Will I cause an eating disorder?

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Anonymous wrote:come back when your kids are older and tell us about their tv habits/screens and eating. Right now, you have the control but, it won't last.

OP here. I have control until they’re 18. My house, my rules. I’m not a permissive parent who will let my unruly child ( clearly you do) rule my house.

You asked a question. Am I going to create kids with eating disorders? Yes, you are because you have the "highway or my way attitude" And since when does eating a pop tart make you unruly? You can be very well behaved and eat one and be a terror and be vegan. Your kids are going to be at friends' houses and they are going to be 15/16 and will have an allowance and jobs perhaps. Then you can't control what they eat because they will lie to you.

And I love the insults on my kids. You don't know me or my kids ( who are older than yours) but, they are not unruly and I see them as their own people. I know plenty of kids who were controlled this tightly and when they got the 'forbidden' food rushed to eat it all because they never knew when they would get it next.

Remember you came here asking for advice. If you don't like it than don't ask.

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Anonymous wrote:come back when your kids are older and tell us about their tv habits/screens and eating. Right now, you have the control but, it won't last.

OP here. I have control until they’re 18. My house, my rules. I’m not a permissive parent who will let my unruly child ( clearly you do) rule my house.

Hysterical! Keep it coming preschool mommy!

I’m picturing her wrestling a bag of Takis out of her 15 year olds hands. This is good stuff!

OP here. That won’t happen. If my child ever tried to wrestle me, he would have a serious a** whopping coming to him by his dad. I don’t know what kind of thugs you raised but we will teach our kids respect in our house.

* whooping

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:come back when your kids are older and tell us about their tv habits/screens and eating. Right now, you have the control but, it won't last.

OP here. I have control until they’re 18. My house, my rules. I’m not a permissive parent who will let my unruly child ( clearly you do) rule my house.

Hysterical! Keep it coming preschool mommy!

I’m picturing her wrestling a bag of Takis out of her 15 year olds hands. This is good stuff!

OP here. That won’t happen. If my child ever tried to wrestle me, he would have a serious a** whopping coming to him by his dad. I don’t know what kind of thugs you raised but we will teach our kids respect in our house.

Damn OP it gets better and better with every post! You are making this Wednesday morning bearable. Thank you!

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Anonymous wrote:come back when your kids are older and tell us about their tv habits/screens and eating. Right now, you have the control but, it won't last.

OP here. I have control until they’re 18. My house, my rules. I’m not a permissive parent who will let my unruly child ( clearly you do) rule my house.

Hysterical! Keep it coming preschool mommy!

I’m picturing her wrestling a bag of Takis out of her 15 year olds hands. This is good stuff!

OP here. That won’t happen. If my child ever tried to wrestle me, he would have a serious a** whopping coming to him by his dad. I don’t know what kind of thugs you raised but we will teach our kids respect in our house.

OP here. Let me guess. Your kids are those disrespectful thugs teens who were raised by social media with little to no respect or manners for anyone. Sounds about right if you think your kid wrestling you is funny or cute. They run your household and you junk it’s cute so they get away with their thug behavior because you think just teens being teens. Pathetic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think my MIL gave her daughters and sons not eating disorders, but a lot of body baggage. Her children are *very* concerned about fitness and eating. This happened not because of her healthy eating but because of things like telling her children, repeatedly, "don't get fat" and criticizing people who were overweight. She even told me right after I had a C-section that she didn't have a baby bump like I did because she did abdominal exercises. She is great in so many ways, but this was one way was not a great parent.

TLDR I think you're doing fine OP!

Can you say this better because it is very awkward. To me you sounds like they do have an eating disorder. So why put "not?"

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Anonymous wrote:Every kid I know with super restrictive parents like this, eats like 5 bags of chips at a party or playdate instead of one bag like everyone else. Same goes with sugar options; they consume way more than others when exposed to it outside their house. This was me with cable tv when I was young. My parents refused to get cable and barely let me watch any tv, so instead all I wanted to do at other peoples houses was watch cable tv. OP, I think you need to lighten up a little. Balance is key.

