend, I don’t rsvp until we know for sure.

For a very close frkend, we make it a priority. For my son’s best friend, we have adjusted our travel plans. My kid has missed a sports game for a close friend. Or we have gone late even if just in Time for cake. If not close frirnd, we will miss.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just went to a kid birthday party yesterday at a venue. The whole family was invited. I RSVPed for 4, thinking I would go with my 3 kids. At the last minute, DH got off work early and he and my oldest son went mountain biking, so I only showed up with 3 of us.
I didn’t really think to communicate to the host or apologize.

I don’t think I’m used to this super limited venue.

8 kids seems like an odd number too. It’s very possible that you invited all but 2-3 boys from the class. It’s possible that you were the rude one, OP.

So you’re teaching your child that if something comes up that they’d rather do it’s ok to no show to something you RSVP’d yes for? And then you’re fabricating some totally unsupported scenario in which OP’s kid left out just a couple boys from class.

Yep.
And I still think I’m right on all of it.

What class has about 20 kids in it such that a few boys were left out (2 out if 10)? You have quite the active imagination to concoct this theory and then declare yourself absolutely correct.

Yeah. I don’t think it takes an active imagination to only have 10-12 boys in an elementary school classroom.

I also don’t think my son was missed the at birthday party.

I still think I’m right on both counts. Particularly the second one since I was there.

[Anonymous]

People are asssholes and they don’t give a shit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just went to a kid birthday party yesterday at a venue. The whole family was invited. I RSVPed for 4, thinking I would go with my 3 kids. At the last minute, DH got off work early and he and my oldest son went mountain biking, so I only showed up with 3 of us.
I didn’t really think to communicate to the host or apologize.

I don’t think I’m used to this super limited venue.

8 kids seems like an odd number too. It’s very possible that you invited all but 2-3 boys from the class. It’s possible that you were the rude one, OP.

So you’re teaching your child that if something comes up that they’d rather do it’s ok to no show to something you RSVP’d yes for? And then you’re fabricating some totally unsupported scenario in which OP’s kid left out just a couple boys from class.

Yep.
And I still think I’m right on all of it.

Wow. You’re awful. Let’s hope your kids marry someone with greater social skills and consideration for others than their parents had.

I hope that my kids marry someone who wants to hang out with their family if they get off work early, like their dad.

I would honestly be disappointed if my son married someone who would leave him home alone because the rest of the family RSVPed to a child’s birthday party and he was supposed to be at work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just went to a kid birthday party yesterday at a venue. The whole family was invited. I RSVPed for 4, thinking I would go with my 3 kids. At the last minute, DH got off work early and he and my oldest son went mountain biking, so I only showed up with 3 of us.
I didn’t really think to communicate to the host or apologize.

I don’t think I’m used to this super limited venue.

8 kids seems like an odd number too. It’s very possible that you invited all but 2-3 boys from the class. It’s possible that you were the rude one, OP.

So you’re teaching your child that if something comes up that they’d rather do it’s ok to no show to something you RSVP’d yes for? And then you’re fabricating some totally unsupported scenario in which OP’s kid left out just a couple boys from class.

Yep.
And I still think I’m right on all of it.

What class has about 20 kids in it such that a few boys were left out (2 out if 10)? You have quite the active imagination to concoct this theory and then declare yourself absolutely correct.

Yeah. I don’t think it takes an active imagination to only have 10-12 boys in an elementary school classroom.

I also don’t think my son was missed the at birthday party.

I still think I’m right on both counts. Particularly the second one since I was there.

Your unearned confidence is really something.

Maybe OP goes to an all boys’ school, so the entire class is boys.

Or maybe half of the invited kids are not from school, but from outside activities. That was true of my kid’s last party.

And, of course, everybody looked like they had a good time without your son, but that doesn’t make it any less breathtakingly rude for you to allow him to blow off an invitation he’s accepted for something that sounds more fun. Respecting your commitments is basic consideration for other people.

Having said that, it’s not so bad if the venue is somebody’s house or a picnic at the park or something like that. But if it’s somewhere that is limited space or pay-per-head then it’s incredibly inconsiderate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just went to a kid birthday party yesterday at a venue. The whole family was invited. I RSVPed for 4, thinking I would go with my 3 kids. At the last minute, DH got off work early and he and my oldest son went mountain biking, so I only showed up with 3 of us.
I didn’t really think to communicate to the host or apologize.

I don’t think I’m used to this super limited venue.

8 kids seems like an odd number too. It’s very possible that you invited all but 2-3 boys from the class. It’s possible that you were the rude one, OP.

So you’re teaching your child that if something comes up that they’d rather do it’s ok to no show to something you RSVP’d yes for? And then you’re fabricating some totally unsupported scenario in which OP’s kid left out just a couple boys from class.

Yep.
And I still think I’m right on all of it.

Wow. You’re awful. Let’s hope your kids marry someone with greater social skills and consideration for others than their parents had.

I hope that my kids marry someone who wants to hang out with their family if they get off work early, like their dad.

I would honestly be disappointed if my son married someone who would leave him home alone because the rest of the family RSVPed to a child’s birthday party and he was supposed to be at work.

My dH would love to rest at home. What man does not want some peace and quiet?

DH and I tag team. DH rarely gets alone time and would love it if he got an afternoon off home alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just went to a kid birthday party yesterday at a venue. The whole family was invited. I RSVPed for 4, thinking I would go with my 3 kids. At the last minute, DH got off work early and he and my oldest son went mountain biking, so I only showed up with 3 of us.
I didn’t really think to communicate to the host or apologize.

I don’t think I’m used to this super limited venue.

8 kids seems like an odd number too. It’s very possible that you invited all but 2-3 boys from the class. It’s possible that you were the rude one, OP.

So you’re teaching your child that if something comes up that they’d rather do it’s ok to no show to something you RSVP’d yes for? And then you’re fabricating some totally unsupported scenario in which OP’s kid left out just a couple boys from class.

Yep.
And I still think I’m right on all of it.

Wow. You’re awful. Let’s hope your kids marry someone with greater social skills and consideration for others than their parents had.

I hope that my kids marry someone who wants to hang out with their family if they get off work early, like their dad.

I would honestly be disappointed if my son married someone who would leave him home alone because the rest of the family RSVPed to a child’s birthday party and he was supposed to be at work.

I do not think it is a big deal to take one less kid. I am wondering if your entire family was invited. Why didn’t DH just go to the party too? Or did you rsvp with extra siblings?

I have 3 kids. I absolutely hate when families RSVP with extra kids without even asking first.