OP here. We also don’t allow much tv and they don’t have regular access to tablets. We believe screens and tv just aren’t good for them.

OP here. My mom also let us watch ridiculous amounts of tv and we all had access to the internet at a young age. I think it’s sort of lazy parenting and young kids shouldn’t be given those devices.

I hope you're planning to home school because as soon as the kids hit kindergarten those devices are in their hands at school. But it's so adorable all these rules and "I nevers" you're planning for you 3 and 4 yr olds. I remember people like you when mine were a little younger. They are no longer like that because real life happened.

OP here. No. They will be going to a private catholic school.

I’m fine with devices at school but not really at home. We limit tv to 30-60 minutes a day . We prefer to interact with our kids instead of stick them in front of the tv so we can get our devices or ignore them. I feel it’s just lazy parenting.

Lol okay wait. That’s really not a particularly impressive or notable limit - an hour a day is a LOT at their age. I now think you posted fishing for compliments bc you’re insecure about your parenting

OP here. That’s the limit. Most days they never watch tv. We will do a family movie bight or show on the weekends but that’s about it. Maybe once a week they watch a little tv after dinner. Most days we are playing with them when we get home, do dinner, and then bath and just hanging out and reading books before bed.

This is what most people do with kids that age. What’s special about this?

OP here. Most people I know with kids these ages all have kids who watch tv all day or have devices they’re on for periods throughout the day. I don’t know anyone who doesn’t let their kids not watch tv everyday like I do.

You know a bunch of losers. Maybe expend your social circle? Because this isn't the norm everywhere. It's the people you know, that's it.

OP here. I’m talking about the ones on social media and the people I see all over the city in the parks. All their kids are glued to devices.

So you have no social circle, friends or family? Do you even have 2 kids? This all sounds like an elaborate fantasy. And babysitting your niece and nephew doesn't mean you have any experience raising kids.

OP here. I do but my family and friends are not lazy people and actually parent, unlike many others I see.

I didn’t babysit, I helped raised them. I was their primary caregiver from birth until they were middle school aged.

So you, your family, and your friends are perfect parents. How do you stand being among us mere mortals? Don't let us touch you, we might turn to gold.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:come back when your kids are older and tell us about their tv habits/screens and eating. Right now, you have the control but, it won't last.

OP here. I have control until they’re 18. My house, my rules. I’m not a permissive parent who will let my unruly child ( clearly you do) rule my house.

You asked a question. Am I going to create kids with eating disorders? Yes, you are because you have the "highway or my way attitude" And since when does eating a pop tart make you unruly? You can be very well behaved and eat one and be a terror and be vegan. Your kids are going to be at friends' houses and they are going to be 15/16 and will have an allowance and jobs perhaps. Then you can't control what they eat because they will lie to you.

And I love the insults on my kids. You don't know me or my kids ( who are older than yours) but, they are not unruly and I see them as their own people. I know plenty of kids who were controlled this tightly and when they got the 'forbidden' food rushed to eat it all because they never knew when they would get it next.

Remember you came here asking for advice. If you don't like it than don't ask.

OP here. I never said pop tarts make them unruly. I said letting your kids try to wrestle you or be disrespectful is unruly. I see way too many parents with disrespectful teens who excuse their behavior as “ teens will be teens” and “ it’s just their personality”.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:come back when your kids are older and tell us about their tv habits/screens and eating. Right now, you have the control but, it won't last.

OP here. I have control until they’re 18. My house, my rules. I’m not a permissive parent who will let my unruly child ( clearly you do) rule my house.

Hysterical! Keep it coming preschool mommy!

I’m picturing her wrestling a bag of Takis out of her 15 year olds hands. This is good stuff!

OP here. That won’t happen. If my child ever tried to wrestle me, he would have a serious a** whopping coming to him by his dad. I don’t know what kind of thugs you raised but we will teach our kids respect in our house.

OP here. Let me guess. Your kids are those disrespectful thugs teens who were raised by social media with little to no respect or manners for anyone. Sounds about right if you think your kid wrestling you is funny or cute. They run your household and you junk it’s cute so they get away with their thug behavior because you think just teens being teens. Pathetic.

Wow! You believe a pop tart makes you into a thug? And yet you think beating your child is better for them? Beating your children does not make them respect you. You are more seriously going to f them up if you believe in corporal punishment.

The kids are just going to go to the store by themselves and buy their treats and consume it there. They won't need to wrestle the food out of your hands. Btw, if this is the way you think you really need therapy. Everyone knows hitting your child does more damage than a pop tart and watching a youtube video.

YIKES!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think my MIL gave her daughters and sons not eating disorders, but a lot of body baggage. Her children are *very* concerned about fitness and eating. This happened not because of her healthy eating but because of things like telling her children, repeatedly, "don't get fat" and criticizing people who were overweight. She even told me right after I had a C-section that she didn't have a baby bump like I did because she did abdominal exercises. She is great in so many ways, but this was one way was not a great parent.

TLDR I think you're doing fine OP!

OP here. This is sad. I will never call my kids overweight or make fun of overweight people. I have family members who are overweight. We don’t teach our kids to bully or make fun of anyone. We will teach them to be respectful to everyone ( though they need to be careful around certain groups).

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Anonymous wrote:come back when your kids are older and tell us about their tv habits/screens and eating. Right now, you have the control but, it won't last.

OP here. I have control until they’re 18. My house, my rules. I’m not a permissive parent who will let my unruly child ( clearly you do) rule my house.

Hysterical! Keep it coming preschool mommy!

I’m picturing her wrestling a bag of Takis out of her 15 year olds hands. This is good stuff!

OP here. That won’t happen. If my child ever tried to wrestle me, he would have a serious a** whopping coming to him by his dad. I don’t know what kind of thugs you raised but we will teach our kids respect in our house.

OP here. Let me guess. Your kids are those disrespectful thugs teens who were raised by social media with little to no respect or manners for anyone. Sounds about right if you think your kid wrestling you is funny or cute. They run your household and you junk it’s cute so they get away with their thug behavior because you think just teens being teens. Pathetic.

Pathetic is your level of trolling. Give it a rest.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:come back when your kids are older and tell us about their tv habits/screens and eating. Right now, you have the control but, it won't last.

OP here. I have control until they’re 18. My house, my rules. I’m not a permissive parent who will let my unruly child ( clearly you do) rule my house.

You asked a question. Am I going to create kids with eating disorders? Yes, you are because you have the "highway or my way attitude" And since when does eating a pop tart make you unruly? You can be very well behaved and eat one and be a terror and be vegan. Your kids are going to be at friends' houses and they are going to be 15/16 and will have an allowance and jobs perhaps. Then you can't control what they eat because they will lie to you.

And I love the insults on my kids. You don't know me or my kids ( who are older than yours) but, they are not unruly and I see them as their own people. I know plenty of kids who were controlled this tightly and when they got the 'forbidden' food rushed to eat it all because they never knew when they would get it next.

Remember you came here asking for advice. If you don't like it than don't ask.

OP here. I never said pop tarts make them unruly. I said letting your kids try to wrestle you or be disrespectful is unruly. I see way too many parents with disrespectful teens who excuse their behavior as “ teens will be teens” and “ it’s just their personality”.

I've never heard anyone say "teens will be teens" or its just their personality. If anything it is more when your kids are younger like yours where you make excuses "he needs a nap!" Yikes Yikes Yikes

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:come back when your kids are older and tell us about their tv habits/screens and eating. Right now, you have the control but, it won't last.

OP here. I have control until they’re 18. My house, my rules. I’m not a permissive parent who will let my unruly child ( clearly you do) rule my house.

Hysterical! Keep it coming preschool mommy!

I’m picturing her wrestling a bag of Takis out of her 15 year olds hands. This is good stuff!

OP here. That won’t happen. If my child ever tried to wrestle me, he would have a serious a** whopping coming to him by his dad. I don’t know what kind of thugs you raised but we will teach our kids respect in our house.

OP here. Let me guess. Your kids are those disrespectful thugs teens who were raised by social media with little to no respect or manners for anyone. Sounds about right if you think your kid wrestling you is funny or cute. They run your household and you junk it’s cute so they get away with their thug behavior because you think just teens being teens. Pathetic.

Pathetic is your level of trolling. Give it a rest.

I just asked Jeff to check. I will be utterly shocked if the OP is real.

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Anonymous wrote:come back when your kids are older and tell us about their tv habits/screens and eating. Right now, you have the control but, it won't last.

OP here. I have control until they’re 18. My house, my rules. I’m not a permissive parent who will let my unruly child ( clearly you do) rule my house.

Hysterical! Keep it coming preschool mommy!

I’m picturing her wrestling a bag of Takis out of her 15 year olds hands. This is good stuff!

OP here. That won’t happen. If my child ever tried to wrestle me, he would have a serious a** whopping coming to him by his dad. I don’t know what kind of thugs you raised but we will teach our kids respect in our house.

OP here. Let me guess. Your kids are those disrespectful thugs teens who were raised by social media with little to no respect or manners for anyone. Sounds about right if you think your kid wrestling you is funny or cute. They run your household and you junk it’s cute so they get away with their thug behavior because you think just teens being teens. Pathetic.

Wow! You believe a pop tart makes you into a thug? And yet you think beating your child is better for them? Beating your children does not make them respect you. You are more seriously going to f them up if you believe in corporal punishment.

The kids are just going to go to the store by themselves and buy their treats and consume it there. They won't need to wrestle the food out of your hands. Btw, if this is the way you think you really need therapy. Everyone knows hitting your child does more damage than a pop tart and watching a youtube video.

YIKES!

OP here. Stop lying. I never said a pop tart made them a thug. You’re fully making things up. I said wrestling your mother is thug behavior.

A good spanking is not “ beating your children”. Most kids these days need a good spanking. Maybe that’s why so many teens are thugs these days. Permissive parenting leads to delinquency of minors.

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OP from the bits of timeline you've provided here it seems like you didn't get to go to college because you were stuck "raising" your brother's kids so that his wife could go to college. So now maybe you're a bit insecure about your lack of formal education and masking for it by being the Absolute Authority Inside The House - not just that you set the rules but that you do it because it's absolutely best to follow your orders, you know right and wrong, and you will not bend. It's a bit sad to think about from this angle, but if your youngest is 3 you're about to have some free time on your hands to maybe take some online courses and pick a career. Once you have something else going on you won't be as unyielding with stuff that parents of older kids are trying to explain is actually really low on the importance totem pole, to the point you're threatening violence to an imaginary teen for eating a snack food.

You're still a good parent if your kids get some refined sugar here and there. You're not a good parent if you're bragging about your husband beating your kids. That's where you've got it backwards.

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Anonymous wrote:come back when your kids are older and tell us about their tv habits/screens and eating. Right now, you have the control but, it won't last.

OP here. I have control until they’re 18. My house, my rules. I’m not a permissive parent who will let my unruly child ( clearly you do) rule my house.

Hysterical! Keep it coming preschool mommy!

I’m picturing her wrestling a bag of Takis out of her 15 year olds hands. This is good stuff!

OP here. That won’t happen. If my child ever tried to wrestle me, he would have a serious a** whopping coming to him by his dad. I don’t know what kind of thugs you raised but we will teach our kids respect in our house.

OP here. Let me guess. Your kids are those disrespectful thugs teens who were raised by social media with little to no respect or manners for anyone. Sounds about right if you think your kid wrestling you is funny or cute. They run your household and you junk it’s cute so they get away with their thug behavior because you think just teens being teens. Pathetic.

Pathetic is your level of trolling. Give it a rest.

OP here. I’m not a troll. I’m not a sucker who will let my kids punk me like you do.